Hi. my name is jules. ***hi jules*** LOL
anyway....
Yesterday i went to the dr for xrays for a shoulder injury. doc came in smiling with the urine test results.... WOW!!! unexpected, but i'm pleasantly surprised!
Some background.... I have been separated from my husband for about a year. I have since moved on and am living with my boyfriend. We are both happy in our relationship and happy about our baby.
My family...
Not including my immediate family so much, divorce is close to taboo. Most of the family thinks that i will be getting back together with ex. Sometimes even my parents mention it tho not often and not too seriously. And that is unknown to my BF. no point in feeding insecurities imo.
When i told him last night about our baby, i also asked him if we could wait to tell the family. Reason: i had a MC in 06 at six weeks and the more people that knew, the more i had to listen to sympathies over and over (while well appreciated and given from the heart it did make it harder sometimes). I just wanted to be reasonably sure that the baby would be okay first.
I work with my parents every day....we share EVERYthing with eachother. we are extremely close. As today went on it was harder and harder not to tell them. But i didn't want to make that decision without talking to BF first.
My sis is here tonight on a surprise visit! I really would love to share this with her. After asking BF if that would be a problem....."don't you think she'll side with your parents and say your an idiot?" ( trust me...not quite as harsh as that reads)
But it did get me thinking. I never for a minute thought my parents would be anything but happy about a grandchild...sure....the circumstances are not what most of the family would consider ideal by a long stretch. but my parents have always been supportive during a lot worse situations i've thrown at them!!! i just can't seem to convince BF of that. He always sees himself as the bad guy in their eyes. "wife stealer" and such. which is not the way that it was and my parents have liked him from the beginning of our relationship.
So BF is insecure and i'm writing a novel. i guess i don't even know what i'm getting at now. i've reread this twice and forgot my own question.
in a nutshell.....i'm pregnant! thrilled to pregnant. thrilled to be with BF and pregnant!
i know he's happy about the baby but scared to death of my parents reaction.
My response to him was " It's not like we're sixteen darling"
we are approaching 30 years old sometimes GOING on sixteen but we are responsible working adults who love each other and take care of each other.
If you made it this far reading all this....you deserve some kind of award!!!!
Thanks for listening to a silly preggo girl get it off her chest even tho she didn't really say anything.
anyway....
Yesterday i went to the dr for xrays for a shoulder injury. doc came in smiling with the urine test results.... WOW!!! unexpected, but i'm pleasantly surprised!
Some background.... I have been separated from my husband for about a year. I have since moved on and am living with my boyfriend. We are both happy in our relationship and happy about our baby.
My family...
Not including my immediate family so much, divorce is close to taboo. Most of the family thinks that i will be getting back together with ex. Sometimes even my parents mention it tho not often and not too seriously. And that is unknown to my BF. no point in feeding insecurities imo.
When i told him last night about our baby, i also asked him if we could wait to tell the family. Reason: i had a MC in 06 at six weeks and the more people that knew, the more i had to listen to sympathies over and over (while well appreciated and given from the heart it did make it harder sometimes). I just wanted to be reasonably sure that the baby would be okay first.
I work with my parents every day....we share EVERYthing with eachother. we are extremely close. As today went on it was harder and harder not to tell them. But i didn't want to make that decision without talking to BF first.
My sis is here tonight on a surprise visit! I really would love to share this with her. After asking BF if that would be a problem....."don't you think she'll side with your parents and say your an idiot?" ( trust me...not quite as harsh as that reads)
But it did get me thinking. I never for a minute thought my parents would be anything but happy about a grandchild...sure....the circumstances are not what most of the family would consider ideal by a long stretch. but my parents have always been supportive during a lot worse situations i've thrown at them!!! i just can't seem to convince BF of that. He always sees himself as the bad guy in their eyes. "wife stealer" and such. which is not the way that it was and my parents have liked him from the beginning of our relationship.
So BF is insecure and i'm writing a novel. i guess i don't even know what i'm getting at now. i've reread this twice and forgot my own question.
in a nutshell.....i'm pregnant! thrilled to pregnant. thrilled to be with BF and pregnant!
i know he's happy about the baby but scared to death of my parents reaction.
My response to him was " It's not like we're sixteen darling"
we are approaching 30 years old sometimes GOING on sixteen but we are responsible working adults who love each other and take care of each other.
If you made it this far reading all this....you deserve some kind of award!!!!
Thanks for listening to a silly preggo girl get it off her chest even tho she didn't really say anything.
Hello Jules! Wow you have a lot going on! First off congrats on baby and finding a great BF! Secondly I'd work on getting the divorce over and done with and then telling your family (parents maybe earlier). That way you are really starting your new chapter as a new family and there is nothing to dislike about that, unless they are totally unreasonable people like my family LOL
