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Was it everything you thought it would be?

post #1 of 25
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Not just for the first timers but even with 2nd and up-timers- was the pregnancy, labour/delivery, and first weeks with baby what you expected it to be? What were your expectations? How did they differ from actual?

For me, this pregnancy, labour and delivery were a LOT more difficult than I anticipated. I was more sick and achy during pg (you kinda just go by what last pgs were like so that was my same expectation). Labour and delivery was misleading because being a 3rd baby I thought quicker and earlier but ended up with the dreaded "wild card" birth.
On the plus side, adding a 3rd baby to the mix in these first few weeks has been far easier than I ever thought. He just fits in naturally and sleeps and nurses like a champ so I am not left like a zombie with sore nipples! LOL
It was so worth all the unexpected woes of pg and delivery.
post #2 of 25
Pregnancy was very easy- I expected (hoped for!) that because my first was easy too.

Labor and delivery went just as expected. It was wonderful. I loved having a homebirth and everything could not have gone better.

Having two under 2 has been challenging, but not quite as hard as I expected. I think I prepared myself for the worst and while there are hairy moments it's not that bad, in fact I feel so blessed to have both of them everyday. Henry is turning out to be an easy baby- great nurser from day 1, good sleeper, etc. After the "adjustment period" Maya is doing great with him too.

I thought postpartum would be worse. I had PPD with #1 and this time around I did not. Maybe the placenta helped!
post #3 of 25
Pregnancy was harder than I expected but mostly towards the end.

Labor was what I expected, but the delivery was WAY worse than I expected but I also didn't expect a little over 10lb. baby with a almost 15" head!

The first weeks have been trying with having 3 kids under 4 yrs. old. Plus ds has been a REALLY fussy baby....but he nurses great and I think sleeps as well as I could expect a newborn to. The girls adjusted pretty well though!
post #4 of 25
Pregnancy was everything I expected from previous experience - very easy.

We planned a home birth but ended up with a 20-minute long hospital birth (I waited till transition to go to hospital) with only a midwife, birthing in a squatting position.. beautiful, powerful experience I hoped for (I had a traumatic first experience). We were sooo lucky that we ran into a midwife who believed in natural birth without any interventions.

Breastfeeding wasn't that easy as I expected it to be. We were hospitalized on Kai's third day because he ran a high fever and was dehydrated. They didn't let me nurse him for 24 hours but fed him formula and I couldn't express more than 1/2 oz of milk at a time. I had to supplement formula because of low milk supply and my inability to pump enough breast milk. I was devastated but didn't give up... we are in the process of relactation and only weeks (maybe days) away of breastfeeding exclusively.
post #5 of 25
pregnancy was a much bigger pita than I expected--bedrest for 12 weeks!!

labor and delivery went just as I had hoped.

PP has been..well, I have PPD so it's been rough
post #6 of 25
Pregnancy went perfect, although I worried so so much

Labor was fantastic. The pushing part actually felt really good. I mean really good

Baby is wonderful. Really sweet. Started smiling at 1 week and has been ever since. I'm loving having a girl this time around.

unexpected, the strange feeling of knowing our family is complete, and I'm done having babies.
post #7 of 25
Yes .

Well, apart from spending the first tri of the pregnancy with a high risk Dr. due to 3 previous miscarriages, after that, and I switched back to the midwives, the rest was great.

The birth? Amazing. I'm still on a high from it when I think about it. In fact I can't wait to do it again! Natural waterbirth rules. I love love loved my mw, and the nurse assigned to us was practically like a midwife too since she was in training to be one.

The baby? Super cool, I love her to bits.
post #8 of 25
I've been off the boards for a while, didn't even post my birth story, oh well.

I thought pregnancy was going to be a breeze, I thought I was going to feel beautiful and sexy and my body was going to feel wonderful because I'm young and in good shape. Ha, ya right. I spent the first half of the pregnancy nauseous and miserable, and the last third achy and anxious. I was not feeling 'sexy', that is for sure.

I expected labor and birth to be incredibly hard and long. In reality I had a practically painless birth and I didn't even know I was in real labor until I was pushing!

I really had no expectations for having a little one, I had never really been around babies before. So far so good, he is an excellent feeder and has a great temperment, thank goddess for chiropractic adjustments
post #9 of 25
All in all, I think pregnancy and childbirth was a lot easier than I'd expected it to be. Everyone tries to prepare you for the worst, you know? And so I assumed I was going to spend 9 months miserable, then 48h in the most intense and excruciating pain ever.

NOT SO. My pregnancy was a relative breeze (it got tough to sleep near the end there, though) and labour was nothing like I expected. Everyone told me "I'd know" when I was in labour, so I kept waiting for some sort of earth-shattering sign. As it turned out, if it hadn't been for my DH insisting I go see my mother when I had contractions I would have described as "mild" then I might never have known. After all the thirst-trimester discomfort, contractions were not the red flag I'd expected. From the time I figured out I was in labour to the arrival of my daughter 6h had passed. 6h of what I'd call "real" labour was nothing!

