The SEPTEMBER Infertility ONE Thread! - Page 2

[LibbyLou]

My OB/GYN's nurse just called with DH's Cycstic Fibrosis carrier results, and they're negative!!!!!! :

Now I can finally be excited that I'm 7dpo with pretty excellent timing!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Even if we don't get pregnant this cycle, I'm so grateful to finally be ovulating.

[EastbayK]

10 DPO here. I don't even want to test, but DH keeps asking me when I can test. Maybe I'll do it on thursday. I think I'm just feeling ambivilent because I've moved on already...

Hello to all our new joiners!

Kim

[Voltige]

Hey Ladies,

How is everyone holding up?

MeadowMom Congrats on losing the weight? What worked for you? I've lost 20 since January but really stalled over the summer. I need to get motivated again and start moving. I find it very difficult to get enough exercise in and feel lousy when I don't. Good luck with your first assisted cycle and giving yourself the trigger shot! My DH travels a lot too, so I expect I could be in the same boat eventually.

Lola88 I'm glad your DH is mellowing a bit. I hope he's ready and cooperative when the time comes to BD!

LibbyLou What wonderful news!! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you this cycle. I think I'm about 7 DPO as well.

Gumby74 How are you doing? Still planning the HSG?

crystal-mommy I can sympathize a bit with your DH. I'm rarely in the mood when we "should" BD either. It's very frustrating and emotional for both of us. Using the OPKs seems to make things worse around here too. I've not used them for a few months and now I'm wishing I HAD this month.

organitarian I am told I have PCOS as well, but my RE addressed my endometriosis first. If I don't ovulate on my own we will discuss medications to help with that. Losing weight is a good start but I'm not counting on it to be my solution. I've also considered acupuncture and will likely look for someone to supplement our efforts with the RE.

EastbayK :

As for me. . . I'm still waiting for AF to show. I know she will and I just want it to happen already. I'm supposed to visit my RE on the first day or two of my new cycle and now I'm worried that we'll be out of town when it happens- we'll be away for a long weekend. I'll be super annoyed if we are delayed a cycle of TTC because of the timing of AF :

[LibbyLou]

Originally Posted by Voltige

I've lost 20 since January but really stalled over the summer. I need to get motivated again and start moving. I find it very difficult to get enough exercise in and feel lousy when I don't.

LibbyLou What wonderful news!! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you this cycle. I think I'm about 7 DPO as well.

Thanks! I took a peek at your chart, and we're actually cycle buddies.

I totally feel you on the exercise issue. Every night I set my alarm early so that I can get up and work out. Then every morning, I push snooze a few too many times and end up feeling guilty about it. I have such good intentions at night, but I lose all motivation in the morning.

[Lola88]

HELP!! My DH's doctor wants to put him on Zoloft. In my internet searches I have found studies that show where SSRI's like Zoloft cause low sperm count as well as chromosomal damage to sperm. When I called the RE, he said it was fine for dh to take it, no real evidence of damage. Do any of you know anything at all about this?? Any advice would be helpful!! Thanks.

[songbird45]

Voltige - We only spent a couple hours in Harrisburg. We took a tour of the capitol building, had lunch, and bought spaghetti bread at the Pennsylvania Bakery. The highlight of the trip was the Pennsylvania Rennaissance Faire, which was awesome and all kinds of fun.

I just noticed in your siggy that you have agility dogs? Do you run them at competitions? A friend of mine runs agility dogs, and it's a free and fun outing to go watch the in-town competitions for a few hours.

oregonduck - Welcome! I hope your stay here is short, and that you get the support you're looking for. My only advice as you go through infertility testing is try not to think of the problems as whose "fault" it is... it's not productive. It's both of your problem, and it's nobody's fault. Just keep repeating that to yourself and your dh, because it's easy to fall into the blame and guilt trap.

organitarian - welcome - I went ahead and added you but let me know if you want your description changed. There's another thread about PCOS on the infertility board - check out the resources it points to. soulcysters.net and the PCOS tribe are full of good information.

Lola - isn't it sad that an IUI month is now "normal" and one where we have sex is an "off" month? Crazy. As for the Zoloft issue... I don't know much about SSRI's, but maybe you can try it for a month and see what happens to the counts? If you're doing an IUI next month, they'll do a count for you... I only say that b/c if Dh's doctor thinks it's necessary and the RE says it's okay, most likely it'll be fine, but... I fully advocate doing whatever research you can!

LibbyLou - that's GREAT news!! I'm so happy for you!

Voltige, LibbyLou, and EastbayK, good luck in the tww!

As for me: IUI is scheduled for tomorrow morning. I'm nervous because the RE said that if it doesn't work this time she wants to discuss other options. She said we could continue trying this but that statistically our chances keep dropping with every try, so we should at least discuss other options.

