I have a sleeping/pacifier question. DD usually goes to sleep for the night at about 8 o'clock. I"m still not with it enough to be ready before she is for this. We get home at 6 and between dinner, diaper washing and pump/bottle washing, well it's a beat the clock thing. Thankfully Mr Toona usually handles dinner and we go halfsies on the pump/bottles, but I still feel like there's no evening time at all.
Back to the question - she gets cranky/sleepy for her goodnight nursing/bed at right about 8 pm. I usually side-lie nurse her in bed and then end up falling asleep because she will stay latched on for goddess knows how long. I'd like to be able to transition her from bed to crib at this point in the game (at least until she wants to nurse next, I really need a few more minutes of grown-up time). I'm thinking the use of a pacifier after she's been comfort sucking for a while might help in this process. Such as swap out one nipple for the next. I'm also thinking that maybe if I goodnight nurse her sitting up (in the rocking chair or on the couch downstairs) to get her out of the habit us both lying down to nurse might help too, (it might make the transition to crib smoother too). But I wanted to see if anyone has tips/advice doing so.
I would kind of like her to sleep a bit longer through the night, with less nursing sessions (I need more sleep), but I understand that she needs momma time too, so this is my compromise, I hope.
He didn't want a pacifier in the beginning, but I just kept offering him one when he was tired or cranky during the day. Didn't force it, just offered it. Eventually he started taking it sometimes. He started accepting it at night sometimes when I offered it when he was done nursing and just turning his head back to me for quick flyby comfort suckles before falling asleep. So now, he will stop nursing before he falls asleep on his own, and if he looks like he still wants to comfort suck, I offer a pacifier. Sometimes he's not interested, sometimes he'll sleep with it for the next 2 hours until he wakes up for the first time :P Once he falls asleep I wait 10-15 minutes (too soon and he just wakes up when I transfer him) and then transfer him to his crib where he stays until I'm ready to go to bed. Then he comes into bed with us after he wakes up the next time.
I feel pretty good about how this is working for us, especially now that I am all done feeling guilty about not getting him sleeping in his crib all night! It's amazing how insidious mainstream parenting advice is. I get about 2 hours (sometimes even 3 on a good night) of free time before he wakes up for the first time and it's time to get myself to bed anyway.