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post #61 of 91
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Helen, sorry you're feeling so crappy. I hope you are lying on the sofa with cabbage leaves in your bra and Skye is managing to get everything in the potty.
You jinxed me. Not only did she poo in her pants, rather than the potty, but then stood in it, took a couple of steps, fell over and skidded I can tell that in 20 years time, this is going to be one of those stories I love to retell, but for now, not so much The dog ate her pants whilst I was bathing her as well, so somehow I have to tell her that Dora and the unicorn met an unhappy end
Must sleep. DH was late home tonight (because he was trying to ring me so tea is late- he's gone to the fish and chip shop.:
post #62 of 91
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Originally Posted by flapjack View Post
You jinxed me. Not only did she poo in her pants, rather than the potty, but then stood in it, took a couple of steps, fell over and skidded I can tell that in 20 years time, this is going to be one of those stories I love to retell, but for now, not so much The dog ate her pants whilst I was bathing her as well, so somehow I have to tell her that Dora and the unicorn met an unhappy end
Must sleep. DH was late home tonight (because he was trying to ring me so tea is late- he's gone to the fish and chip shop.:
Oh no! I bet you were glad to see Steve with the fish and chips. Here's hoping for a better day today!
post #63 of 91
Poo went in a nappy yesterday, and the sleep deprivation (did I mention I got 5 hours sleep on Wednesday night?) made me hyperactive and somewhat efficient. I got a full nights sleep yesterday and I am generally back to normal- that is, apart from a house full of dirty laundry and food for dustmites.
post #64 of 91
Ha ha Greg and I are going out on our own tonight Yay! I need to tidy up a bit though for my dear friend who is going to babysit. She'll have to be able to sit down somewhere and use more than a 6" square of counter top to make a cup of tea.

Sleep... I could sleep for a week. For the last two days I have gone to bed at my usual night owl time of 2am and been up and out just after 9am which is a terrible shock to my system! I will be back to normal tomorrow I hope and be able to get up a bit later.
post #65 of 91
okay, ya'll, sorry for the change of topic...
how do you mamas deal with the constant wanting of another baby??????
i know it's totally natural to want another one even though i HAVE a one year old, have to work three mornings a week teaching preschool in my home with him while trying to homeschool my 4th grader...and we are barely getting by financially and i mean barely. my mom has to help us with my daughter's tuition at the waldorf school. i don't want to put my body through another pregnancy as i'm feeling older (33 but after 4 kids...) and don't want more varicose veins, migraines, etc....
but that yearning for the full belly, the sweet baby, the fun little one, just doesn't go away EVER for some of us, does it??

just looking for some insight...
post #66 of 91
I just keep getting knocked up, so I'm probably no help.

Seriously, . Sometimes I feel like I don't worry enough about finances.
post #67 of 91
Mataji4, I feel the same way! We have 4 wonderful kids, and we raised our nephew who is now a young adult. For a lot of reasons, mainly my health, (I had a lot of trouble w/my last pergnancy & birth & fear another would do serious damage to my body) we have decided not to have any more. Not a day goes by that I do not crave another baby though.

I think for moms of many it might be particularly hard to reconcile these feelings, as we've spent so much time pregnant, birthing & nursing that it feels unusual not to be experiencing any of those amazing phenonmenons.
post #68 of 91
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Originally Posted by annettemarie View Post
I just keep getting knocked up, so I'm probably no help.
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post #69 of 91
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Originally Posted by mataji4 View Post
okay, ya'll, sorry for the change of topic...
how do you mamas deal with the constant wanting of another baby??????
i know it's totally natural to want another one even though i HAVE a one year old, have to work three mornings a week teaching preschool in my home with him while trying to homeschool my 4th grader...and we are barely getting by financially and i mean barely. my mom has to help us with my daughter's tuition at the waldorf school. i don't want to put my body through another pregnancy as i'm feeling older (33 but after 4 kids...) and don't want more varicose veins, migraines, etc....
but that yearning for the full belly, the sweet baby, the fun little one, just doesn't go away EVER for some of us, does it??

just looking for some insight...
Umm we hurried out and had DH get a vasectomy when we were still tired and exhausted from having a newborn stage. We had discussed it prior so it was not a rash decision. In fact we were planning and setting a date when we found out Naomi was coming. I knew if we waited that in a year or so we would just kind of not use condoms or protection and be all oh if it happens it happens. And well it happens. I find myself snuggling with Nomy and being really sad that we are not having anymore and then I need to remind myself that I am exhausted and we really are done. We will adopt though I am sure. Older kids most likely, we have talked about teens before. I love giving birth, honestly! I hate being pregnant but love labor and pushing out a baby is seriously the best feeling in the world. Maybe I should not say that as I have never pushed for more than 10 minutes. But I could give birth over and over and over again.
post #70 of 91
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Originally Posted by ~*max*~ View Post

