Originally Posted by Multimomma
Oh, I've come up against a few self-proclaimed RU'ers whom I would consider unparenting.
I know of about three more families just in my immediate area that my kids are afraid of, because the kids are so out of control. We stopped hosting events at our house because they've broken too many of our things and hurt the lil ones too many times and the kids just don't want them there. BUT they don't want to exclude them specifically from an invitation list because it might hurt their feelings.
ok, I see. No, I have never met any families like that. I have seen som kids at playgrounds who look very lost and sometimes are being agressive- but then I usually cant spot their parents
, and this is not unschooling types - just a regular day at the playground.
How do you think the children feel? Do they want to be there at all? I read a post once when someone was describing a mom who sat the whole time talking about the "wonders" of RU and her children were saying something like "god, cant wait to get out of here, we are so bored but mom HAS to do her US talking"....
I sometimes have a hard time feeling connected to my kids schooled friends. They seem to run wild when no one is close by. It is as if the rules and control are in place all day and when the control is lifted they go overboard. They just do weird things that I don't get - destructive things
And they are always checking to see if I am looking. Sometimes I will walk into the room and they all look up and yell "WE DIDN'T DO IT!!". Poor kids. But I know they are told that we are the "weird", free, hippie types - and all they here is "THERE ARE NO RULES" - I trying to clearify to them though
, hey, we have lots of rules, they are just different from what you might be used to at home...
I have not met unschoolers with this type of behavior.