Sorry it didn't work out. But glad everyone is here and healthy and it wasn't horrible. sounds a lot like my first UC, actually, except mine was a little shorter. I wouldnt have made 36 hours.
for me, "active" labor starts from the FIRST contraction.....I've never understood all the stories about how women DO things in "early" labor...like bake stuff, go shopping..even just sit and watch a movie..heck, even just TALK. From contraction 1, both times now, my contrax are PAINFUL and require full-on concentration, and the entire time between them to regroup before another one hits....it's like being in transition the ENTIRE labor...there is no "easy" part. I too remember my first UC, and after hours of painful, awful labor, and feeling like i was gonna throw up and thinking it HAD to be transition and it HAD to be nearly over...i checked..and I was like 4cm.
so..you are not alone. I have vowed that at a future labor, i'm taking a sleeping pill and a bunch of wine when contractions start, LOL!
Welcome new little Hoosier!