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post #41 of 114
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Welcome Gypsyhips! Does your user name means you belly dance?
you betcha! its the nickname my DH came up for me when we first met (no belly-dancing smilies... and so the dancing banana instead-seems appropriate since its my LO fave food )
post #42 of 114
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GypsyHips-- You missed where I was complaining a couple of weeks ago about trying to find a belly dancing class. There are some around here, but nothing that fits my schedule or my character just right that I've found yet.

Lead paint:
My $20k figure for the lead abatement is just a random guess off the top of my head. It could be $60k, or $10k... (It's never the lowest figure, though, is it!!!) However, de-leading itself will add some value (no one would buy this house in this neighborhood without kids, I think!) plus it will involve doing other fixes that wanted doing anyway--like just replacing our 36 windows will easily cost $20k. Aside from the window replacement, all of our moldings (around every window, every door, all the baseboards, etc.) require encapsulation, professional/safe scraping and repainting, or replacement. They all look like heck now anyway, so doing it will add value, but at a much higher cost than simply doing it without lead abatement standards would've--but at what risk to my boys? It's all crappy, but I'm starting to feel relief that we're finally taking action.

But in order to take this action, now I need more MONEY! : I'm reading up on a HUD loan called a 203(k) that lets you borrow up to 110% of the IMPROVED value of your home if you submit documentation of what you will do and how it will add that much value. Sounds perfect, but I'm only just starting to look into it. I dream a dream of getting my room addition (adding a master bed/bath above our existing single-story family room addition) in tandem with purging our poor old house of its decade of neglect and toxic paint... I'll keep you all updated, of course.

Classes for tots:
I signed A. up for gymnastics! S. didn't have any formal classes until he was almost two (Waldorf parent-child), but A. is such a little monkey boy. He climbs all over everything. At home, it is "Don't do that! No! Stop!" I just had to find a safe place for him to be himself. He is so much littler than the other tots in the class. He loved it, though. His favorite thing was hanging on the uneven bars while the "coach" held him to help him do chin ups and leg lifts. He screamed when she put him down. (I also got a lot of exercise chasing him around the gymnastics studio.)

Holidays:
I'm trying to get rid of stuff. I don't want anyone giving any of us anything! Well, that's not true. I hope my in laws will buy A. a pair of sheepskin boots from Soft Star Shoes. A. could also use a Svan chair like S.'s. But no little stuff, please! I just put out 14 boxes of donations this morning for Big Brothers/Big Sisters. I want to dust/wash every item we own (gulp!) when I empty rooms for the de-leading. It makes me almost physically ill how much stuff we have sometimes. I'm the daughter of an OCD packrat. Her excesses are organized. I collect stuff out of fear and to fill emotional voids, but then it makes me feel worse as it gathers (toxic leaded) dust. My bro/SIL agreed with us to just do (small!) gifts for the kids. If only Mom could be dissuaded from over doing everything. Oh sigh. I don't even want to think about it yet. I think my feelings about the holidays would be happier if I knew we weren't going to exchange gifts with anyone.

Gee. I didn't mean to be such a downer. I actually love shopping all fall for the winter holidays, believe it or not!

--willo
post #43 of 114
Hello all--especially the new and long-lost mamas!

Willo--sorry to hear about the lead stuff--what a pain! I hope there are some workable options to get it safely sorted out for your family.

Classes: I signed Joy up for Gymboree about a month ago and it's been really good for us. It's great for her to have a safe place to climb and run and jump and she seems to love it. We go out to lunch before class and make a big day of it--it breaks up the week well. Other than that, we're just doing playdates and trips to the park with friends. As she gets a little older, we'll look into some other options.

Holidays: I haven't even thought about what to get Joy. We're going to go on a big trip to the local zoo over Thanksgiving and if she likes it, maybe I'll do a family membership for next year as a gift. She has so much stuff as it is and I'm sure that there will be more coming from the grandparents so I really don't want to buy her a lot of stuff. For everyone else, I'm making dip mixes in jars that my mom painted with a spreading knife attached with a ribbon, and we'll probably brew some homemade beer again to give away.

DH is going away for a 2 week work trip soon and I'm feeling mighty nervous about how we'll manage. I know Joy will miss him so much and I'll be exhausted by the time he gets back. I'm trying to line up some time now for friends to at least stop by and visit so I can get some adult company.

Gotta run--naptime's over!
post #44 of 114
Oh yeah... gifts for others!

We usually make real fruitcake (based on the Alton Brown recipe that calls for REAL dried fruits and organic stuff you actually want to eat... we start with dried fruit and let it sit in yummy booze to rehydrate. It's serious yum.). So everyone gets a fruitcake. And then we make jam and everyone gets a container of that too (we've made chocolate cherry, ginger peach, cran apple, hot pepper, etc).

