Lactivism and perceived "pushiness" "guilting" etc - Page 2

[sonrisaa29]

Originally Posted by FREEmom1120

I think if you take time to develop a real relationship with people, listen to their stories and where they are coming from (hopes, fears, etc), then you will be able to say what you need to say in a way that will not make you sound pushy or guilting.

I think sometimes we're so focused on getting the information out that we forget that an emotional (not just physical) person is going to be receiving the information.

Think about how you respond when people communicate anything to you. Are there styles of communication you don't respond to? Methods of speaking you tune out? etc.

You're awesome for wanting to help your friends.

As someone who had to use formula this is proably the most important piece of advice I could give someone.

[Swan3]

Originally Posted by FREEmom1120

I think if you take time to develop a real relationship with people, listen to their stories and where they are coming from (hopes, fears, etc), then you will be able to say what you need to say in a way that will not make you sound pushy or guilting.

I think sometimes we're so focused on getting the information out that we forget that an emotional (not just physical) person is going to be receiving the information.

Think about how you respond when people communicate anything to you. Are there styles of communication you don't respond to? Methods of speaking you tune out? etc.

You're awesome for wanting to help your friends.

This is really helpful, thanks!!! I think that I am doing this with some of my friends, I've decided with the ones who are a little more distant I may just suggest the Dr Sears book along with asking them how they're doing.

With so many preggo women I know talking about how pressured they feel already to BF and being turned off by the "pushy" "pro-BF" people - I feel like I need to be really sensitive and positive.