Originally Posted by joeymama
I have got to say you really want those lines of communication to be open over the next 5 years, Doing things like things like taking the door off hinges, searching rooms, and tapping phones are all BIG wedges in your relationship with your son, How can he trust you if you give him no trust?
My parents did all of these things to me I am speaking from experience, I would sneak out and be gone doing all kinds of things and most of the time it was just to prove that I could get away with it, that they couldnt stop me, those things really hurt my relationship with MY parents. I agree that there should be concawuenses, but may the punishment fit the crime.
What about taking him to a drug rehab center so he can see first hand what kinds of things can happen to him if you go down that path>?
And from the other side of the fence, my father did none of those things. He did nothing that would harm our relationship in the name of protecting me. And yes I did things wrong, but when it came down to it 90% of what I did wrong, I only did it once because my father dealt with it respectfully and I felt the need to show him the same respect back so I listened.
Originally Posted by chiromamma
There's nothing cool and new about it. People have been overcoming their perceived limitations of their bodies through their minds for centuries. There are programs specifically for teens that offer these opportunities.
And, they're not for everyone.
I just needed to respond to this. In many cultures around the world, drugs that are considered illegal or bad here are used just for that purpose for religious or cultural ceremonies.
Personally I do see parents today overreacting to pot, I smoked pot, I know many people who did and do, and they are all good people and none of them have ruined their lives. Not saying it doesn't happen, but it's not as common with pot as the 'war on drugs' would have you believe. But then it could just be that living in BC I have difference experiences with it. People here don't react as strongly to pot as people in the US or even other parts of Canada.
There's a reason Vancouver is nick named Vansterdam.