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post #1 of 91
Thread Starter 
: Welcome to September M.O.M's :

I am back! we have had a busy month with a newborn and several of my older children sitting exams. It wont be long til my eldest will be finished school and off to university; which makes me feel old.

hope you all well

Sam
post #2 of 91
Hi.... again! I posted an intro in the July thread a few days ago not noticing there was an August thread so I figured I'ld re-post it in the September thread so here goes...... Hi everyone! Mind if I join? I did post on a MOM thread awhile back but never officially joined. I'm Sarah married to Steve and we have 4 dc, dd 9, ds#1- 8, ds#2 almost 4,ds#3- 17m and one on the way. I'm a SAHM and dh works construction. The reaction I'm getting when people find out I'm expecting is almost comical really, lol. Although dh has some GREAT comebacks ready Oh and in answer to the co-sleeping ? dd and oldest ds each have their own rooms that are connected by a double doorway and ds#2 and ds#3 sleep in our room. Both start in the bed then I move ds#2 to his little cot about 2' from my side of the bed and the baby usually gets moved to his crib at the foot of our bed (if mama can stay awake to do it, lol) and usually goes until the morning. We'll see what happens come March with the newest lo.
post #3 of 91
Hi, I can't believe it's September already!
post #4 of 91
Can I get all personal? Was the time you got your period back different with each kid or the same? I have always gotten my period back by 8 weeks pp but this one its almost 6 months and well nothing. DH did have a vasectomy but has not gone back in to get it checked and well now I am all freaked out (I was fine about it until I had a pg dream) . So someone tell me that its all different right? Joe says it because I am nursing two but Marah only nurses once a day and its for about 5-10 minutes before she passes out to sleep at night. There is no change in my nursing the baby either, same nurse on demand, cosleeping we have always done.
post #5 of 91
Hi everyone! Things have been busy here too. The three children I was watching on their school break just started back at school and we had a party for them. Two new part-time childcare clients started last week; one toddler and one sibling pair (5 and 3).

Ds turned five yesterday and ds2 turns three this Wednesday. Dh is putting dd's dollhouse together right now. She picked it out for her birthday. It's almost as tall as she is, but it's narrow, so it'll fit nicely into her room.
post #6 of 91
Allison,

Mine came back two months postpartum with my first. With the last three it's been when they were roughly a year old.
post #7 of 91
Hey everyone!! I can't believe it's September. We've begun homeschooling my oldest dd in K, I've been putting up lots of tomato sauce from my garden (and giving lots of 'maters away to neighbors too!), began my last succession planting withquick maturing veggies and cool weather veggies and we're getting ready for #4's arrival in November.

I finally got my homeschooling nook the way I want it (it's in my office), and am doing my best to keep up with everything else. We moved recently and I just got alibrary card in our new location and took my first visit last week and was blown away by what the little branch near my house had as far as homeschooling and Pre-K, K resources... The main library is a few minutes away and three floors full. And there is no limt on books! Are any of you the type to take out tons of books at once? Last year when we began my dd in Pre-K we had 75 books out at once (between her, my son (truck/car books), and myself (homemaking, homesteading, cooking, 'my' interests). We kept track of them all I'm happy to say - we have a system so we return all of them and don't loose 'em. I browse the books, use from them what I need or want, take notes if necessary and add them to my 'books to buy' list if they're really good. I feel kind of silly taking out so many books at once though!

As far as postartum periods, I typically get mine back around 5 months. Then I get pregnant again within a month or a few ;-)
post #8 of 91
Allison- each was diffrent with me. AF returned pp with number one at about nine mos,with number two at six and with number three not until 18!(I was tandem nursing) Number four is16mos and nosign yet...but i also put in the implanon so who knows if that affects it.

Sara- We take out a ton of books too. Have you heard of the library elf? It emails you and helps keep track of what books you have out from which libraries!!

