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Question for the board!

Poll Results: Moving to SN

Poll expired: Sep 8, 2008  
  • 19% (12)
    Yes
  • 62% (39)
    No
  • 6% (4)
    I don't care
  • 11% (7)
    Other (there always has to be an other)
62 Total Votes  
post #1 of 34
Thread Starter 
Currently this board is hiding as a subforum of a subforum, it cannot be seen from the Index and new people to the boards are having problems finding it.

How would y'all feel about moving to SN and being a subforum of SN? Would that be ok?
post #2 of 34
I can't say I love putting the board under SN. I think when I was a brand-new preemie parent, the close linking of preemie and special needs would've scared me a little, as if it were a foregone conclusion that my children would have special needs throughout their lives.

Is there a particular reason that it can't just be another "Age and Stage"?
post #3 of 34
I agree with what the first poster said, although alot of preemies do end up being special needs children.

i honestly don't care where we go, i would just like to be able to view the forum from the index again
post #4 of 34
I really don't think it belongs under SN. Not all preemies will have special needs at anytime in their life. And I know as a new preemie parent it would have scared the daylights to already be put in the situtation of having my child labled special need already.

Preemie parents have concerns about their babies survival at the time, and need to relate to other parents who have been through the same thing. If need be in the future they can and should move over to the SN board.

Molly
post #5 of 34
Not a regular poster here, but the first place I would probably look for it would be Birth and Beyond, then ages and stages.
post #6 of 34
post #7 of 34
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Originally Posted by OGirlieMama View Post
I can't say I love putting the board under SN. I think when I was a brand-new preemie parent, the close linking of preemie and special needs would've scared me a little, as if it were a foregone conclusion that my children would have special needs throughout their lives.

Is there a particular reason that it can't just be another "Age and Stage"?
I agree.
And, I have to say, that having it not visible from the main menu will probably cause a lot of people to miss this forum. When my twins were born, the last thing I wanted to do was search sub forums for a nicu forum. I really think it would be better if it could be seen from the main forum page.
post #8 of 34
Thread Starter 
I understand that not all preemies will have SN when they are older, but are NICU babies not SN simply by the fact that they are in NICU?

My son was in NICU, it was horrible. Simply because he has heart issues doesn't mean he will be SN later, he is just that way now.

However I do understand what OGirlieMama is saying about how that could be an anxiety trigger.
post #9 of 34
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Originally Posted by abimommy View Post
I understand that not all preemies will have SN when they are older, but are NICU babies not SN simply by the fact that they are in NICU?

My son was in NICU, it was horrible. Simply because he has heart issues doesn't mean he will be SN later, he is just that way now.

However I do understand what OGirlieMama is saying about how that could be an anxiety trigger.

I never really considered my dd special needs while she was in the NICU, it was more of just a stage in her life, which is why I think it should go under Ages and Stages.
post #10 of 34
put it with the parenting multiples area... sn would be a bad move.
post #11 of 34
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Originally Posted by abimommy View Post
I understand that not all preemies will have SN when they are older, but are NICU babies not SN simply by the fact that they are in NICU?

My son was in NICU, it was horrible. Simply because he has heart issues doesn't mean he will be SN later, he is just that way now.

However I do understand what OGirlieMama is saying about how that could be an anxiety trigger.
Former NICU mom here.

Please don't put it under special needs, it will scare off people. My babies BH didn't have any special needs at all, they were just small. Just being in the hospital doesn't make you special needs any more than a 4yo going in to have his tonsils out or a hernia fixed is automaticly "special needs." Put it in ages and stages, or even as a subsection under health and healing or breastfeeding.
post #12 of 34
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Originally Posted by yogafeet View Post
put it with the parenting multiples area... sn would be a bad move.

Not all preemies are multiples. Mine wasn't.
post #13 of 34
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Originally Posted by yogafeet View Post
put it with the parenting multiples area... sn would be a bad move.
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Originally Posted by felix23 View Post
Not all preemies are multiples. Mine wasn't.
I wonder if yogafeet meant put it in the "family life" heading, under which "parenting multiples" lives, so NICU/Preemie would be an equivalent title in the same area. I debated that suggestion, too.

And I never considered my kids "special needs" when they were in the NICU. They had special medical requirements, but that is not the same as the popular definition of "special needs" or the purpose of that forum.
post #14 of 34
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Originally Posted by OGirlieMama View Post
I wonder if yogafeet meant put it in the "family life" heading, under which "parenting multiples" lives, so NICU/Preemie would be an equivalent title in the same area. I debated that suggestion, too.

And I never considered my kids "special needs" when they were in the NICU. They had special medical requirements, but that is not the same as the popular definition of "special needs" or the purpose of that forum.
You're probably right.
post #15 of 34
Our son was a premie and in the NICU but does not have special needs.

I agree that it could fit under "family life" or "birth and beyond".

Also, as many of babies in the NICU are a result of preterm labor or other high-risk pregnancies, I wonder if these could fit together somehow?
post #16 of 34
Another vote for NOT moving it to special needs. Why can't it stay part of Ages and Stages? Just bump it up to a forum of it's own instead of a sub-form of LWAB.

DS was born 8 weeks early but was a "feeder and grower" without any significant health issues, physical, developmental, or otherwise.
post #17 of 34
I had a FT baby in the NICU. I do agree that a baby being in the NICU does give them SN's all their own but not the type of SN's that one thinks of when visiting a SN's forum.

I forget about it with where it is right now which is a bummer b/c I liked to be able to see the most recent post title.

Ages & Stages could be a good spot for it since those categories are mostly to do with parenting as is the NICU.
post #18 of 34
how about in one of the birth forums? - oh. someone suggested birth and beyond. PERFECT. thats where id look first.
post #19 of 34
I agree with ages and stages or in family life. Special needs doesn't bother me but I do have a child that is SN, not the one that was hospitalized either.
post #20 of 34
I am against putting this forum in SN as I wouldn't have thought to look under SN to find it when my dd was newborn and in the NICU...the time when parents REALLY need to find it! I didn't consider my dd SN and she never has been.

In fact I really preferred the old format for all the forums and was wondering why there needed to be a change in the first place:
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