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Did I overreact?

post #1 of 76
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I decided to take the kiddos to the park, alone. I found this REALLY cute park, mainly geared at younger children, really small much like this only a wee bit smaller. It's off the beaten trail on a little back street with little to no traffic. I saw MAYBE 4 cars go by the whole time I was there.

Anyway, we had been there about 45 minutes, James was having a BLAST when I notice a car parked behind my van (street parking only) I brush it off. Time goes on and I notice the car is STILL sitting there. Not running, 1 adult inside just sitting there. So I kind of watch for a bit and still she just sits there...I kind of got a funny feeling about it, but brushed it off. The feeling kept nagging and nagging at me until I finally packed the kids up and left.

Did I overreact by leaving?

I'm in a VERY small town, but like I said, this part of town is fairly deserted in the middle of the day, no car traffic, no sidewalks so no feet traffic, no people out in their yards (middle of the day, most people are at work).

James is VERY upset at me for leaving, so we'll be headed back here in a couple hours, but the whole car sitting there doing nothing freaked me out. :

Honestly?? What would you have done?
post #2 of 76
Your instincts are there for a reason. If you think something is off/wrong, then there's a good chance it is. IMO, it wouldn't have been smart to stay in an isolated place where you weren't comfortable. Always, always listen to your instincts.
post #3 of 76
Originally Posted by grniys View Post
Your instincts are there for a reason. If you think something is off/wrong, then there's a good chance it is. IMO, it wouldn't have been smart to stay in an isolated place where you weren't comfortable. Always, always listen to your instincts.
good job momma!
post #4 of 76
I've had similar moments and while in most cases it's probably someone else who wanted some time "off the beaten track" in a small town, it's NEVER wrong to follow your instincts. Perhaps she was on her lunch hour and just needed a moment alone. Then again, perhaps not.

I've noticed since having DS, I am much more aware of our surroundings and I probably tend to be more "vigilant" about moments such as these. I follow my instincts rather than fight them. All could have been fine, but what does it hurt to err on the side of caution, ya know?

I LOVE those out of the way (ALONE) moments out and about. I tend to look for them (particularly when DS was younger and preferred it this way).

The best to you, mama.

post #5 of 76
Better safe than sorry and always follow your instincts. Have you read 'Protecting The Gift' .. if not, I highly recommend it.

I often like to park my car in a deserted place to eat lunch or kill a little time before picking ds up from school. That might have been all it was, but if you felt funny, you totally did the right thing.
post #6 of 76
Well my take on it is that you probably did "overreact" but since there's really no harm to just leaving (it's not like you called in a swat team on this woman for sitting in her car) then what does it matter?

I don't mean to second guess your reaction since obviously I wasn't there to see the whole picture but I guess I don't see what's so creepy about a woman just sitting in her car. Maybe if she was snapping photos or staring oddly or something. But just sitting there? Do whatever makes you feel comfortable but I don't get the feeling from the description that she was up to anything sinister.
post #7 of 76
I agree with whalemilk -- no harm (other than annoyed kiddo) in leaving, but I've certainly parked next to a park to eat lunch or kill time between appointments, so someone just sitting in their car wouldn't necessarily bother me.
post #8 of 76
For me, if I feel something is wrong, I am usually right! I also instruct my dds the same, if you feel like something is wrong, you are right.
So no, you didnt- esp since you just got up and left. ITs not like a pp said- you didnt call the swat team or anything. ITs always better to err on the side of cautin and better to be safe than sorry.

Hopefully that was the last you saw of it anyhow and enjoy the park when you go back.
post #9 of 76
It's always good to listen to your instincts.
post #10 of 76
If I feel creepy I leave. What I am trying to prove by staying? Especially in an out of the way place. Nah, it could have been nothing, but what if it was? I vote that you didn't over-react. I think it was prudent.
post #11 of 76
It was probably nothing to worry about but it's always better to err on the side of caution when it comes to things like this!
post #12 of 76
na you dident over react
post #13 of 76
Thread Starter 
DH said that the hospital (which is just a little ways away) is 100% smoke free, you can't smoke in your car on the hospital property so it was more than likely a hospital worker on a smoke break. But o'well. Still freaked me out.
post #14 of 76
It might have been nothing, but I agree it is usually a good idea to follow your instincts. I know I try to.
post #15 of 76
I'd say trust your instincts, but I'll also offer this up for consideration. I have several friends who work in IT and end up with time on their hands between appointments, so they'll find an out-of-the-way place to park and chill for a while during the day.

I've also found myself with two napping kiddos and time to kill before an appointment, so I'll look for a place to park off the main road (quieter) near a park (in case they wake up) and will sometimes spend a couple hours just sitting there enjoying the quiet. If I can find another parent's car to park near, I will, especially if I'm not familiar with the area. It feels a little safer sometimes.
post #16 of 76
I don't think you overreacted. There's nothing wrong with leaving if you feel uncomfortable. The woman may have been completely harmless and innocent, but why take the chance? It's not worth the risk, and I'm a big believer in listening to your gut, especially when it involves your children. We have instincts for a reason. So maybe there was a reason you really did need to get out of there.
post #17 of 76
When I worked, I used to drive to a park and eat my lunch in my car while reading or listening to the radio. I also would occasionally glance at the happy kids playing because children are fun to watch and so full of joy. I still enjoy watching them.
post #18 of 76
I agree that your instincts are there for a reason, glad you used them
post #19 of 76
I think you over reacted.

I don't understand the concern. A woman was sitting in her car. She wasn't in the park, wasn't interacting with you in any way. I'm not understanding where the fear was coming from. Like pp mentioned, she was probably on her lunch break, just taking a quiet half-hour or so alone.

Now, if it had been a man in the car staring at you, if he had been looking at your kids with binoculars, that sort of thing, I can see getting creeped out. But this? Have we become so afraid of each other that we have to leave a public place because another person is there? Doing nothing? I would have stayed.
post #20 of 76
It was probably no big deal - she might have been having lunch, or planning to meet someone there for lunch or to carpool - but it's no big deal to leave and it's best to trust your instincts. And, as you plan to do, you can always go back.
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