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post #41 of 91
Hi all. Just found this thread & would love to join you again.

Meals - I admit, I am often a "short order cook". : Ds(8) has had sensory issues throughout his life. He is growing out of them a great deal, but still has a definite list of what he will & will not eat (all healthy TG). So I tend to cater to him, rather than deal w/a whole battle, meltdown, ruined dinner scenario. Then one of my dds(4) announced when I told her she cannot eat pb&j every meal, "Fine. Then I'll have waffles for breakfast, pb&j for lunch & hotdogs (tofu pups) for dinner!" And a lot of times that is what she has, accompanied by fresh fruits & veggies w/each meal. My other two dds are pretty good eaters. If I can make a dinner that the adults plus 2 of the 4 kids will eat some or most of, I call that success.

Question - do you all eat dinner together as a family? This is a tough one for us. We try to a couple of times a week, but it is so much easier for me to feed the kids first, then dh will make us a dinner (usually something that the kids have no interest in) and we try to have a couple minutes together while the kids have some play time. I really would love the peaceful, fun family sharing dinner scenario but w/4 kids 8 and under it is more like me running around like a mad woman, barely having time to eat or sit down, trying to take care of everyone. It's a lot of work & not at all relaxing. I'd really like to work on this. Suggestions?
post #42 of 91
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Originally Posted by Mumof3Nic View Post
My husband lost his job two days ago. Uncertainty abounds.


My dh has been unemployed since the beginning of July. Luckily (thanks to his dad leaving us money) we're ok. Between my income, unemployment and the emergency fund, we'll be ok for a while.
post #43 of 91
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Question - do you all eat dinner together as a family?
We manage to have dinner together almost every night. As for the running around, we get everything on the table: silverware, drinks, food, extra food that isn't on plates. Then everyone eats together. I don't get up to get things once I've sat if it can be avoided. If the big two need something, they get it themselves.
post #44 of 91
I've been trying to get us all back in to the habit of eating together. Unfortunately we have just enough chairs for 5 of us... meaning my dh often eats out in the living room and the kids and I eat at the table. I have been trying to squeeze dh in at the table lately because I really feel it's important to eat together. Sometimes though (when I don't cook a big meal) we eat at different times. I always sit with the baby when she eats though.

phathui~ we are hoping his 401k will help carry us through.. it's truly the only option we have right now. That and unemployment. I just keep telling myself it will be ok, it will be ok, it will be ok! I'm sorry you guys are dealing with that as well.
post #45 of 91
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Originally Posted by ~*max*~ View Post
Hi all. Just found this thread & would love to join you again.

Meals - I admit, I am often a "short order cook". : Ds(8) has had sensory issues throughout his life. He is growing out of them a great deal, but still has a definite list of what he will & will not eat (all healthy TG). So I tend to cater to him, rather than deal w/a whole battle, meltdown, ruined dinner scenario. Then one of my dds(4) announced when I told her she cannot eat pb&j every meal, "Fine. Then I'll have waffles for breakfast, pb&j for lunch & hotdogs (tofu pups) for dinner!" And a lot of times that is what she has, accompanied by fresh fruits & veggies w/each meal. My other two dds are pretty good eaters. If I can make a dinner that the adults plus 2 of the 4 kids will eat some or most of, I call that success.

Question - do you all eat dinner together as a family? This is a tough one for us. We try to a couple of times a week, but it is so much easier for me to feed the kids first, then dh will make us a dinner (usually something that the kids have no interest in) and we try to have a couple minutes together while the kids have some play time. I really would love the peaceful, fun family sharing dinner scenario but w/4 kids 8 and under it is more like me running around like a mad woman, barely having time to eat or sit down, trying to take care of everyone. It's a lot of work & not at all relaxing. I'd really like to work on this. Suggestions?
Yes, every night! It's the only time we can really all sit down & be together. We got an 8-place table at an auction that has 2 leaves (it's HUGE!), and I LOVE it! I had to make a fitted tablecloth for it though, because I couldn't find one big enough to cover the table. Plus, it doesn't slide all over the place.

