Originally Posted by sulrossdixie
for those of you that have done it multiple times, how did you decide to have more children after how traumatic the pregnancies are? I feel like I have PTSD from my pregnancy with DD (she's 17 months now and I was just so miserable the entire pregnancy, back and forth to the ER etc, etc, I thought I was going to go off the deep end and felt like the worst mom on the planet to poor DS, who's 3.5 now). Also, I'm really scared of the depression and anxiety cycle that the Hg (and hormones) caused during pregnancy.
are there supplements that I can take beforehand to 'build up' stores of b-vitamins or something that will even help (with the Hg or the depression/anxiety)?
I preface this by saying that I am very blessed to have 100% insurance and rx coverage. I know that this would be impossible without it.
I chose to have more children so my HG wouldnt win. I refused to let it. I respond well to bullheaded challenges like that (not a good thing most of the time...
) so it worked for me. However, like Talula, I was never as sick in my subsequent pregnancies as in my first. Now I treat it before I get it. With my first I had NO idea what was going on, my Dr's were dismissing me as being overdramatic and silly. It took til 10 weeks, 23 lbs and presenting to the ER vomiting bloody mucus that they took me seriously. I had early kidney failure, spent 1 month admitted and another 4 months on bedrest with a PICC line and a EKG monitor because my heart suffered permanent damage due to the stress.
Obviously, that was something I didnt really want again. So, when I did IVF for my next pregnancy, I started on zofran. At 4 weeks pregnant. It still hit badly, I still had HG. But nothing, nothing like the first time. I was regularly getting IV rehydration, I was admitted overnight a couple of times, but I made it. I ate out, and I watched TV and I could listen to things (a lot of my triggers in my first pregnancy were sounds and colors).
I know this sounds unbelievable, but I dont think I even had HG in my third pregnancy. I had bad NVP, but not HG. My fourth pregnancy was as bad as the second, but still not as bad as the first. I am 6 weeks now and once again have been preparing for the onslaught for a few weeks. I threw up for my first time this morning.
Please dont take my "I wouldn't let it win" line as a judgment or an accusation that someone who chooses not to have anymore IS letting it win. And there were times during my first pregnancy where I not only didnt want anymore children, but I didnt want the one I was pregnant with. In fact, I didn't really want to live anymore. But as the years went by it just turned from a fear to an anger.
I really do wish you all the best of luck.