My earlier comments didn't read as well as I intended them, and I hope they didn't cause offense to anyone. The point I wanted to get across is I've always understood special needs to be ongoing medical or emotional needs, not temporary ones. For most NICU patients, the serious medical requirements are temporary. If one of my children, right now at 2.5 years old, got sick and was in the hospital for 9 weeks (the same length as their NICU stay) but was not going to require ongoing treatment, it wouldn't occur to me to look on the special needs board.
Of course, the more I think about it, prematurity is such a gray area. My kids did need a lot of follow-up and monitoring post-NICU, and one of them was on O2 for a few more months, but because I was always assured that this was temporary, it never occurred to me to consider that special needs. Maybe it should have.
The more the conversation goes on, the less I really care, though, about where the board goes as long as it is visible from the main forum list. But I do continue to wonder why NICU/Preemie has to be subforum of anything, rather than just another forum. I realize that is a question about board organization, which, as annettemarie pointed out, belongs in Q&S, so if you want me to delete that, I don't mind doing so, but it seems like then maybe we should just move this whole thread, since that's the whole point of it.