I'm sorry if you felt attacked! It's just that many of us who connect with styles like UP, AP, unschooling, and so on, often hear others saying things like, "You should just do what works for your family and not worry about the 'label'" -- as if anyone who's brainstorming about how to better apply the principles they've been learning is just trying to "fit in" to some particular style.
I see now that you're not saying that, you're just talking about your family.
I find it hard to get my thoughts down in text as they are in my head. It's frustrating that sometimes people take from my replies something that I did not intend, imply, believe in, agree with, etc.
I guess that is one of the hazards of this kind of communication. Thanks for understanding.