And the baby? Well... she's a gem. She has the nicest disposition and never, ever cries without a good reason. Our house is all peace and smiles! But I think I overestimated how much she would sleep, and how much time I'd have to myself. Maggie is awake continually, and I feel I should be interacting with her during that time - so I don't really get anything done. I've ordered a Mei Tai carrier, though... hopefully this will let me entertain her AND get something done!
post #10 of 25
Third trimester was a million times more comfortable then the first time around.

Labor/birth was amazing and not what I expected but I'm not sure WHAT I expected.

Newborn stage is a BILLION times easier than I expected. seriously. Rowan sleeps all the time, and doesn't cry hardly ever, and I don't wake up at night when I'm feeding him, and...and...everything is just EAsY! I'm still in shock. He's sleeping next to me on the couch right now! He is the mellowest baby; I'm so relieved I could burst into tears.
post #11 of 25
This pregnancy was a little more difficult in terms of my symptoms all being much stronger than they were my first.

However, the labour and delivery was MUCH easier than my first. I was pleasantly surprised!
post #12 of 25
Pregnancy was pretty much what I was expecting over all - a few things were better (over all, I felt better) and a few things were not so good (like all the crap i had to deal with regarding my iron levals at the end...)

Birth, well, that went as well as I could have hoped for for the most part. The only thing that was worse then what I had expected was the stabbing needle pain in my back. I was prepared for the contractions and all of that, but the nerve pain was more then I had reckoned for.

Next time, I'm going to get an adjustment or two before birth and pay more attention to my posture. I think that had a lot to do with it.

As for the baby? Well, she's awesome. Shes a great baby and is so so good. Makes me want another (in a few years, hehe)
post #13 of 25
I loved being pregnant. There were only a few things that were not good or made me anxious. If I weren't 43 I could definitely see doing this again!
The birth was phenomenal. That experience is one of the best of my life.
And the baby -- words cannot describe how much I love her. She's a bonny little lass.
post #14 of 25
the pregnancy went much quicker than i thought it would! my birth was wonderful, almost identical to dd1's birth, quick and intense. the only thing i wasn't expecting was for her to come quite so early (39 weeks) and for some reason i had been expecting another middle of the night birth, not a morning one.

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Originally Posted by christinespurlock View Post
unexpected, the strange feeling of knowing our family is complete, and I'm done having babies.
same here!
post #15 of 25
The pregnancy - exactly what I expected as far as the being sick the whole time as I was with my previous 2. What was NOT expected was the low fluid issues and the PTL/bedrest that came with this pregnancy!

The birth - a little unexpected. I had my other 2 at 38 weeks and this one "baked an extra week", but I ended up going into labor only to end with a c-section due to a breech baby that didnt' wanan turn!

The baby - she's WONDERFUL! She nursed RIGHT off the bat and we've had no issues there. (Well, we had a couple of days where she got lazy and didn't wanna open her moth wide enough and was only getting nipple! OUCH! But that was quickly fixed.) And she sleeps really well at night (goes to bed between 9 and 10 and wakes to nurse at 4-ish and goes to sleep til 7-ish), and naps well during the day. She is a pretty happy baby.

Siblings - Exactly what I expected with DD. VERY helpful and wanting to do everythign she can for the baby. She was like this with DS, so I knew that's how she'd be with DD2. Now DS was a SHOCK! I thought FOR SURE we were gonna have some issues with him. HE gets SO jealous if DD1 is in our laps, sitting by us, etc. I was really concerned as to how he was gonna handle it when I had to nurse the baby, change the baby, etc. But he has been GREAT! NO jealousy at ALL! (Unless you count when Big Sis gets to hold the baby and he wants to, too, but it's Katelyn's turn! LOL) The only really issue we've had with him is that he wants to hug and kiss her ALL the time and just doesn't get that you can't SMOTHER the baby with affections! The baby DOES need to breathe once in a while! : We keep telling him he has to kis the TOP of her head, but he will, then proceed to kiss her face, too!
post #16 of 25
2nd marriage, 2nd pregnancy and birth oh-so-different in all regards!!! More supportive spouse is a definite bonus, but this is his 1st child, so he doesn't know what to expect and still freaks out a little if I do something different from what he's seen his mom/sisters do with their kids, which is often...I was induced this time after a completely natural and intervention-less birth 11 years ago, so it was like night and day, but I felt much more sure of my caregiver this time around, and didn't enter into labor&delivery with expectations that it had go a certain way or it would be "ruined" or otherwise unfulfilling. My daughter is more headstrong than my son, too--she definitely wants to be in charge of her own schedule! Would love to hear more about others' experiences, since it can be isolating home "alone".
post #17 of 25
No, no and NO!

Pregnancy: Horrible pubic symphosis pain and GD. Don't want to be pg again, hated it.

