|there is no way I would ever use any hormone pills, shots, or any chemical barriers, spermicides, sponges, etc... dh hates condoms, I am not confident about diaghrams, definately would never do an IUD...
I feel the same way. I'm morally opposed to an IUD and my body is biologically opposed to hormonal forms of birth control. DH hates anything that interferes with the moment (VCF, condoms, diaphragm, etc). I don't do very well with NFP or FAM because during the time when I'm ovulating, I really do *want* another baby. Two days later, I'm thinking "WHAT?! I don't WANT A BABY RIGHT NOW!!" but during that fertile period, I'm essentially in heat. It's CRAZY! That's why I've decided on the cervical cap.
The cervical cap is like an extended wear contact lens for your cervix. It fits on your cervix using the same suction concept as contact lenses, so there isn't any concern about your muscles being strong enough to hold it (or not). The cap itself is made of a soft rubber-ish material and 99% of sexual partners say they can't feel it during intercourse because it is flesh-like enough that it's imperceptible. You can use a small amount of spermicide inside the cap, put it in, and leave it in for two to three days. There is no need to remove it after intercourse or to add more spermicide before a second act of intercourse. If you're sensitive to spermicide, you can use it without, though you are going to sacrifice some of the effectiveness. When you take it out, you wash it with soap and water and soak in a mild vinegar solution to disinfect it and remove protein deposits. Check for any holes (in which case you need a new one), put some spermicide in it and re-insert it.
With a cervical cap you do need to have a pap every 6 months to make sure that it's still fitting properly and not causing irritation to the cervix. I haven't used one yet, but really think that it's the answer to my birth control woes. I sure hope so!