I hesitate posting this but I don't feel completely bonded with DD like I did with DS at this point when he was an infant. Some of the things about both births were the same - induction for pre-e and seperated shortly after birth but alot of things were different. With DS I had 10 weeks off from work to be with him and he came home from the hospital with me. He wasn't a preemie. DD stayed in the hospital for a week and half and I was unable to hold her until the last 2 days and I only had 3 weeks home with her before I had to return to work (she was a surprise and I had not saved my paid time off). She's 8 weeks old now and I just don't feel that intense warm fuzzy feeling yet when I hold her and think about her. Don't get me wrong, I am over joyed to have a daughter and think she is the cutest, sweetest thing ever. I bust my butt pumping for her and I did EBF her (albeit with a shield) during my time off with her those 3 weeks. I just don't feel the way I expected to feel about her. Are there any other mamas out there that went through this too? I need some reassurance that those feelings will come with time. Hopefully it won't be much longer?? What can I do, if anything??
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9/4/08 at 10:50am