We just had our second baby, VBAC, at home. It was the most AMAZING experience of my life. I felt that my first birth was an unnecessary c-sec (induced, pit, "faillier" to progress) and decided i did not want that kind of care
I really liked Birthlove.com. It has tons of info on VBAC. Also the book Birthing from Within helped me work through all my fear, anger, resentment issues.
The point is birth works, and works best when the mama is supported and loved. My favorite memories are taking a shower with hubby (got me to 9+ cen). And snuggling in bed, my bed! (got me to 10 and pushing).
This all after 5 day of early labor, plus 18 hr active labor. And through it all everyone smiled at me! Thats something you only get at homebirth's.
Katherine, my advice, learn everything you can. Then try to forget everything and listen to your instincs. Dose that make any sence?