I'm really glad we have this tribe because I need to vent and I know you mamas will understand.
We have been doing the Feingold program for about 6 months. I talked to my kids' school about it and told them that they can have any fruit or vegi offered but other than that only stuff I send from home. At the school they give out "treats" for rewards so I sent up some approved treats that they can give my kids when the other kids are give the crap stuff. The teachers have been really good about making sure they don't eat the none approved stuff. This year the school district made a new rule that candie and junk food could not be given out anymore unless it's a birthday party or holiday party. Today my kids came home really upset and crying because the teachers aide brought stuff to make snowcones and told my kids they couldn't have any because there was dye in the juice. So my 2 kids had to sit and watch all the others kids eat snowcones.::. FIRST why are they feeding CRAP to all the kids and SECOND if the aide knew she was bringing snowcones in that my kids could not have why did she not call me yesterday and say "hey, we're having snowcones, could you send up some juice for your kids."
My kids are so mad at me. They want to know why I'm making them be different from everyone else. I've given them all the reasons they understand why we are doing this. They even have tried to tell the other kids that the stuff they are eating is bad for them. But that doesn't mean a whole lot when you are sitting and watch everyone else in the class eat a snowcone or cupcake and you can't have it.
I'm thinking of telling the teacher that for the special times like birthdays and parties to let them have what everyone else is having but for the day to day stuff they have to stick to the diet.
I don't want to call and cause problems because I really like the school and the teachers. It's just this one thing I have issues with.
I would highly recommend not allowing them whatever the school is offering that one time. At least in our experience, when our children have something containing dyes/flavors/preservatives, it can take up to 30 days to flush it from their system. And for those 30 days, their behavior can be horrendous. (They are the same if they get some gluten also.) I just would rather take the upset at the moment children over kids trying to process dyes/flavors/preservatives for the next month.