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post #81 of 91
We have kids in private school too (Waldorf), which is non negotiable. We won't have more than three there at a time, though as it only goes through 8th, grade.

I just talked to a woman last night who got pregnant on the copper IUD and then her husband got a vasectomy and had THREE consecutive infection issues at his surgery site- yikes. After I shared those stories, my dh said, "Well, I guess we'll just never have sex again. You can find some lover who is impotent." And I said "And you can find a post-menopausal woman to sleep with." haha!

I know a few women who have gotten pregnant after a vasectomy too. Babies happen!

Thanks for engaging in the conversation. I'm sure it's not a new one to this board! It's so nice to have people to talk with who understand my baby crazed self (NOT like my circle of friends/family).
post #82 of 91
Yeah, some people just don't understand. They keep asking how many more I want. I don't know, we'll see. What I do know is that I don't want to tie my tube, it's too final of a move to make.
post #83 of 91
As to meals...we all eat together at the table every night of the week. I cook from scratch every night of the week. I wish we could afford to go out more but really it's just the local burrito joint once a month!

Did you find that your cycles came back later with each baby, or earlier? I'm still awaiting mine, now at 16 months pp. My first was 14 mos, and the other two were 15 mos. I guess mine are taking longer each time and I wonder if that is common.
post #84 of 91
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As to meals...we all eat together at the table every night of the week. I cook from scratch every night of the week. I wish we could afford to go out more but really it's just the local burrito joint once a month!

Did you find that your cycles came back later with each baby, or earlier? I'm still awaiting mine, now at 16 months pp. My first was 14 mos, and the other two were 15 mos. I guess mine are taking longer each time and I wonder if that is common.

Unfortunately my cycles ALWAYS come back the next month after the baby is born. With my first DC I hadn't even stopped my PP bleeding:
post #85 of 91
going back to the last conversation...

i had my tubes tied after #4 and, despite all the things we deal with (autism, adhd and food allergies) with our kids, and my physical problems, i still feel like it was the dumbest thing i ever did.

one of my best friends just had a baby and i got to be there and see her born and i was so happy for them, but at the same time i feel like the worst friend ever cuz i am so jealous! ridiculous, no? i cry every time i see her.

i would dearly love to have 6 or 7 kids. i just made a panic decision b/c i was scared of having another c-section (at the time all i'd heard were horror stories) and we are, um, seriously broke, anyway. i wish the thought had never crossed my mind.

i want a reversal, even tho the people around me IRL think i'm nuts to even think about it. (not like i have the money for it anyway, but should the funds ever come my way... i'll do it!)
post #86 of 91
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We're a kind of blended family although I never think if it like that!
We are a blended family as well. DH and I are expecting our second child together, though this will be #5. :
post #87 of 91
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arismama, at least three of us have children with two dads, and there is another stepmum around- I don't remember who, though. Anyone know?
I'm the stepmom with many! I have four DSC and I would dearly love to add to our family but DH says no. My wish to the universe is that he will change his mind.

I've been in deep cleaning mode for the past few days and ended up shampooing the carpet in the living room and dining room. It was so gross! I think I need to start doing that at least every couple of months. We also rearranged the furniture in the living room and dining room to maximize the space. The kids come home tonight so it will be our first test run to see if we can all fit around the table comfortably now. It's difficult to have 6 people living in 1100 sq ft!
post #88 of 91
I don't think we had much more than that before the extension was built At the moment I'm feeling extremely done- last night my breastfed, coslept, plugged-with-a-pacifier baby woke up between every 20 and 45 minutes, even after I poured a bottle of calpol down his throat. I spent the morning with five babies aged between 4 and 16 weeks, and you know what? I didn't want another one. This is so weird, but so nice.
post #89 of 91
It's definitely not impossible to have the 6 of us living in 1100 sq ft but it does force me to be creative in how that space is used! It also makes us not do the pack-rat thing which is a big tendency for both DH and I.

I have had those feelings in the past that there is no way that we could possibly add another human to our family, especially during times when I am getting us ready to take a trip. Or this summer when DH had to be at work early and I was trying to get everyone ready for the day, including myself as well as feed them breakfast, pack their lunches and make sure that I had what I needed for work. All I could think during that time was "it would be insane to add a baby to this!"

But I have slowly been making changes to our house and also letting DH take over more of the morning responsibility. He came up with a morning checklist recently so the kids know exactly what they need to do before heading out the door so it requires very little input from us except to say "What still needs to be checked off?" So now I am leaning more towards the idea that it is totally possible to add someone else to our family. Hopefully DH will come around one day.
post #90 of 91
I am getting and about our lack of space and our stuff. I don't want to brag but our house is under 500sqft and it is doing my head in. Winter is on the way and we will all be inside more so I have been shifting the deckchairs on the Titanic to see if it will make any difference. Maybe it will but maybe the only advantage will be that we won't be too cold this winter with us all breathing indoors and that will reduce our fuel bills.

Are we done? who knows. I dismantled the cot last week after almost 6 years of use by the girls. It is now in the shed and the mattress has gone to the dump but I don't know if I want to keep it or not. It is a Brio bedside cot with a cool slidey up and over side - do you want it Helen?

Dh was telling me yesterday that if we had a boy Harvey would be a cool name, or Daniel... he hasn't given up yet....

Shall we have a new thread for October? We are halfway through already! Where is Baltic Ballet when you need her?
post #91 of 91
I feel you on the space issue. I was wondering last night if our's is an issue of too many people or too much stuff. Anyone ever see Karl Larsson's drawings/paintings? Simple Swedish home...beautiful work. Makes me want to get rid of everything!

But really, there is not enough kitchen counter space and nothing will fix that but more counter space.

I wish you could choose the sex of your children by thought alone!!!!! If I could have another daughter, I would. My poor dd wrote Santa a letter asking for a sister last year! We tried to explain to her that Santa doesn't give out people.
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