Help Asap!

[elvenpath]

My mom's friend's baby was taken today by DSS. Now she only had her 5 days ago. She was breastfeeding her exclusively. What can be done? It's in SC.

I am heartbroken for her.

[PatioGardener]

Pumping will help to keep up mom's supply, and milk can go to the baby until mom gets her/him back or gets access to breastfeed? Sorry that's all I can suggest that may be helpful. (I'm in Canada, so I don't know how the system works.)

[Rev1053]

Pump pump and pump.

I would request for frequent visitation to continue to establish a nursing relationship.

[Jaysfamily]

She needs to pump around the clock, and get a really good attorney asap.

[elvenpath]

Okay, I gave my mom the number of the local LLL and I told her to give her friend my number in case she needed any help. I really hope that DSS doesn't screw up her bonding. The infant is only 5 days old for pete's sake and they took her away for illigitimate reasons.

[Jaysfamily]

Just curious...I understand if you don't feel comfortable saying, but why did they take her away?

[Rev1053]

I wish her the best of luck.

[elvenpath]

I'd rather not say but I can assure you that it was very bogus. I have no doubt she'll be getting the baby back but I just can't see her breastfeeding relationship be destroyed over this.

[annie_noah]

I agree that she should pump. She should use a quality double electric pump. If she doesn't have one, she can rent one. She should be pumping for about 20 minutes every 3 hours around the clock. Arrangements should be made to get the milk to the baby as often as possible.

She should also do everything she can to obtain access to her baby to breastfeed as often as possible so that the baby doesn't forget how to nurse.

Since you aren't comfortable saying why the baby was taken away, I'll add this caveat, just in case. The recommendations above are assuming that the baby wasn't taken away due to any dangerous substance that she might have been consuming. If that was the case she should certainly still pump to keep her supply up, but should consult with a medical professional to find out how long it would take for whatever it is to clear out of her system before starting to breastfeed again or before giving any of the pumped milk to her baby.

[Swan3]

Originally Posted by elvenpath

My mom's friend's baby was taken today by DSS. Now she only had her 5 days ago. She was breastfeeding her exclusively. What can be done? It's in SC.

I am heartbroken for her.

Please keep us updated, this woman and her babe are in my prayers. Please let her know that. I'm sending her some hugs too!

[smanore]

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Is there any possibility a family member could take the child while she works this out? In my state you can do that. That way she could nurse the baby more frequently -but she couldn't live or spend the night there. Again, she should NOT do this if there's the slightest hint that she was abusing drugs (legal or illegal ones) -even if she isn't currently using. My reason for saying that is they may fear she's harming her baby. But she could certainly pump and freeze, as others have said here. Hugs, Sue

[homewithtwinsmama]

Originally Posted by elvenpath

Okay, I gave my mom the number of the local LLL and I told her to give her friend my number in case she needed any help. I really hope that DSS doesn't screw up her bonding. The infant is only 5 days old for pete's sake and they took her away for illigitimate reasons.

LLL won't do a damn thing. She needs a women's rights attorney and NOW!

[smanore]

Originally Posted by homewithtwinsmama

LLL won't do a damn thing. She needs a women's rights attorney and NOW!

I don't think it's so much that LLL won't do anything, as much as there isn't much they can do. I'm sure a local LLL Leader would provide support and information to the mother. Plus, they may be able to direct her to a good attorney. Sue