Originally Posted by dadinblue
I, for one, would like to see a dad-specific place, where the gender of your sign-in (log-in) allows your posting rights to the forum. If your gender, as recorded in your log-in (user CP) is female, you can read the dad's forum, but not post in it.
There are a dozen other forums to post about and reply to specific issues, but the ONE place that dads have to for-sure (try to) get another dad's input is this forum. And 9.9 times out of 10, that topic gets trampled by mums. In fairness, they sometimes try and impart what their husband does/says/feels about the issue. But that's not the point.
If you want to increase the profile of the site, foster more active participation from men and let us have a dad's/fathering zone where men can stop in and discuss with other men, then you have to figure out how to keep the threads from being trampled by non-men.
As for the name? It doesn't matter. A name is a name and it's what's inside that counts.
I agree with the sentiment of this post, but not the mechanism suggested. I feel that the scope of this forum (the dads one) is needlessly limited and it is not a coincidence that there is very little activity here. And then when there is activity, there's a dogpile from mothers when dads speak up. mothering.com is the best place by far on the web for discussing parenting issues that I've found, and it would be great if we could get some more male voices heard.
It's amusing to me that the only place that talks specifically about Dads is a subforum. Gifted Kids is a top level forum, but Dads are all the way down here... The Working "Parents" forum has a description that says it is explicitly for Mamas. Etc etc.
OTOH, I haven't had any problem posting in threads and being called out for being male. It would just be nice if the site was a little more inclusive towards Dads.
Regarding the name: fathering is not a synonym for mothering, at least in its most common use. It means that your DNA helped make the baby, not that you have anything to do with parenting. I just find the proposed name change very problematic.
Edit-Also, I wish it was a public poll so we could verify that it was Dads answering the poll. I'm frankly amazed that there are 13 dudes that responded.