Usually I'm fairly private with my kid's non-vax status...not because I'm *ashamed* of my choice, but mostly because I truly don't feel that my kids medical information is anyone's business but mine and my DH's.
Well earlier this summer I had a malfunction of my brain to mouth filter and let it slip to my aunt that we do not vaccinate. She IMMEDIATELY jumps me about this asking if we're going to do school, I say "Well, we're homeschooling, but if we choose to do public school in the future I can get an exemption for the vaccines." (Again, dang that brain to mouth filter!!!). And she makes the comment about putting people at risk and thankfully her kids are older and will not be in school with mine...and if she had kids my age she would be VERY upset to know about their non-vax status (funny my son is 3 years old and has always been non-vaxed but it's just NOW an issue...it's not like drs tattoo "Disease Spreader" on my kids foreheads when I decline vaccines)
Anyway, I pretty much ignored her...as I usually do, she's my uncle's wife. She's a UA Violation and always has been so I just ignore her typically.
Well my grandma calls today to let me know there is going to be a cook out/hay ride deal at my other uncle's farm on Labor Day. Cool...all over it.
Well then she says "Aunt L called...and she's honestly not comfortable with the kids being around Uncle B** (her dh) because they don't have their immunizations...Maybe you should look at getting some of the immunizations."
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I say "I will not vaccinate my kids because Aunt L is being weird about it. My kids aren't sick so it's not like they're going to give Uncle B mumps just because J hasn't been vaccinated for it."
And she says "Well, I'm just letting you know that Aunt L is pretty upset."
I say "Fine, whatever...I guess if Aunt L doesn't want me to come out to Uncle R and Aunt K's house because of the kids we just won't come."
My Gma says that's not necessary...
I don't know WHAT is going to happen at Thanksgiving/Christmas this year...if I'll have to hear it again about the kids vax status and stuff...Especially Christmas because Christmas is always at Uncle B and Aunt L's house.
**Uncle B is a paraplegic so I can *sort* of understand my aunt wanting to be more careful with his health but this is just silly.
Aunt L and I already went round and round like 2 years or so ago because Uncle B requested I not bf in front of his DS
and I posted on my myspace blog that my fam was pissing me off and said "They screwed up their kids their way, it's my turn to screw up my kids my way." This is my usual phrase, I don't mean they 'screwed up' their kids it's just something I've always said...I say to to my mom, my dad, my grandparents, friends, etc...my way of saying "You parent your way, I'll parent mine"
*sigh* Not really seeking advice I guess, just venting...
I'm not going to the Labor day deal, even though my son would LOVE the hay ride And riding the 4 wheeler and playing with his cousins...I just don't want to deal with Aunt L jumping me about vaccines...And I don't want to push my Gma into an early grave with stressing over Aunt L and I fighting, my Gma is 70 years old and in poor health...
Well earlier this summer I had a malfunction of my brain to mouth filter and let it slip to my aunt that we do not vaccinate. She IMMEDIATELY jumps me about this asking if we're going to do school, I say "Well, we're homeschooling, but if we choose to do public school in the future I can get an exemption for the vaccines." (Again, dang that brain to mouth filter!!!). And she makes the comment about putting people at risk and thankfully her kids are older and will not be in school with mine...and if she had kids my age she would be VERY upset to know about their non-vax status (funny my son is 3 years old and has always been non-vaxed but it's just NOW an issue...it's not like drs tattoo "Disease Spreader" on my kids foreheads when I decline vaccines)
Anyway, I pretty much ignored her...as I usually do, she's my uncle's wife. She's a UA Violation and always has been so I just ignore her typically.
Well my grandma calls today to let me know there is going to be a cook out/hay ride deal at my other uncle's farm on Labor Day. Cool...all over it.
Well then she says "Aunt L called...and she's honestly not comfortable with the kids being around Uncle B** (her dh) because they don't have their immunizations...Maybe you should look at getting some of the immunizations."
:::I say "I will not vaccinate my kids because Aunt L is being weird about it. My kids aren't sick so it's not like they're going to give Uncle B mumps just because J hasn't been vaccinated for it."
And she says "Well, I'm just letting you know that Aunt L is pretty upset."
I say "Fine, whatever...I guess if Aunt L doesn't want me to come out to Uncle R and Aunt K's house because of the kids we just won't come."
My Gma says that's not necessary...
I don't know WHAT is going to happen at Thanksgiving/Christmas this year...if I'll have to hear it again about the kids vax status and stuff...Especially Christmas because Christmas is always at Uncle B and Aunt L's house.
**Uncle B is a paraplegic so I can *sort* of understand my aunt wanting to be more careful with his health but this is just silly.
Aunt L and I already went round and round like 2 years or so ago because Uncle B requested I not bf in front of his DS
and I posted on my myspace blog that my fam was pissing me off and said "They screwed up their kids their way, it's my turn to screw up my kids my way." This is my usual phrase, I don't mean they 'screwed up' their kids it's just something I've always said...I say to to my mom, my dad, my grandparents, friends, etc...my way of saying "You parent your way, I'll parent mine"*sigh* Not really seeking advice I guess, just venting...
I'm not going to the Labor day deal, even though my son would LOVE the hay ride
And riding the 4 wheeler and playing with his cousins...I just don't want to deal with Aunt L jumping me about vaccines...And I don't want to push my Gma into an early grave with stressing over Aunt L and I fighting, my Gma is 70 years old and in poor health...
I know how you feel. I just recently decided to not go around my dh's step-mother because of her freaking out about vaccines, among other things (like me breastfeeding infront of her). She sent DH a very long message and was VERY rude in it. So yeah, I know where you are coming from.
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