I think for moms of many it might be particularly hard to reconcile these feelings, as we've spent so much time pregnant, birthing & nursing that it feels unusual not to be experiencing any of those amazing phenonmenons.
that The other day I was nursing Marah to bed and for some reason started counting how long I have nursed in my life and it was 58 months and counting , so far 6 of those tandem (not consecutively but total).
post #71 of 91
Joining you. I currently have 3 DC, but number 4 will be here in January. I am laughing along with the stories about BC, because that is exactly what happened with us. After the twins were born we were pretty sure we were done, but we didn't want anything TOO permanent. Now our mother's day surprise is due around my birthday. I guess these days we are officially in the BIG family category. I am hoping for a vasectomy for Christmas, as my DH's insurance will cover it with no deductible before the end of the year. Here's hoping!
post #72 of 91
Hurray! - I'm so glad I found this thread because I want to see how other Mamas with many babies feel. My husband and I are discussing #6. I just don't feel like I am finished having babies yet, although I am pretty sure this one will be it. I just get so nervous thinking about it because I feel like I am pushing my luck at having another healthy baby. Pretty crazy, huh?
post #73 of 91
joining. i haven't seen any other posts here by mamas in blended families but i guess i'll be the first
i have one DS age almost 7, two DSS ages almost 6 and 7.5, and i am almost 8 months pregnant with my first baby with DH. we plan on trying for the next one about 6 months postpartum but we'll see cause i didn't get my cycle back with DS until 14 months pp.

people's reactions to us having, gasp, 4 children! is so funny, like it's just shocking that we have more than 2, i don't get it. but we live in a high cost area of the country, in a metropolis and amongst pretty liberal, non-religious folks so i guess the norm here is to not have very many kids, if any at all.
post #74 of 91
NAK. I'm a 33 yr old M.O.M whose expecting my 6th in Jan. After I had my 5th via c/s in Sept 07, I wanted a more permanent form of BC. I considered the IUD, but didn't move on getting it. So, now we'll be getting a baby instead.
I spoke to my Dr at my last appointment and she said that there is a chance that the IUD might not work for me bacuase I've had so many children. If I can recall correctly she said something about my uterus being too big, mabye she meant my cervix?
Any M.O.M currently using an IUD?
post #75 of 91
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Originally Posted by GAmomto5 View Post
Hurray! - I'm so glad I found this thread because I want to see how other Mamas with many babies feel. My husband and I are discussing #6. I just don't feel like I am finished having babies yet, although I am pretty sure this one will be it. I just get so nervous thinking about it because I feel like I am pushing my luck at having another healthy baby. Pretty crazy, huh?

I feel the same way and I'm pregnant with #6. I still don't feel done. I keep having the nagging feeling that if I have anymore there might be some genetic problems. This might be our last though, it'll be my second c/s.
post #76 of 91
I had an IUD fitted- we realised that we really messed up CTA last month and had unprotected the day before I o'ed, so after much soul-searching I had an IUD fitted as emergency contraception. I know it was the right decision for us- like Max, my last pregnancy kicked my ass hard (SPD in my case) and I had a string of miscarriages before River came along- but part of me was thinking how nice another soft fluffy newborn would be. I think if I'd actually had some sleep that week, the decision would have been harder to make, though...
arismama, at least three of us have children with two dads, and there is another stepmum around- I don't remember who, though. Anyone know?
post #77 of 91
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Originally Posted by arismama! View Post
people's reactions to us having, gasp, 4 children! is so funny, like it's just shocking that we have more than 2, i don't get it. but we live in a high cost area of the country, in a metropolis and amongst pretty liberal, non-religious folks so i guess the norm here is to not have very many kids, if any at all.
If I had a nickel for every time some one said "You sure have your hands full" I would be a rich woman. It is so had not to when they said it and say something snotty. I'm really itching for #6, but I'm not looking forward to the comments from total strangers.

I don't think that I can ever make a permanent BC decision. I have several friends who had a tubal or vas and later regretted it....on of them has 7 children and has now done several rounds of IVF to achieve a preganancy after she had a tubal and even attempted a reversal.

I don't know how many children we will end up with, and I don't know if that baby fever will every go away.
post #78 of 91
Yes! I knew it! If we wait on the permanent birth control, we have more children. My husband SAYS he's done but he looks at me with his "aww, honey" baby look every time he holds a baby! He won't admit it, but smiles when I accuse him, the scoundrel. It's hard when you love your husband and love your kids to NOT want more, right? At some point, though, am I being irresponsible because we have no savings, lots of debt and I HAVE to work...to then bring another child into the family, the world. Babies are just pure joy. Maybe it's like a drug addiction! Even when mine is teething and coughing with a cold and whining at me to hold him 24-7, I am SO glad he is here with us.

I have only NOT nursed for a year in the past 9 1/2. My entire adult life I have had a baby. It's a serious lifestyle change to NOT have one and I'm just not sure how to prepare for that, transition there...I might as well be moving to Mars!

Oh, and it doesn't help that birth control just sucks!

I remember worrying last time if the baby would be healthy or it was "my turn" to have something go wrong. I imagine that worry might get stronger with each consecutive baby.
post #79 of 91
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Originally Posted by arismama! View Post
joining. i haven't seen any other posts here by mamas in blended families but i guess i'll be the first
We're a kind of blended family although I never think if it like that!
post #80 of 91
I really don't think that I'm done yet, but the idea of more c/s really scares me. Especially since I have a t scar and the recovery was the worse. I'm thinking maybe 1 more when I'm like 40, I'll be 34 in Jan. My DH wants me to get my tubes tied because I really went through a tought time when I had my c/s in Sept 07.
I haven't told him that I want at least 1 more. For me I think it is like an addiction. We also don't have any savings. I have debt, but DH doesn't. Plus we have 4 DC in private school. I think once this baby is able to go to school, I'll go to work, but that's not for at least 4 yrs.
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