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post #41 of 45
wow! that is a hard situation, but i know the feeling well. i live in kansas, and as a previous post stated...it can be hell for us crunchy mamas. but i agree with those who said maybe you should take some time away from the town you live in without actually moving. if you think about losing $35,000, spending a few thousand for trips away here and there isn't that bad. i think it might give you a taste of sanity to get you through the 2 years, then you can move. also, you might try getting some therapy or trying some natural methods for depression while you're stuck in your situation. best wishes.
post #42 of 45

It is terrible to hate where you live.  Have you tried talking to a therapist about the depression?   Not that I think they always have the answers- but if there is depression- that is something that needs to be fixed within yourself.  (Perhaps medication as well- herbal or medical.)   I started to homeschooling my little ones recently and am too busy to be sad.  ( I live in SC... and hate it...)  Perhaps get yourself and the little ones involved in a charity like a animal shelter or volunteer at a nursing home.  There are always others waaaayyy worse off than us and sometimes walking in their shoes can change our perspective and make us grateful for what we do have.  

 

Hang in there--- "This to shall pass!"

post #43 of 45

It is terrible to hate where you live.  Have you tried talking to a therapist about the depression?   Not that I think they always have the answers- but if there is depression- that is something that needs to be fixed within yourself.  (Perhaps medication as well- herbal or medical.)   I started to homeschooling my little ones recently and am too busy to be sad.  ( I live in SC... and hate it...)  Perhaps get yourself and the little ones involved in a charity like a animal shelter or volunteer at a nursing home.  There are always others waaaayyy worse off than us and sometimes walking in their shoes can change our perspective and make us grateful for what we do have.  

 

Hang in there--- "This to shall pass!"

post #44 of 45

Me, too.  Every day I feel that a part of me is dying a little bit more....because I am so depressed about where I live.  We have lived in the same home for 12 years and there is so much bringing me down including the schools, the weather and my neighbors.  When we first moved here (expecting our first child) our next door neighbor consisted of a couple.  The husband was pleasant and outgoing.  His wife on the other hand really let me know that she wasn't exactly interested in having any sort of friendship.  To this day I have no idea why....and it doesn't matter anymore because they moved.  Since then two families have been in that house and the current one keeps to themselves.....and I respect that since I am somewhat quiet myself.  The other two neighbors on that side don't really have much contact with us since their kids are older.  Different phase of life.  That's ok. 

 

On the other side of my house the neighbors all have little kids.  And, God almighty one of the Mom's is a complete sociopath who has made my life a living hell.  In fact yesterday I had the misfortune of running into her at a coffee shop as I was catching up with a dear friend.  UGH!!!  Just remembering the conversation she came over and started (even though I did my best to ignore her) is bringing me to tears this morning.  In a nutshell without rehashing the entire episode she extended a second-hand invite to me and my kids for something that she and the other neighbors had already planned.  I said I would think about it -- but what I wanted to say was: Thank you for thinking of us but I have to respectfully decline since we weren't considered in the first place. ...  But, I didn't, because I didn't want my friend to think I was a bitch.  It's just that I haven't shared my history of hell with the sociopath with my friend.  Why?  Because I am embarrassed that I have repeatedly let the sociopath knock down my walls.  She's the Queen Bee and absolutely rules the cul de sac roost and I am her favorite and only target.

 

What I would give to move.  I would sell everything and anything of value that I have.  Having stuff is not important.  Being surrounded my family and friends that love you and care for you is what's important.  I also need drier and sunnier weather.

post #45 of 45

Is there a Unitarian Universalist church near where you live? Even if you are not interested in the religious part of the church, they usually have some great social groups and you will meet the most open minded, nicest people ever. I think if you can just meet a few of the right people you will learn about resources (a good preschool, a cool coffee house, etc) that you never had heard of before. Believe it or not, I found a UU chruch smack dab in the middle of a small town in Oklahoma and my life changed even though the geography did not.

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