Originally Posted by jeninejessica
I'm comfortable with the idea of using a midwife for our first, but also comfortable not using one. I feel like for now, it's a good compromise for us.
OK, I'm glad you're OK with it too. I never was, but hubby and my communication is just so difficult and always has been, and as soon as I got pg I found it impossible to do the work that our communication requires. We were also brand newly married. Ultimately, after what happened and the long lasting fall out from that, it turns out that when I originally told him of my lifelong dream (have baby ALONE in a cabin in the woods with wolves/coyotes howling in the distance), he thought it was a joke. The howling part is what got him, he thought I was being silly. Why I don't know, it was a serious get to know you before anyone falls for each other conversation, everything else was dead serious, but that's what he thought, that I was joking. He also was afraid of UC because he thought that he
would be "in charge", that I would be treating HIM like he was a midwife. He didn't get that it was going to be ME in charge of it all, and he was just the person I called if I couldn't get up or something. Whole lotta misperceptions on his part, and I didn't know enough about the problem to ask the right questions.
Anyway, didn't mean to take the thread off course!