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post #21 of 34
8/20/08 at 4:49pm
That sounds like a case of sexual harassment to me. I've also seen posts on other sites where people who are anti-NIP have a strategy of deliberately making women who NIP uncomfortable - it may have been what he was doing. Or he's just a clueless guy (not unlike my DH) who says things as a joke and realizes later that it was NOT funny. Still, what he said to you was clearly inappropriate and I definitely think his superiors should know about it.

What was your reaction when he said that? I mean other than ?

I'm really sorry you went through that, keep us updated.

Lizette
post #22 of 34
8/20/08 at 8:24pm
Uhhh, umm, weirdorama! I'd call the manager, absolutely. Sex talk isn't in a waiter's job description, unless he's a Chippendale.
post #23 of 34
8/20/08 at 8:33pm
Another vote for calling the manager.

And as a side note...for goodness' sake. Breastfeeding is so often seen as either disgusting or boner-inducing. It's so silly and extreme.
post #24 of 34
8/20/08 at 9:43pm
Holy crap, mama! That is most definitely sexual harassment. It was unwanted sexual attention that made you uncomfortable. I think I would have let DH have his way with the guy. You should let management know. It could be that he's just clueless and has no idea what's appropriate and what's not. OR he could habitually do this to women and it needs to be brought to attention. There could quite possibly be some female coworkers of his who would like to shake your hand should he get fired.
post #25 of 34
8/20/08 at 10:45pm
I can't believe he said that to you and I can't believe that you didn't let your husband tell him off while you were there.
post #26 of 34
8/21/08 at 1:28am
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Originally Posted by MotherWillow View Post
Do you think a letter or a phone call to the manager are in order? I'm still just shocked that the waiter had the nerve to say that to me.
Yes! A letter and a phone call, perhaps!

I would expect that sexually harrassing the customers is frowned upon.

Sorry you experienced that - how rude!
post #27 of 34
8/21/08 at 11:21am
I would definatly try just calling the manager up and seeing if they could get it resolved.. and then if that didn't work I would start writing letters. I would be VERY freaked out if that happend to me. I think I would even be disturbed. It definatly needs to be brought to the managements attention.

post #28 of 34
8/21/08 at 12:01pm
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Do you think a letter or a phone call to the manager are in order? I'm still just shocked that the waiter had the nerve to say that to me.
Hell, yeah! I would have his job.
post #29 of 34
8/21/08 at 4:26pm
What a creep-a-saurus rex!
I mean, I know a lot of couples use breastmilk in foreplay and that's fine and dandy but I don't think it's appropriate to approach a nursing customer AT WORK and discuss your sexual fantasies with them. I'd definitely write a letter to management.
post #30 of 34
8/21/08 at 5:04pm
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Originally Posted by aaronsmom View Post
What a creep-a-saurus rex!
I mean, I know a lot of couples use breastmilk in foreplay and that's fine and dandy but I don't think it's appropriate to approach a nursing customer AT WORK and discuss your sexual fantasies with them. I'd definitely write a letter to management.
It's not appropriate to EVER discuss sex with a customer. Unless you work in the sex industry. And even then, it's iffy.

i.e. if she had been bottle feeding, and he had siddled up next to her to tell her that he enjoys wearing a diaper and being bottle fed by his girlfriend, that would be innappropriate. Had she been sitting there reading the menu and he had come over to tell her he liked having his toes sucked/being dipped in lime jello/having things put in places that things don't normally go - all those would have been innappropriate.

This definitely warrants a complaint to management, and not just on the basis of her nursing.
post #31 of 34
8/22/08 at 1:42am
MG that is INSANE! I can not believe someone would say that and in front of your kiddos? Did he seem like he was kidding possibly? Not that it matters, inappropriate no matter what. I would call and demand some sort of something be done.
post #32 of 34
8/22/08 at 9:09am
Any news?

(I am still in shock that he would even think it was OK to say that!)
post #33 of 34
8/25/08 at 6:35pm


I heartily agree with others.. that is sexual harassment and I would definitely be speaking to a manager in very strong terms about how offensive and creepy the situation was. The way he sat next to you in the booth and effectively cornered you makes it seem almost predatory. A stranger sitting down right next to me in that kind of situation while I was nursing would be enough to bother me.. not to mention what he said... Ick!
post #34 of 34
8/27/08 at 12:21pm
Any updates?

Angela <><
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