I usually make some sort of fiber art gift for the immediate family (last year I made Laia a Totoro and Rowan a quilt, DH got a Jayne Hat) and my emergency gifts were big coffee mugs (alice in wonderland style mugs from a dollar store) with home blended hot cocoa or herbal tea twisted up in cheese cloth and a home made biscotti. I made a double batch of biscotti, a big container of hot cocoa and a container of herb tea blend, and had a dozen mugs on hand. If I needed an instant gift (for a teacher, the mailman, the person who dropped by with a gift out of the blue, the friend of the family who "showed up" at a holiday gathering, etc) it was on hand, cost about 2 dollars tops, and DH and I ate any extra cookies!

I did a cookie exchange one year and it was a blast! I don't know if I know enough people IRL now... it was through my job and my IRL friends either don't bake or have so many conflicting allergies there wouldn't be any recipe that would work for everyone (which sort of removes the cookie exchange benefits!)

Mmmmmm.... I really do like the holidays, though I'm so last minute about it I know I wont do anything till mid December!
post #45 of 114
I'm trying desperately to plan for the holidays this year without actually thinking about them. Last year there was way too much stress with MIL (and DH was more stressed than me). Picture screaming match between MIL and SIL at Thanksgiving dinner that woke my Deaf DS from a sound sleep, and then MIL not speaking to us again after blowing us off on Christmas Eve until DS's birthday in May. Yikes.

I'm trying to figure out what would make this holiday fun, who I want to see, and how I want to celebrate. I know I want to be home on Solstice and Christmas morning, since those are my and DH's big holidays. Besides that, I'm plotting homemade gifts for family and some friends. Pickles and paper crafted goodies mostly.

Wombat, I cracked up reading your post about what you crafted last year. Totoro! Jane hat!! You're my kind of mama.
post #46 of 114
I love the holidays so much. My favorite part is decorating our house. DS1 and I make it a month-long project. We do so many crafts so by Christmas our house is covered in decorations! We bake cookies for everyone and have fun decorating them. I'm smiling just thinking about all of the fun we'll have this year with two kids

Clay: you reminded me about the family gifts - thanks! We're going to ask grandma for an annual pass to our local museam We're trying to minimize stuff too and opt for mostly practical gifts. The amount of stuff my family gives for Christmas is insane.
post #47 of 114
I signed DS up for a tot class with our town's rec. department. Once a week we go and the kids get to run around, climb, dance and play. We've only been once but so far he likes it. DS is usually very outgoing, but he was somewhat clingy for the first 20 minutes or so. The class is for walking - 2 1/2, so he is one of the younger kids at 15 months. I think the sight of all the big kids running around was a bit much for him at first. By the end of the class he was running around with them, though.

For the nursing mamas - have you gotten AF back yet? DS has cut back his nursing some since starting solids a couple months ago, and he's only nursing once at night now. I'm wondering if I'm on the verge of my first pp AF since I've been having some crampiness.
post #48 of 114
I'm tandem nursing and still got AF back around 9 months? Somewhere around then. Which is better than with dd1... despite the ecological nursing AF came back around 5-6 months pp.

I am soooooo envious of mamas who get a full year or more! (though obviously there are down sides to that too).
post #49 of 114
With DS1 AF came back sometime around 16 mos or so. I just had my first pp ovulation a few days ago so my first PPAF should be here in about a week. Its funny because it is just about the same exact timing as with DS1. DS2 is still nursing all the time, I'm shocked that I O'd already. I've really enjoyed not having AF, its been over 2 yrs since my last AF! In fact, Evan was conceived 2 yrs ago today
post #50 of 114
Willo: If you're ever in NYC and in need of a bellydancing class recommendation let me know, I have been dancing with some amazing teachers over the years-all different styles.


As for AF, she showed up when Lil' Roc was about 10 months...


On the holiday discussion- I have been wanting to get our families to try a cookie and ornament swap (since there are A LOT of people to give gifts to), but my DH doesn't think it will fly...any suggestions for how to convince the family its a good thing?
post #51 of 114
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On the holiday discussion- I have been wanting to get our families to try a cookie and ornament swap (since there are A LOT of people to give gifts to), but my DH doesn't think it will fly...any suggestions for how to convince the family its a good thing?
I've never convinced my mom to downsize gift-giving, but my SIL and I have done so, and most of our extended family/friends have, too. So, basically, we negotiated amongst smaller sub-sections of the family. Mom can still go crazy, but the rest of us are just along on her ride, doing our less extravagant thing. (That's okay in our family--it'd be tough if Mom felt slighted by not receiving on the scale that she gives, but she doesn't, so we're good.)

Last night, I had anxiety dreams ALL NIGHT about housing. I dreamt I was back in college in a weird dorm and I couldn't figure out which bathroom to use. I dreamt I'd bought yet another house with all kinds of problems and I was desperately trying to explain to everyone these convoluted fixes I wanted to make to turn it into the "perfect" home... Oh, I am SO obsessive.

