I've been thinking about my previous post a lot since I first put it up. I said that I find it suspicious when people ask me if twins run in the family, and usually people don't listen to my response, or respond to it. And so I feel like they do want to know..... and I had judgement on that, but I guess it could be someone w/fertility challenges hoping to open a discussion, or most likely, the comment that most people make as soon as they hear it's twins, in a knee-jerk reaction, because that is what they have heard. I usually try to believe the best case scenario, which typically is that people just want to connect, and engage, and sometimes we don't know that something comes off as nosy or rude. I just thought that since my twins were spontaneous, and I was annoyed, that those w/IVF would also be annoyed. But really, like another poster said, I love it when people share that they always wanted twins, or some cute sandwich guy (who looks way too young to even be thinking about starting a family) says something like "that's great!" so genuinely, that you really appreciate how special it is to be carrying twins.
As far as the "natural" twins (language piece) goes, I think that the only time it is appropriate to say "natural" would be in discussion w/a care provider who argues that a twin pregnancy is not "natural", (but my body did this!!!) and hence, could help in an argument.
Overall, we are really lucky, tired, stressed out, blessed mamas, and man, can I appreciate the fluke of ending up w/twins, no matter how they came to be. I don't know what the journey of infertility is like, but I'm sending love and extra blessings out to those mamas who journeyed through infertility to be here on this board. Being a mother is so special to me (I say this through tears, with my twins handed off to my DH in utter frustration a minute ago as they wouldn't stop fussing ALL DAY LONG!!!!) Well, it wouldn't be so special if it was always so easy, right?
Oh yeah, and a confession here: I was one of those who would ask if the twins were identical, even when they were a girl and a boy (unclear on the concept of identical