[blueRhino]

Originally Posted by Lola88

HELP!! My DH's doctor wants to put him on Zoloft. In my internet searches I have found studies that show where SSRI's like Zoloft cause low sperm count as well as chromosomal damage to sperm. When I called the RE, he said it was fine for dh to take it, no real evidence of damage. Do any of you know anything at all about this?? Any advice would be helpful!! Thanks.

I would be more worried about the sexual side effects. My DH went off SSRIs when we were TTC because he never wanted to have sex. If you are doing IUI it might not matter as much. I think Welbutrin (sp?) is suppose to be the better one for that. At any rate good luck!

[blueyezz4]

Thanks songbird for starting the new post!!! I'm away on vacation right now so I have been out of the loop, but thought I'd ask if my info could be edited at your convince. On hold with my IUI this month due to being away on vacation at the prime time, but have plans to get back on the wagon in Oct. Good luck to everyone else!!!!

[Voltige]

Originally Posted by songbird45

Voltige -
I just noticed in your siggy that you have agility dogs? Do you run them at competitions? A friend of mine runs agility dogs, and it's a free and fun outing to go watch the in-town competitions for a few hours.

Yup! I train and run them in competitions. I used to do a lot more of it- almost every weekend. Now I am content with one weekend a month. We don't accumulate titles as quickly, but it's loads less expensive Dogs are a passion of mine. I'd love to find a way to turn it into a career one day.


Anyway, I was surprised to see my temp still up this morning. I don't know if I should be holding out hope or not. I was crampy yesterday but so far nothing yet today. I'm totally bitchy and PMS-ing though. I'll have to call my RE to see what I should do if I'm out of town when my cycle starts. I also want to know if I can enjoy some wine and other stuff at my Mom's surprise birthday party this weekend I'll happily go without if I get a BFP but I'll be :beyond belief if I decline and then AF shows the next day.

[oregonduck]

Thanks for the welcome ladies!

Today is day 20 of my cycle and I have a day 23 progesterone test scheduled for this Saturday. I already know I make progesterone because I got a good result last month without the clomid, so I'm not exactly sure what they're looking for this time...

I'm trying not to obsess and think every pain and twinge is pg symptom (can't deal with the disappointment) but on day 15 I got a peak reading on my OPK (CBEFM) and had killer pains on my right side that night while at work--definitely not normal for me. We managed to dtd all weekend and now I can't help but wonder if I'm pg or not. I know all pains and symptoms are exaggerated x100 while on clomid, but I'm driving myself nuts here!!!

Wishing everyone lots of fertile baby dust!:

[Lola88]

Songbird- you are so right! How silly that IUI would be "normal".......

BlueRhino- Big concern for us as well......how are you feeling?

DH and I have decided that he will try diet and excerxise to help the depression instead of Zoloft. I think that he is just going through a natural greiving process, so we are going to give it couple months w/o meds.
I started this month's clomid yesterday. We are flip-flopping on whether or not to do IUI this month or next. We'll see how DH is when the time comes....!!

Best to everyone........

[songbird45]

updated to here

GRRRR... You ladies will understand like nobody else... I just got a bill for bloodwork that happened OVER A YEAR AGO. It's from the OBGYN that diagnosed the PCOS, and it's $640!! I mean, this isn't going to break the bank. But it's not a small amount of money, either. It's almost 2 IUI's!! I'm trying to figure out why insurance isn't paying... they usually pay for lab work. And if they don't, and they take a year to bill me, I'm worried about what kinds of bills I'm going to get hit with next year.. I'm getting blood drawn 4 or 5 times a cycle!

[FayeO]

songbird45--new to discussion boards

Hi songbird45,
I am new to this WHOLE thing. How do I get added to the Sept thread? Or a future thread? How does this work?

Here's my info (but please let me know if you need something else b/c I am SO confused about this):


FayeO Tired mama to DD (1/03). TTC #2 since November 2005. Recently diagnosed with MFI (antisperm antibodies). Currently TTC with unmedicated IUIs. Had 3 failed IUIs prior to diagnosis and 2 failed IUIs since diagnosis (2 medicated, 3 unmedicated). On hold with IUI in August and September due to being out of town at prime time (what luck!).


Thank you. Let me know if I need to go about this in a different way.

[EastbayK]

Oh Songbird, what a mess! I can tell you that once I got a huge $600 bill from a lab for a pap smear that wasn't covered. Turns out someone at the Dr's office made a mistake and it was sent to the lab my insurance didn't work with. I made a stink about it and even pulled the cancer card (my husband has cancer, I have enough on my plate right now...). They got all the charges waiver. I would call the office and ask why they are just billing you now and why it wasn't covered. At least then if you can't do anything about it, you'll know for future reference. Good Luck!

I'm at 12dpo and still haven't tested. I'll probably test on sunday, just in time to get a visit from AF. I haven't been sleeping well and have a minor cold, so I haven't been temping lately. Wish I was though so I knew if my temp was dropping.


Kim

[biomama]

songbird, give them hell! I hope you can get ins to pay... what a pain! like you need that on top of everything else...