Anyone ever talk to a HUD housing counselor? Turns out there is this government loan program called a 203(k) where you can borrow up to 110% of the IMPROVED value of a home--so you get the mortgage plus the money to do a major renovation all at once. Sounds too good to be true, but if I could do my lead abatement and my upstairs addition all in one period of upheaval, my life would be so good!

You know, I just realized as I walked into my house that my clutter isn't as bad as I still think it is. I mean, there are still odd piles of stuff in almost every room, but they don't dominate any room any more. I was just trying to start planning for how I would pack up/shift around all my clutter before getting the de-leading done, and I think it won't be as bad as I thought. I've really done some massive purging of stuff in the past year or so. (Patting myself on the back!)

Latest thyroid results: TSH is back to normal and T4 is now a bit low. Looks like I'm entering hypothyroid land. I wonder if that's why I felt so cold and tired today? How long does it take for my feelings to catch up to those hormones, I wonder? Another week 'til the next test, so we'll see if I fall far or just have a tiny bounce before normalizing. (Everyone send me normalizing thyroid vibes! Please?! )

Also, I had a lead test, just in case our remodel had done anything really bad, and mine is normal. I think A.'s lead level is just due to him being more of a mouth-er than his brother was. (There's also more stuff lying around than when S. was a baby, and, frankly, the baby toys got rinsed off less often than they did with the first one, too. )

--willo
post #52 of 114
Yay willo- healthy thyroid vibes flying your way!

Gypsyhips- I miss belly dance... I studied/danced for years, then had a problematic first pregnancy and haven't gotten back into dance as much as I've wanted. Now that dd2 is a bit older though it's on my "short list" of things to do. The problem now is finding a teacher. I like ATS and it's more or less what our local SCA middle eastern dancies session is, but the only real live instructor in the region is hard core cabaret/classical and it's just not what I want to do right now (she's a great dancer though and I studied with her for a few years... but I just don't have the excitement about that style that would get me out of the house and into class consistantly). I'll probably preview a few more dvds (thank you netflix) for a re-intro and then rely more on my old dvd collection (mostly Kihara and Brice). Ack! Dance babble!

Ro is totally into copying things these days... I know Montessori theory is that you shouldn't discourage a child from repetition, that they learn/master an activity by doing it over and over, and that interupting a child during this will lead to tears/tantrum. But what am I supposed to do? Ro takes the dog's dish, carries it to the sink, wait for me to add water, carries it back to his crate, puts it down.... and then picks up the dish, carries it to the sink, etc. Over and over and over as Paco gets more and more confused, the trail of splashed water gets bigger and bigger, and I get more and more frazzled. But if I try saying "last time" and redirecting her she has a total meltdown of tears and no no no no no!

Any ideas? This too shall pass?
post #53 of 114
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Ro is totally into copying things these days... I know Montessori theory is that you shouldn't discourage a child from repetition, that they learn/master an activity by doing it over and over, and that interupting a child during this will lead to tears/tantrum. But what am I supposed to do? Ro takes the dog's dish, carries it to the sink, wait for me to add water, carries it back to his crate, puts it down.... and then picks up the dish, carries it to the sink, etc. Over and over and over as Paco gets more and more confused, the trail of splashed water gets bigger and bigger, and I get more and more frazzled. But if I try saying "last time" and redirecting her she has a total meltdown of tears and no no no no no!

Any ideas? This too shall pass?
Can you give the dog a second dish so that at least he'll have some water while she practices? I think it's great to help her practice, but you can't spend your whole life refilling a water bowl. The things you want and need to do matter too, so when you've reached your limit, I think it's okay to stop.
post #54 of 114
I find myself doing a lot of comforting and naming of emotions for Owen. "Yes, I know that you get so mad and frustrated when I tell you no." "You're right, it stinks when I don't let you touch the plugs."
post #55 of 114
He walks!! Since yesterday walking has become Evan's transportation method of choice. Today he's running around with a ball and throwing it, then chasing it. : He's so pleased with himself. Last night he woke up at midnight and stood up on the bed
post #56 of 114
yay!

welcome to total insanity!
post #57 of 114
Oh what fun!! Way to go Evan!! That's so exciting!!
post #58 of 114
Go, Evan!

L is officially climbing now. :
A few days ago, she figured out how to climb up the stool in the kitchen. Then she learned how to use a little bucket to climb up the furniture in the living room. Now, she's figured out that she can carry the little bucket around to climb wherever she wants. Things just got really tricky.
post #59 of 114
Yeah Even,

Jolie is a climber and proud of it too!! I am thinking gymnastics would be a good thing for her. I am looking into it.
post #60 of 114
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Yeah Even,

Jolie is a climber and proud of it too!! I am thinking gymnastics would be a good thing for her. I am looking into it.
My middle DD started gymnastics at 2.5yo. She's 5yo and on the team now. I put her in gymnastics because she was a CRAZY climber and I figured it'd be good for her to learn how to land safely. My third is also a climber, but isn't quite as wild.
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