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post #21 of 91
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Originally Posted by annettemarie View Post
So, I'm having a bit of a problem with meals.

Back in the day, when I had just one or two, I tried to be really understanding about food. I always made sure there was something at each meal that everyone would eat, and if they didn't like the food, they could help themselves to fruit or make a sandwich. Now that I have 4, it goes like this:
KID 1: What's for lunch?
ME: Peanut butter noodles.
KID 1: I don't like that. Can I make a sandwich?
KID 2: Can I make a sandwich?
KID 3: I want a sandwich too!
KID 4: *Doesn't talk yet, praise God*

And I'm stuck with a bowl of peanut butter noodles no one will eat AND I've "lost" the supplies for three sandwiches that I hadn't planned to make that day.

I no longer have the wiggle room in my menu or my budget for this sort of thing. Plus if one doesn't want it, all of a sudden no one wants it.

How do you all handle this?
I haven't officially joined this thread because I am technically not a mom...but I have four stepkids so I am a step-mom to many when they are home!

At any rate, here is how I handle mealtimes with four kids and a tiny house. I make the meals and they choose to eat it! Our kitchen is entirely too small and my food buying is usually for specific meals so it would be a mad-house if everyone decided to make sandwiches at meals instead of eating what is cooked or offered. I plan my meals to make sure that at least three of the four kids like what is being served and there is always at least one part of the meal that they will all eat. For instance, DSS 7 hates potatoes and anything that has potatoes in it. But he loves chicken. So when we have pierogies, I make sure that it is paired with chicken so even though he won't eat the pierogies, he will eat the chicken.

Hope this helps!
post #22 of 91
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Originally Posted by Anglyn View Post
Hey, weren't you the same woman who swore there was no way her dh was talking her into number five? And now you are the one talking number six!
You know, breastfeeding is only good for birth control for so long...

He told me that he would be willing to use condoms after this one until I was done breastfeeding and could go on real bcp's. He swears that if I see anything leaking from the condom that it really isn't broken...it's the lubricant...silly man.


I'm still not sure how he talked me into #5. Oh wait, I do remember...he plied me with Mike's lemonade. I will never ever drink that again...though last week when it was 90 outside, I was craving it! Silly me!
post #23 of 91
I noticed they are getting closer in spacing as you go too! Your dh isnt to be trusted....accept no drinks from him!
post #24 of 91
OK, seeing as the conversation is going this way here I'm fessing up.
We had a pregnancy scare last week, a big one. The kind of "unprotected sex 24 hours before ovulation" big one. And I freaked, and I took the morning after pill, and I freaked some more, and some more, and some more. And THEN I went to the family planning clinic and they fitted me with the same coil Orangefoot has as emergency contraception and so far, touch wood, it's great
And then, of course, after all that, AF showed yesterday anyhow so there's no way I'd have been able to hold a pregnancy with a luteal phase that short anyhow. It's more proof that I'm getting less fertile as I get older, which I knew anyhow, but I'm pretty sure that I'm done at four Are you going to kick me off the thread?

Annettemarie, can I have your recipe for peanut butter noodles please? I think in that situation I would talk honestly with them about it and maybe use your budget/ shopping list as a resource for HSing fora while.

Orangefoot and Freya, have a very happy birthday!

Aurora, how exciting! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you : :
post #25 of 91
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Originally Posted by annettemarie View Post
So, I'm having a bit of a problem with meals.

Back in the day, when I had just one or two, I tried to be really understanding about food. I always made sure there was something at each meal that everyone would eat, and if they didn't like the food, they could help themselves to fruit or make a sandwich. Now that I have 4, it goes like this:
KID 1: What's for lunch?
ME: Peanut butter noodles.
KID 1: I don't like that. Can I make a sandwich?
KID 2: Can I make a sandwich?
KID 3: I want a sandwich too!
KID 4: *Doesn't talk yet, praise God*

And I'm stuck with a bowl of peanut butter noodles no one will eat AND I've "lost" the supplies for three sandwiches that I hadn't planned to make that day.

I no longer have the wiggle room in my menu or my budget for this sort of thing. Plus if one doesn't want it, all of a sudden no one wants it.

How do you all handle this?
*Joining thread*

Anyhow, I am not a short order cook and kids are expected to eat what is served. But I do have a sensory kid who is very picky. Our rule is that you eat what is served or you may have a PB &J sandwich that you make and clean up after yourself. (Even my 4 y.o. can make a PB & J with some supervision) IMHO the option needs to be something unglamorous and cheap, but they will want to eat if they are truly hungry. I get bread at the outlet store (I know some mamas make their own cheap) PB is WIC and jelly is cheap and I can even make it from WIC juice if so inclined, so a PB & J sandwich is cheap, here. Here, fruit or a lunchmeat sandwich is not. (I realize that may not be true for everyone.) The other corrollary to that is if nobody ate the PB noodles (I'm not even sure what that is?) that is what would be offered at the next meal. I also try for a "thank you" bite, but lately I haven't been really consistent with that. Also, if they don't eat the offered dinner they don't get any dessert that might be offered. If it starts to become a problem, I might be having some really good desserts that day.
post #26 of 91
My fertility comes right back about a week after the PP bleeding stops.Doesn't matter that I EBF,cosleep,tandem,triandem...I guess I have enough fluffiness that my body thinks I can take care of another baby. I am good with four but have given up on BC since it hasn't worked 3 out of 4 times but neither one of us is ready for any snips.Not to scare you but....My cycle came back at my usual time after DD and I had 2 cycles and then they stopped and I thought maybe tandem nursing was working out for me. 3 more months and my aunt has a pregnancy dream about me and I suddenly feel a baby and woops I'm 20 weeks pregnant with #4!I now test twice before every period because for some reason I feel the same kicks I felt during my pregnancies at random times.
Food- all of them have so many differnet preferneces.I try to cook a meal that they would eat at least some of.I'll make chicken and rice and beans and the kids like the rice and sometimes the chicken, only DD eats the veggies but my oldest has two eat three pieces and they all eat beans.If its lunch time they usually get PB sandiwches anyway.
Gotta go someone's pulling on my arm.
post #27 of 91
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Hey everyone!! I can't believe it's September. We've begun homeschooling my oldest dd in K,