Well, I have two teens in public school and dd turned five in may so this is our official first year of homeschool with her! I seriously think my three year old my be ADHD and the baby has decided to go back to not sleeping through the night! Im a tiny bit exhausted! Luckily my oldest is driving so he and his cousin who lives with us (my "other teen son") get to school with no help from me! They wash thier own clothes, set the alarm and get up, eat and go in the mornings.

My computer died and i'm on ds's laptop and i hate typing on this itty bitty keyboard! A new computer isnt in the budget though....

Well, its justa good thing that i thrive on chaos!!!:
post #9 of 91
I always miss this thread : and then I miss you ladies, so I am signing up.

Daniel is 16 months old and I still don't have my period back. Every now and again I feel twingy, but nothing. I have noticed it comes back later with each kiddo.
post #10 of 91
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Originally Posted by AllisonK View Post
Can I get all personal? Was the time you got your period back different with each kid or the same?
It was the same after the first three, around the 11-12 month mark. Like clockwork. This time, since about 10 weeks after his birth I've had spotting every 2 weeks or so. Sometimes super light, sometimes heavier. No AF, exactly... but definitely weird stuff going on. I'm not fertile, though, I guess.
post #11 of 91
I was wondering... how do you all handle childcare? I don't mean like daycare, I mean babysitting? My baby always comes with me, and when I had the two little girls and a baby it was easy to leave the girls with anyone. (Trusted friends, I mean. Not "anyone!") Now, it's 3 little kids I'd be leaving with someone for 2-3 hours to go on a date with my Dh... and that seems somehow to be a whole new ballgame.

My friends are either childless, and therefore not used to dealing with three kids at once, or they have kids of their own to deal with! It just seems like too much to ask. Swapping babysitting just got a bit lopsided since now I have more kids than my friends. And I'm thinking we're having more, so it's not going to get easier in this respect.

Is paying a stranger the only option if we want to go on a date? Dh really misses dates with me alone (well, with a sling-baby. ) I'd like to be able to make that more of a possibility but I just don't see it happening. We've been doing "in home" dates when the kids are asleep, but it's not exactly working that well. Any ideas? If it's "suck it up until your kids are older"... well, that's what I planned to do anyway.
post #12 of 91
I've only had one PP periods after River and Isaac's births, and they were both around the 6 month mark- with Alex, Rowan and Skye, I went straight to pregnant, though I didn't always stay that way We had a BIG scare this week though, and I'm pretty sure I'm done with babies. I'm looking forward to the next stage of my life- watching them grow up, going back to studying myself, getting a job even, that kind of stuff. Sleeping through the night would be quite exciting, I have to say.

Colleen, we cross-posted. I normally get my childcare through LETS (a barter network) and if it's for all four at once, like tomorrow, I advertised for two people, maybe a pair of friends. (we have a family funeral to go to.) I'm leaving River as well, because it's DH's side of the family, I don't know most of them and there's going to be family politics, so I figure more hands than less is going to be a good thing.
post #13 of 91
My first PPAF has been different each time but I noticed I'm not regular until well into the first year. It seems my body might be trying to attempt to regulate itself now. I'm averaging 45 day cycles. Sage is still nursing often and only now starting to eat 2-3 solid meals a day.

I need help getting my boys to be nice to one another.. I'm seriously considering kindness bootcamp this week. Ugh!

I guess I should go enforce some routine around here. The boys should be cracking open their books to have a go at something educational.
post #14 of 91
My first PPAF has been around 11 weeks with all of my children. And, I usually bleed for the first 7 weeks or so after birth. I EBF on demand and co-sleep, no pacis, etc.............

As far as babysitters, we usually do not go out without the kiddos. If we do we leave them with my sister. I don't leave whoever is the baby until they are eating solids and drinking from a sippy. I will leave the babies when they are tiny with dh if I am just running to the grocery store.

