Originally Posted by abimommy
Also unexpected is how VERY DIFFICULT it is to prevent older siblings to stop smooching on the baby while they are sleeping.
"Leave the baby alone" "Please don't bother the baby" "It just took me an hour to get that baby to sleep! NnnnnNooooooO!OO!OO!O!"
same here! dd1 LOVES her baby sister, and wants to play ring around the rosie with her, which means grabbing her hands and yanking on them like crazy.
but as far as the thread goes...
pg: easier than with dd1 in the sense that i felt less sick in the 1st tri, and suffered less back pain in the 2nd and 3rd. harder with heartburn though. with dd1 i had to pop some tums every now and then. with dd2 i ended up waking up choking on vomit on a regular basis. it got to the point where i had to get a script for prevacid. but i figure it was b/c dd2 was 2# heavier than dd1 and about 1.5in longer. that's a lot more baby, and a lot less room for my stomach.
labor & birth: soooooo much easier than i could have ever hoped for! it went so fast and it was so wonderful to just be with DH and work through it. i was so loud during dd2's birth compared to dd1 (i really didn't make any noise with dd1), but i didn't voluntarily push with dd2 at all. my body did it all in about 5 pushes. it was great. my placenta took forever to come out, and i really couldn't muster a push, but it was great to not feel pressured by my MWs.
bfing: dd2 was a champion nurser from the start, and i didn't get nearly as engorged as i did with dd1. we had a sore start, but dd2 has a mild tounge tie that just needed time to loosen up. she's not nearly as barfy as dd1 was, so that's a real treat too.
pp: it's been pretty good. a lot less stress with DH than the 1st time around. i didn't get as much help as i had hoped from ppl other than DH though. my 2 bffs promised to be over and helping out lots, but have been too busy with their families and lives to help out as much as they'd said they would. it's ok, i don't hold it against them or anything, but i've just been on my own a lot more than i thought i would be. i started taking zoloft this week b/c i've been having a hard time with anxiety, but that's nothing new with me. i've struggled with low seratonin levels for the past 10 years, but i'm feeling really good now.
overall, i'm really happy with everything. i'm left feeling like i'm just not sure that we're done having kids. for now i told DH that i'm not even thinking about another baby until 3 conditions are met, then having one more might have to come up for consideration.
the 3 conditions:
1. be extremely financially stable (we're nowhere near that now)
2. dd2 has to be CLWed and totally PLed
3. my sister has to be pg or trying to become pg (she's not even dating anyone right now, so this one is rather far off)