We're in our fourth year of homeschooling and I love it!

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I no longer have the wiggle room in my menu or my budget for this sort of thing. Plus if one doesn't want it, all of a sudden no one wants it.

How do you all handle this?
I go "that's what's for lunch, if you want something else, you can eat at dinner." I just don't have the money to make something and have them eat something else. Our menu and budget are fairly planned out and changing it after food is made isn't what I can do.

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I was wondering... how do you all handle childcare? I don't mean like daycare, I mean babysitting?
I have two homeschooled mother's helper/babysitters. I met them through a local email list, had them come over about once a week for six months or so, watched them get to know my children. I had plenty of time to talk to them and show them how I do things with the kids and I'm totally comfortable having them babysit when I'm not here.

What we usually end up doing is asking my mom or dh's mom to come watch the children and one of the teens comes and helps them.
post #28 of 91
Hi, I am joining y'all too. I was just laying here thinking that I really like the #5 even though I have felt that 4 is enough, and I would really like to just finish school and start making some money to take care of my babe's. I envy all of you who are HSing, DH's family is rabidly against it and bullied him into stopping us before we even got started. It seems like summer ends just when we are all getting into a comfortable routine together. I have a feeling we will get another chance to try it again someday though. Anyway, as far as AF goes, she usually shows up around 7 or 8 months and though we were were sooo careful the first few times we DTD, that was sooooo 4 months ago . I'm thinking about getting everything tied up, but I feel like that is so permanent, well it is... but YKWIM. And babysitting, well we have a couple of girls who we consider family and they spend a lot of time w/ us even when they aren't babysitting. Though the last few times DH and I have gone out for dinner, Noah has come w/ us. I want to go out w/ my SIL Saturday night, but I know I'm not going to have enough pumped, so... those plans are up in the air. Happy to be here ladies, kind of feels like home. By the by, Hey there Flapjack, nice to see you again.
post #29 of 91
My husband lost his job two days ago. Uncertainty abounds.
post #30 of 91
Mumof3Nic I hope something comes up for you soon.
post #31 of 91
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My husband lost his job two days ago. Uncertainty abounds.
Sending lots of good thoughts your way!
post #32 of 91
Mumof3Nic, .

Thanks for all who chimed in. I feel less like a Mean Mama now. This food stuff has really been a huge issue all of sudden, and with prices going up, I just can't afford to be all sweet and understanding anymore.
post #33 of 91
I keep that generic waffle/pancake mix on hand. We had two extra kids tonight (visiting cousins). So I was feeding five little ones (well, ten and under). One had the spagetti I made, three had waffles and the baby had both. My kids will always eat waffles. Every once in awhile i even splurge on name brand syrup!!

I also mosty think Im done at four, but cannot bring myself to get snipped and sometimes wish for dd to have a sister.
post #34 of 91
AnnetteMarie, can I have your peanut butter noodle recipe please?

For me, the other thing that crossed my mind was that you cooked, then they said they didn't want it. I'd consider going deep into budgeting, and food waste, and cooking at the moment and using that as inspiration for your HSing work. We've been talking a lot about it here- I refused to buy imported apples, so the boys have really been getting a handle on the seasonal eating thing, and they've been watching prices fall on some vegetables.

Nic That's scary. Crossing my fingers for you.
post #35 of 91
Oh Nic I am so sorry.I hope that things even out for you all very soon.
post #36 of 91
Nic-

Helen- Thanks! 6dpo here.

I would love the peanut butter noodles recipe too, please. :
post #37 of 91
Thanks for all the thoughts and well wishes.. we should be ok. Just scary, he's had that job for 10 years and it's like now what.


Helen, I love your food idea. That would be a great activity for my boys! I'm going to have to try that.

I'm curious about peanut butter noodles. It sounds a little odd but maybe I'm missing out on something good. I mean, I love peanut butter and pasta of any sort makes me happy.
post #38 of 91

Peanut Butter Noodles

It's from an old Family Fun. I found the recipe online:
http://jas.familyfun.go.com/recipefi...splay?id=50132

I hope they like it!

I thought it was just OK. I'd always heard of them and had never tried them. I probably won't serve it again, but you never know until you try, right?
post #39 of 91
I do not make more than one meal - I'm way too lazy for that! I always try to make at least one or two things that everyone can eat, even if it's just rice and a veggie. Cereal, PB&J or leftovers would also be okay with me. Nothing that requires any *cooking* though!!!!
post #40 of 91
THis thread is hopping. Does anyone here can or freeze tomatoes? If so, could you visit my thread here?
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