Lola88, that sounds like a good plan. I have read studies that vigorous exercise works just as well as SSRIs for treating mild depression. I hope it works for him! And good luck deciding about your IUI. Either way I'll be rooting for your BFP!

Kim, I hope this is it for you! Keep us posted!!! I hope you feel better and pregnant soon!

FayeO you did the right thing - there is no special way to join, you just start posting! The threadkeeper will add your name to the first post. Welcome to the group! though I am sorry you have to be here...

oregonduck, welcome to you too! btw I have had my prog checked each month. They use it to make sure you've ovulated and to make sure you have enough progesterone to support a pregnancy. It's not something they will just look at once, because it could be different month to month. GL!

Voltige, a year ago I'd have said, why risk it? but now I think, a few sips can't hurt, and what's the likelihood I'm actually pregnant anyway! I have relaxed a bit about the no drinking during tww thing...

blueyezz, have a great vacation! we'll see you when you get back!

LibbyLou, GL with the last bit of your tww!

As for me, I'm 10dpo with temps on the way down... even though I'm taking prometrium pills 2x/day!!! What's up with that??? I feel pretty disappointed, again. Even though this cycle was just a placeholder until we could get in for IVF, I still hoped it would work.

I can't believe we are already at IVF time... when I get AF, I call them and the whole thing gets started already. We have to get our bank accounts in order and then it's a go... I'm excited but scared. If we do one cycle, it will be the third most expensive thing we have bought (house, car, IVF) if we do 2 cycles, it will be more than the car! OMG! I hope it works!!!

I'm going to ask the IVFers, but does anyone know if I'm crazy to plan to go to yoga retreat during the first part of stims? It'd be days 3-5 of the stims. Will I already feel like crap? Any input is appreciated.

[Held]

Hello friends!

Been reading along and wanted to welcome our new freinds to the group.

Doing fine here and hoping for a miracle this cy. Tomorrow is CD9 and I will test with my CBEFM. We'll bd tonight to start the SMEP schedule, not sure how it will pan out considering I usually o by about CD11-13...

[EastbayK]

After having an abnormally high temp this morning for 13dpo, I went ahead and tested- BFN. Oh well, I'd rather know to expect AF anyway. I could tell DH was disappointed and I shed a few tears once I was in the car alone. Three eggs, THREE, and not one of them could manage to get fertilized and implant? WTF?!!!!

So we are off the roller coaster until march/april for now, since it would be a bad idea to have an edd during my 1st semester of school. But I'll probably still be here every day. This is so hard b/c it feels like the first thing I've ever really failed at. Even my divorce wasn't this difficult. Having two easy conceptions left me feeling pretty confident that I wasn't going to have any issues this time arround. But it's been 15 months and 4 rounds of drugs and IUI's (although two were poorly timed).

And of course, I got tapped to hostess a baby shower for a friend who's having an "opps, that happened faster than we expected" baby. Seriously- who asks a woman struggling with infertility to hostess a baby shower! I keep reminding myself that my two other friends who are helping organizing both are mid-30's and want kids but are still single, so I should be happy with what I have. But it still hurts. I think I'll offer up my house and then hide in the garage or upstairs most of the time. One of my friends knows how I'm feeling and understands.

For now, please change me to- Taking a break while still hoping and dreaming. Someone better get pg this month and give us all some hope again!

Kim

[gumby74]

Kim: I wish we lived closer so I could give you a real hug. I have to ask....are you confident that AF is indeed on her way? I ask only because the only BFP I had after an IUI was on 14 or 15DPO.

After starting school, I also understand more than ever your hesitation about starting school and then having a child soon after. Yes, it's doable, but makes everything a little harder. Please don't go away. Not only would we miss you, but in the world of infertility, things are changing all the time. I would hate for someone to post something that might help in your situation.


As for me....HSG was today. Even though I had one of these tests before, I was really nervous today. In the end, all looked well. Tubes were open etc... I have a little bit of cramping, but not too bad. Now, we have a huge decision to make. Do we stay with this doctor or move on to someone else??????? Uggghh I don't know. I am thinking about doing one cycle with this guy because I have confidence in my body and the IUI. Mybe do a cycle while also setting up an appt. with someone else???? What we really need to do is sit down and look at our finances and figure out what we can afford todo. This is the one discussion I am scared to have....I hate talking about money.

[Voltige]

Temp was still up this morning but AF showed anyway. :

At least I can enjoy some wine without guilt this weekend I have an appt with my RE on Tuesday to start tracking my cycle. We'll learn something, I hope.

Of course, my grandmother is already all over me about having #2. I've been home for 30 minutes and she's already grilling me. I just don't want to deal with it right now.

[crystal-mommy]

I feel like AF is going to show any day.... i am so tired of this!! all the hoping and planning and it all comes down to this... same crap different month! Trying not to wallow in my self pity, but not doing very well right now!