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post #21 of 27
i think it is so cute how the boy phrased his question. "a brown husband." in 2 aspects: like he is figuring out mixing paint so he knows abt white and brown, and also that you married a brown husband not a brown man. that is just to cute to me.


(i've also been asked by adults in round abt ways abt my dd and dh has only one granfather from turkey, my dd seems to be all eastern in her looks though, kids are another story though.)
post #22 of 27
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Originally Posted by Minerva View Post
We get the same thing a lot. They look at me (or my husband, if she's with him) and want to know where the very blonde olive-skinned kid came from. Well, both our mothers are very blonde light-skinned women, and both our fathers have darker skin, so it's funny which genes she caught.


I don't worry about it if it's a kid asking. They just want to figure things out.
he sounds like a nice boy just trying to figure out who goes with who. kwim?

My dad is married to a lady who is Zuni and Navajo and my brother and sister are about 18 years younger than me. so we took those two who were like 5 and 6 and my 2 very pale freckled blondies who were 3 and 5 and my nephew who is Hispanic but very dark curly haired and often asked if he is African American to walmart and I happened to be pregnant. These two old ladies behind us were dying of curiousity and one of them said to the other "oh the poor thing is pregnant again" when I turned around and she remarked that my sister looked just like her mama pointing to me and I said 'I'll be sure to tell her when I see her."

They were quite puzzled by that one.

I don't mind kids asking questions but prejudiced old ladies really get me going. why do they assume I have 3 different baby-daddies? And really don't I have enough issues shopping with 5 kids pregnant? wouldn't you love to just get your milk and diapers in peace? LOL

When dd was a baby and we lived on the reservation all the kids in town wanted to pat her bald lil head and know "what happened to all her hair did it fall out?" I just laughed and said she hadn't grown any yet. And they laughed too.
post #23 of 27
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Originally Posted by Labbemama View Post

When dd was a baby and we lived on the reservation all the kids in town wanted to pat her bald lil head and know "what happened to all her hair did it fall out?" I just laughed and said she hadn't grown any yet. And they laughed too.
That is so funny...and cute!
post #24 of 27
I think it's great that you kept it short and sweet. It sounds like curiosity to me and although the neighbourhood may be diverse, perhaps the idea of mixed families is still something that a kid has to figure out?

I think you did great, sometimes in situations like these I think a short, sweet, positive approach is best.
post #25 of 27
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Originally Posted by Labbemama View Post
I don't mind kids asking questions but prejudiced old ladies really get me going. why do they assume I have 3 different baby-daddies? And really don't I have enough issues shopping with 5 kids pregnant? wouldn't you love to just get your milk and diapers in peace? LOL
I think people can be prejudiced against large families in general. My sis was out at a cafe with her 4 children and a group of people, probably on a lunch break from a local office, were making negative comments about her family size. My sister looked at them, pointed to her children, and said, "Which one of them would you like me to put back?" That shut them up!
post #26 of 27
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Originally Posted by gilamama View Post
i think it is so cute how the boy phrased his question. "a brown husband." in 2 aspects: like he is figuring out mixing paint so he knows abt white and brown, and also that you married a brown husband not a brown man. that is just to cute to me.
I'm reminded of when I was a child. My very best friend and her sister and brother-their mom was black and their dad was white.

When I first met them, I must have been about 7 years old, and I was baffled. I didn't ask them questions though, I did plow into my mom for answers.

I don't ever remember it being anything racial, I was just pretty much astonished with the whole color mixing thing, they were lighter than their mother and darker than their father. And that quote above is exactly how my brain worked back then. I thought of paint mixing. In my mind, when you mix a darker color with a lighter color, you get something in betweenish, and this is where my mind frame was at that age. My thoughts were all about the colors mixing and absolutely nothing of racial stuff. If that makes any sense. At 7, I was remember being absolutely amazed that you could mix people colors. The possibility had never occurred to me until I met them. Hard to explain how my mind worked back then. Then I remember observing their hair. Their hair was looser curled than their mom's but curlier than their dad's. It was like I was perplexed and amazed at how they were perfect variations of "in between" between their mom's features and their dad's features.

Pretty soon, though, the middle girl and myself became best friends and it these things became the furthest things from my mind as we grew together and played together and became preteens and teens together, giggled about boys together, etc. I miss her so bad. :
post #27 of 27
My just-turned-8yo dd has been trying to figure out the whole race/color of skin issue lately. I think she'd be too shy to ask a question of a stranger the way the boy in the park did, but she'd certainly ask me later. She's been asking me questions like: "Why is skin my color called white? It doesn't look very white to me, what color would you call it? Why are some people called black? There are lots of different colors of skin but it's more like lots of different colors of brown. Why? Why does A. have darker skin like her dad and not lighter skin like her mom?" Etc. Just trying to figure out how it all works.
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