Mothering › Forums › Archives › Pregnancy Archives › May 2009 › Breaking the news...
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

Breaking the news...  

post #1 of 31
9/5/08 at 2:20pm
Thread Starter 
So, how are you going to tell your family/friends about the pregnancy? This is my first, and I'm waiting to be able to tell my parents face to face in a couple of weeks. I want to think of some cute or unique way to tell them, and not just blurt out "I'm pregnant". Any ideas? I'm also curious to see how you mama's who've been here before did it.

-It's strange, I talk to my mom on the phone almost everyday, and maybe it's just in my head, but she seems to know something is up. She always seems to know stuff before I tell her!
post #2 of 31
9/5/08 at 2:24pm
For my MIL, we put together a small photo album of a recent vacation that she hadn't seen and included--on a random page--a photo of the +pregnancy test with some words to the effect of "Congratulations! your second grandchild is due..." She LOVED it.
post #3 of 31
9/5/08 at 2:57pm
When we told my parents, I had dd draw them a picture of our family with 6 people in it. They thought it was cute. To tell in-laws, I bought a shirt that says "Big Brother in Training" and wore it on ds. My MIL read it out loud, said "oh, how cute", but didn't get it. It took about 15 more minutes of hints before it dawned on her! She was thrilled, but when MIL asked FIL if he had heard our news (he was sitting at the same table with us), he muttered "Yeah" and looked the other way . DH later said FIL thinks we have to "damn" many kids already :. Oh well, at least all most everyone is happy about our wonderful news.
post #4 of 31
9/5/08 at 3:02pm
Thread Starter 
Melanie, I really like that idea, very cute.

Wendy, that is too cute involving the other kiddos! Sorry your FIL wasn't very supportive. I think we'll get the same kind of response from my in laws too. They aren't too happy with "me" moving their son half way accross the continent. Like he had no say in the decision.... ugh, anyway, I know my parents will be excited. They ask every couple of months.
post #5 of 31
9/5/08 at 3:49pm
I told my mom on the phone today, and she said, "I knew you were going to say that you're pregnant."
post #6 of 31
9/5/08 at 3:53pm
I plan to have an ultrasound sometime in the next couple weeks and want to scan that into my computer to create Christmas Cards for my family and friends that don't know yet. I want to use the ultrasound where I find out the sex, but I don't think I'll be far enough along yet...
post #7 of 31
9/5/08 at 4:02pm
I'm actually a little nervous because we'll be seeing my parents tomorrow... it's a bit earlier than I would have liked to break the news, and it's at a wedding party so I don't want to upstage the event (especially seeing as how the bride was my own maid-of-honor just a month and a half ago, though they actually eloped last winter), but my mom's quick with the mental math and would figure out in about 10 seconds that I either had no clue this weekend, or I didn't want to tell them yet, so, well...
post #8 of 31
9/5/08 at 4:07pm
Thread Starter 
Emily - Good luck deciding what to do. We don't want to tell this early either, but if I see my mom will have to. She would know anyway (she reads me well), but I would have to tell her.

Stevi - that is a great idea.
post #9 of 31
9/5/08 at 4:12pm
Quote:
Originally Posted by EmSzatmary View Post
Emily - Good luck deciding what to do. We don't want to tell this early either, but if I see my mom will have to. She would know anyway (she reads me well), but I would have to tell her.

Stevi - that is a great idea.
Yeah, my mom generally reads me like a book, too. Plus, back when she was helping me move in a few months back, she saw both my "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" book *and* my pre-natal vitamins, so it shouldn't come as a huge shock to her... (being surprised at how fast it happened is another thing, of course!)
post #10 of 31
9/5/08 at 5:10pm
My family plays a lot of games when we are all together to dp and I have been thinking of ways to work it into a game. One of our favorite games is apples to apples where someone chooses a card with a noun on it (we'd make one with my name on it) and everyone puts down cards with descriptors for that card (we'd make a descriptor card with "pregnant" on it) and tell our family that way.

Another game is to list three facts about yourself - two true and one false. So my turn would go something like:
I'm left handed (everyone knows I am)
I hate ice-cream (clearly, I LOVE ice-cream)
I'm pregnant

It might take them a minute, but I think it would be fun. My family is in Mexico, so we are trying to find an excuse to lure them back to the states in a couple weeks so we can tell them in person.