Birth: Unwanted (but in the end, necessary) induction leading to agonizing 18 hour labor and eventual C section, leading to nasty infections for us both and a week and a half in hospital. No supply for over a week due to the illness, so lots of bf problems.

Baby: High needs. Many tummy troubles, DD nurses and needs to be held 24/7, so all I've done for 2 months is nurse and hold the baby. Poor little love is sore and crampy, so needs a lot of attention and DOES NOT NAP, or sleep, or settle with anyone else but me. She's on me getting cuddled watching me type this.

BUT! Even with all the problems, it's all a million times easier than everyone said it would be! I have a tiny beautiful baby who I have to cuddle all day every day - what could be better!! Everybody said over and over how hard newborns are, the lack of sleep etc... She's not an easy baby, and not always a happy baby, but she's sweet and soft and snuggly, charming and funny when she's not in pain, and just wants to be held by her mama. She's a little kitten and, honestly, I didn't expect mamahood to come so naturally. She makes it easy on me
post #18 of 25
Ugh, the breastfeeding part. Unfortunately, the beginning of our breastfeeding relationship was exactly what I thought it would be. Just like my other two, I ended up with blisters and then open wounds on both nipples, which was excruciating. I had to alternate pumping & cup feeding with nursing sessions for 2 days to give my nipples time to heal.

After DS was born, I just thought he had a really bad latch. Then I thought it was odd that DD1 had the same bad latch. Now, after DD2, I know it's not my babes, it's the shape of my nipples that causes the difficulties. Things are better now but it was extremely painful those first few weeks. I would rather it happen to me than someone who was on the fence about breastfeeding, though, because even when it hurt the worst I knew that it would be better soon.
post #19 of 25
Great thread - I was thinking about this myself.

Pregnancy - I was sicker and achier (SPD) than I was with my first so I didn't enjoy it nearly as much this time. I ended up taking it for granted. I suppose the novelty had worn off and I was very busy. I expected to spend the last few weeks revelling in it but Noa was born at 37 weeks and I still feel sad that I'm not pregnant anymore. I was one of the first to go in the DDC and I felt so jealous of all of you who were still pregnant and waiting for your babes.

Birth - I was happy that it began spontaneously and that I got my home birth. It was very quick and my recovery was really quite easy. It was painful and intense of course but it was all over so fast that I hardly knew what was happening and then there was my baby. What a trip! But I had really wanted a water birth and we didn't get the pool filled in time. I also wasn't really ready to go into labour so I spent a lot of it resisting (inner monologue was "I don't want to do this right now."). I wanted to be more intuitive about the process this time and I am mostly pleased with how that went and with the level of involvement from the midwives. I was ecstatic to deliver the placenta and stay home this time. But because it was early and fast and happened when we were kind of unprepared, there was a sense of chaos to it. (Good chaos, but chaos nonetheless).There were lots of visitors immediately after the birth that I now wish had not been allowed in. The sense of intimacy and magic that I hoped for were totally absent and the people I would have liked to share it with hung back because of all the other chaos. I didn't really know what hit me until a few days later so I wasn't in a place to make it what I had wanted.

Baby - she is of course amazing and I wouldn't ask for any other. Having two is easier than people make out in a lot of ways but it's hard to adjust to how little time I have for me. With one, I could take turns with dh and get breaks but now it seems we just take turns for which kid we are tending to and there's very little time when I don't have one or the other or both.

Her infancy has flown by though, partly due to choices we made, and now when I look back over the last 9 weeks, it's just a blur. I am sad that we didn't get as much of the nesting in as a family as I would have liked. I feel that dh and I didn't soak her up as much as we did ds and that makes me feel sad.

The events surrounding her birth make for a great story that she'll probably LOVE later - I can already envision how we'll all tell it together over and over. But I can't ever recapture those intimate first moments together that were kind of missed in the chaos.
post #20 of 25
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Originally Posted by Red Sonja View Post
Ugh, the breastfeeding part. Unfortunately, the beginning of our breastfeeding relationship was exactly what I thought it would be. Just like my other two, I ended up with blisters and then open wounds on both nipples, which was excruciating. I had to alternate pumping & cup feeding with nursing sessions for 2 days to give my nipples time to heal.

After DS was born, I just thought he had a really bad latch. Then I thought it was odd that DD1 had the same bad latch. Now, after DD2, I know it's not my babes, it's the shape of my nipples that causes the difficulties. Things are better now but it was extremely painful those first few weeks. I would rather it happen to me than someone who was on the fence about breastfeeding, though, because even when it hurt the worst I knew that it would be better soon.
I was exactly the same!
Whoever said BF shouldn't hurt did not take into account the first couple weeks where babe has to break in the nipples!! I too had what I thought was a good latch right off the bat but still ended up with blisters and cracking and bleeding for the first couple weeks. The toe curling latch after was brutal....but miraculously after much use of Lanolin they slowly healed up and now I am so grateful to have stuck it out.
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