Pasted from my thread in IF:
Thank you for all the support, ladies. I did sit down and talk to the RE this morning, and apparently the last two weeks the entire office has been in the toilet, and she knows it (essentially massive staffing problems, IT issues and the clinic they used shut it's doors with no warning). She has a list of complaints for the chief, and I made some suggestions that she liked and is going to share. I discussed transferring care to one of the other cities nearby, and she said that both of them have good teams, and that if we get as far as IVF she'd be sending me to one of them anyway. She was really pleasant about it, apologized, explained what had been going on, and made it clear that she at least is addressing the issues with her chief, so I feel much better about it.
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She said that she'd be sending me to Tracey Telles in WC if we got to IVF, since she has the highest success rate of any RE in the area. She also said that both SF and WC had great REs, if I wanted to transfer care. She was completely open about what's been going on and completely understood my frustration. AND she was open to switching to whatever drugs I want to use, and proceeding however I wanted to. So for now I think I'll stick around, and see how it goes.