If that doesn't work - does anyone have any cute ideas to use over the phone??
post #11 of 31
9/5/08 at 6:19pm
None of our parents will be happy for us so we won't be tellin them any time soon. They gave us nasty negative hurtful comments when we announced #3 and #4 and I know they won't hold them back this time either. We won't tell them in any cute way, there's no sense in trying to try to trick them into being happy, they just won't be. Sad, huh?

We're going to try to tell our older children in a cute way though, I like the 3 things about me game...I might have to try that one! Thanks!
post #12 of 31
9/5/08 at 10:36pm
With all 3 of my pregnancies I called my mom minutes after I got my BFP and told her. All three of them she knew even before I told her! With our first we gave my In-laws Grandparents frame with a note in the picture spot that said : " Save this space, I'm due in October" They loved it! My MIL also knew before we told her with #2.

We haven't told them yet about this one, I'm a bit nervous... I think maybe I'll find another frame with three spots and put pictures of my son and daughter and another "save this space" in the third spot. I would love to involve the kids but we won't be telling them for a while and I won't be able to keep this from the IL's much longer
post #13 of 31
9/6/08 at 1:46am
I cannot keep a secret to save my life. Within a minute of seeing the bfp, after I quit screaming, I IMed everyone on my buddy list and called whoever wasn't on! I called my mom and said, "Guess what me, N, B, and C all have in common?" They are my sisters in law. All my SILs on my side of the family are pregnant. I have no sisters, just brothers. So its pretty exciting for us to all be pregnant at the same time! So to most of my family, thats how I announced.
post #14 of 31
9/6/08 at 2:13pm
Thread Starter 
Funny story here.... My mom just called, and this is how our conversation went:

Mom: I know something.
Me: What do you know? (background: I have a huge family, and the way "news" spreads is by word of mouth.)
Mom: Someone's going to have a baby...
Me: Um... Really... Who?
Mom: You tell me.
Me: ...... Uh... no idea.
Mom: Your cousin T and his wife.

I swear she knows and she's just playing with me...

I am super excited BTW to have my new "cousin in law" expecting her first at the same time as me!!
post #15 of 31
9/6/08 at 2:19pm
we also sent out an email from our most recent vacation, with the title...check out this awesome souvenir we bought back from ....
We attached vacation pics and the last pic was our scan. Very cute.

For my brother who had only told immediate family, I had 2 tee shirts made. His said...Yup...I did it...again! and his wife's said Due in June! They wore them to a party and waited to see how long it took for all their friends to notice!
post #16 of 31
9/6/08 at 4:34pm
I have only told my dh, bf and a cousin who is on facebook. Other than that I am going to wait a while. Our entire family lives in Michigan so no one will be finding out before we are ready to tell. I thought I was pregnant last month and the reception did not go all that well, so I am going to wait until this pregnancy is a bit more solid.

I talked to my mom today and she said that my brother, her and fil are wanting to move here to Phoenix for a change of scenery. It was so hard not to say yes definitely come because you are going to be a grandma again! I will just hold out until I find a clever way to tell.
post #17 of 31
9/6/08 at 5:51pm
Quote:
Originally Posted by iana703 View Post
I will just hold out until I find a clever way to tell.
Okay - I know this is LAME, but I just now actually realized we're in the same DDC. I was thinking - oh, I know someone in Phoenix. Duh!
post #18 of 31
9/6/08 at 7:44pm
We got the kids shirts that say "I am going to be a big brother" and "I am going to be a big sister again" to wear as a way to tell people.
post #19 of 31
9/6/08 at 8:17pm
Quote:
Originally Posted by ColoradoMama View Post
Okay - I know this is LAME, but I just now actually realized we're in the same DDC. I was thinking - oh, I know someone in Phoenix. Duh!

Thats awesome! I am just happy to be pregnant with you and Lissa .
post #20 of 31
9/6/08 at 8:28pm
:::
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: May 2009
This thread is locked  
Mothering › Forums › Archives › Pregnancy Archives › May 2009 › Breaking the news...