I try to involve the kids as much as my sanity allows in planning/preparing the meals. They eat more of what they've helped make. If you can, let them play with playdough or something while you're cooking. You can chat with them, and they get time with you too.
post #46 of 91
I have achieved victory! I finally figured out how to get all four kids to eat cooked carrots! I made homemade chicken noodle soup for dinner tonight and they all picked out and ate the carrots and celery. Wooohooo! The girls however barely touched the chicken. And DSD 9 professes to looooovvvvveee chicken. The problem? They saw the chicken bones that I picked the meat off of. They may not have come from my belly but they definitely have picked up some of my quirks!

With regard to eating meals together, we eat almost every dinner together unless DH has not gotten home from work yet. For breakfast and lunch however, I am usually up and down so much that I have just given up on eating until they are done. It's a tight squeeze at the table though right now. We need a bigger table. And a bigger dining room to put it in!
post #47 of 91
We eat at the same time.Our house was really a starter house so we have an old breakfast table from the 50's that the kids sit at and DH and I eat in the lving room.Sometimes the youngest is in the high chair but lately its been DD because DS#4 likes to hang over the side and then I don't eat.The two younger ones usually finsih eating quickly and then mooch off of my plate or try to nurse and DS#2 always is wants seconds so DH has to get up and help him.Our oldest is the last one to finish eating, I don't think he's eaten since he was 1 but somehow he still keeps growing,its a mystery. Sometimes I give up on eating and eat after everyone else has moved on to play or DH will hold the baby while I eat.If the weather is nice and I've managed to get the meal ready before it gets too dark and after the sun isn't shining right in our eyes we eat outside on a big picnic table that DH built.
I've even thought of just spreading down a blanket and some pillows and eat on the floor but DH isn't used to that so I'm not sure how well that would work.
post #48 of 91
My dh hasnt worked in two months! He is back to work monday though, so if we can just manage to get the bills paid and pay back the over 2000 in payday loans we have out....I dont even like to think about it, Im just glad he's back to work!

Eating togagher...never happens.Usually the baby eats in his highchair while I cook, then I get the middle two seated at the small table in the kitchen or the bigger one in the family room (the dinning room is more a play room/computer room space is so limited....)anyway... then I call everyone else to eat...by then Im cleaning up baby, he usually needs a bath, then the middle two are in the tub and after all thats done I might eat unless someone is ready to nurse...it's often an hour or two or three before I eat.
post #49 of 91
I totally forgot all about this thread! I'm posting to sub.

I'm a mom to 5 kiddos ages 10, 8.5, 7,5, and 13mo. We definately have plans for more....just not right now. Dh and I are thinking about TTC #6 next summer.

On cooking.....I usually try to ask for one of the older kids to be my "kitchen helper" when I'm cooking dinner. They help with food prep and help keep the kitchen clean while I cook.

I do not make special meals for those who refuse dinner. Normally it is my 5yo. He can have a PB&J if he doesn't want what I have made...that is pretty much standard. He will outgrow his pickyness....my older son who is almost 9 went through the same thing.


We try to eat dinner together every night....we succeed most of the time.
post #50 of 91
We try to eat together as much as possible. On Wednesdays there is too much ballet and sometimes DH's running schedule means that he ducks out early so I eat with the girls. C has to start at the table, but because she doesn't eat much regular foods due to allergies she usually doesn't stay the entire time.

I'm glad we have an eat in kitchen. It's a pain to move food/plates/milk etc just to there. I couldn't imagine doing it further. And we have a large table too and when we built our house we bumped out the area so the table would fit. Now that we are looking into moving, we are realizing that we are spoiled it that regard. Most of the areas only fit small tables. I don't want to end up with some eating at the table and some eating at the island in the kitchen. And even the formal dining rooms are small so that really isn't a possibility either. Once this baby is out of the high chair we'll be short a chair so we need to get 2 more (not to encourage DH for another, but I think there should be an even number of chairs at the table).
post #51 of 91


I joined in last month's thread and forgot about this group until today.