So, we have a bit of a maybe-baby situation going on here and I am so hoping I am pregnant (and that I stay that way) . I am only 2 dpo today so it will be a while until I know. :

I have gone back to school. I am only taking one class this semester (a government class) and it is online but I am really excited! My class starts today.
post #15 of 91
Dd2 is 2 today!: The time just flies doesn't it. Her first two years have coincided with some of the hardest years of our family life to date and to be honest, her character hasn't made things any easier. I'm hoping for a calmer child and a calmer life over the next two years.

I can't really remember when ppaf arrived each time to be honest but it has been around the year mark I think but getting later and later each time. I have had an IUD after each of the last three so although I do watch my cycle for my own interest (!) I haven't ever needed to chart to avoid so it hasn't been a turning point for us in that way.
post #16 of 91
The school schedule is in full swing! So many things on the calendar.

Orangefoot: which IUD have you had, if you don't mind sharing that bit of personal info?

I've been telling my Dh that we are done with #5, but everytime I say, in my head jumps out "SIX!" And since this is not a twin gestation, I don't quite know what to make of it. I really want some spacing between 5 and if there is a 6, but not too much. Just not sure what I want to do.
post #17 of 91
Mine is a simple copper T called TCu-380A. I have also had a Multiload and a Nova T. I have a blood clotting disorder so cannot use any hormonal contraception but also need to plan a pregnancy so that I have all the pregnancy treatments in place from the word go.

As I said this is my third and I have had no problems with any of them and conceived on my first cycle after removal. The doctor who fitted my last one is a mum I know from a toy library that I went to with ds1 who is now 15. She has six children and said that she would be very happy to take it out at any time if we wanted to have a fifth babe to try and catch her up but if not it could stay put for 10 years. The other doctor who was with her to observe was laughing at that!
post #18 of 91

Mealtime Dilemma

So, I'm having a bit of a problem with meals.

Back in the day, when I had just one or two, I tried to be really understanding about food. I always made sure there was something at each meal that everyone would eat, and if they didn't like the food, they could help themselves to fruit or make a sandwich. Now that I have 4, it goes like this:
KID 1: What's for lunch?
ME: Peanut butter noodles.
KID 1: I don't like that. Can I make a sandwich?
KID 2: Can I make a sandwich?
KID 3: I want a sandwich too!
KID 4: *Doesn't talk yet, praise God*

And I'm stuck with a bowl of peanut butter noodles no one will eat AND I've "lost" the supplies for three sandwiches that I hadn't planned to make that day.

I no longer have the wiggle room in my menu or my budget for this sort of thing. Plus if one doesn't want it, all of a sudden no one wants it.

How do you all handle this?
post #19 of 91
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Originally Posted by mclisa View Post
The school schedule is in full swing! So many things on the calendar.

Orangefoot: which IUD have you had, if you don't mind sharing that bit of personal info?

I've been telling my Dh that we are done with #5, but everytime I say, in my head jumps out "SIX!" And since this is not a twin gestation, I don't quite know what to make of it. I really want some spacing between 5 and if there is a 6, but not too much. Just not sure what I want to do.
Hey, weren't you the same woman who swore there was no way her dh was talking her into number five? And now you are the one talking number six!
post #20 of 91
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Originally Posted by annettemarie View Post
KID 1: What's for lunch?
ME: Peanut butter noodles.
KID 1: I don't like that. Can I make a sandwich?
KID 2: Can I make a sandwich?
KID 3: I want a sandwich too!
KID 4: *Doesn't talk yet, praise God*

How do you all handle this?
Mmm... after kid 1 says they don't like that I'd say 'Do you remember that we can't always have our favourite dinner? Would you like some x or y alongside/after your noodles?'

Mine just have to eat what there is or we negotiate what to cook between us while looking in the fridge. Sometimes it is everyone's favourite dinner but sometimes it isn't but there is no way to turn the sow's ear into a silk purse. That's life when things are tight. I don't even get my favourite dinner every day but sometimes I just have to have what is in the cupboard and tell myself it isn't poison!

Maybe now is the time to talk about what is and isn't possible then negotiate a revision of alternatives or change to add-ons to what you have already prepared.
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