We started HSing DS for K last week and he loves it. We're all taking a trip to the zoo this Friday with my B/SIL and their kids. Should be fun!

Mealtime: We do eat dinner together almost every night unless DH is going to be late and I can't hold the kids off that long. I also make one thing for each meal and they can take it or leave it. I don't make things I know they won't like, I'm careful to stick to tried and true things. Luckily my kids aren't TOO picky.
post #52 of 91
Man, I have a house full of picky eaters! Drives me nuts!
post #53 of 91
We eat dinner together every night. We bought a bench at IKEA that can seat 3 or 4 (kids) along one side of the table and then have 3 chairs. SO once everyone is big there will be room but currently we have room for guests as the kids are all small still.
post #54 of 91
Am I the only person with children who eat everything? Skye still refuses fresh fruit and nobody except me likes mushrooms, but that's a pretty small problem in the overall scheme of things.
How do you manage when you get ill? I've sent the boys off to school by themselves but I'm sitting here with raging mastitis, a potty-training 2yo and Mr. No-sleep-at-night-I'm-teething-woo,look-mom-see-what-I-can-do trashing the house. It's 8.30am here and I have to keep going until 3, leave the house to bring the boys home and then keep functioning until 7. It's going to be a long, long day here.
post #55 of 91
Helen, sorry you're feeling so crappy. I hope you are lying on the sofa with cabbage leaves in your bra and Skye is managing to get everything in the potty.

Mine are not too picky either. We aren't offal eaters and the boys are also not keen on mushrooms but apart from that they are quite easy to feed. Everyone has their preferences and ds2 is partial to ketchup but I can't remember the last time I cooked separate meals.
post #56 of 91
Hi everyone! I just saw your thread since someone brought it back up to the top, and wanted to join in! I'm Jeni, mom to 3 girls (8, 5, and 2) and a baby boy who turns 11 months old tomorrow. We live in the Raleigh area. I homeschool my two oldest, and my husband is a computer guy who is 3/4 of the way done with his master of arts at seminary. after a year off he wants to go for his PhD.

Re: meals, if you don't like what I make, you can make yourself something. I usually have bread, peanut butter, cereal, canned baked beans, frozen mixed veggies, canned fruit, stuff like that as options. But because I have an oldest DD with sensory issues, I have trained myself to make at least 2 veggies and a starch at most meals so that even if she doesnt like the main course, there is enough in the side dishes to please her sensitive to meat texture self.
post #57 of 91
Just happened on this thread!
I have five kids - thats considered *many*, isn't it?!

Subbing for now...
post #58 of 91
I'm going to pop back into this thread...I seem to come and go a bit around here, but tend to read more than post.

Jenn, mom to four little ones, 5, almost 4, 2, and 6 months. Work full-time outside the home. Work full-time inside the home. Busy, busy bees!

Re: Meals: we rarely all eat together, which I hate. But DH works a second after school job after his daily teaching job, so he is rarely home before 8 at night. And my wee ones are in bed by that time. So I often make them a simple dinner around 5, have a nice night (or busy one) with them and then make another dinner when DH comes home.

As for picky eaters, I have them! And we're working around a variety of food allergies as well. If they don't want what I made for dinner they have three choices: 1) eat it anyway, 2) don't eat it and go to bed, or 3)have cold cereal. I don't make many meals - just one. No fuss/fights/arguements about it.
post #59 of 91
I've actually been thinking of switching our main meal to lunch. DH can come home most days, and maybe since he usually has to go back to church for evening meetings, I won't feel too badly if he takes a little more than an hour...
post #60 of 91
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Originally Posted by annettemarie View Post
I've actually been thinking of switching our main meal to lunch. DH can come home most days, and maybe since he usually has to go back to church for evening meetings, I won't feel too badly if he takes a little more than an hour...
We actually do that. Works out great!

Breakfast is a couple hours after they wake up, main meal in the middle of the day, and something like a sandwich, cereal, or some leftovers in the evening.
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