Originally Posted by Proverbs31
I absolutely agree! Am I safe in saying that the goal should be to channel his fixation into a useful activity, instead of trying to curtail it? His other fixation is doors, and we aways joke that he can always fall back on being a doorman in the city; they've got a union and everything!
I like the way you think
seriously people don't see that someone somewhere is making money off being completely obsessed with doors, and they design doors for home depot, or install doors, or open doors, or wash them. There are a million positive things your child can do with a door obsession, and all of them are better than teaching him to constantly restrain his feelings about doors just becuase most people don't share that feeling.
A doorman who does it because there is a union and he can eek out a living opening a door will have a significantly less happy life than a doorman who wakes up every morning with gleeful anticipation of each creek, each swing, each pull, and each satisfying pressure change at the closure of his door. I would venture to say that those of us who are lucky/stubborn/obsessed enough to make a living doing exactly what we are fixated on are some of the most job-satisfied people on the planet.
Having said all that, I am not sure what the average parent will see as their role in a child's fixation. Personally I don't really feel the need to push Jet toward any more productive utilization of his fixations, and indeed neither did my parents for me. The last thing I want to do is take something he loves, then modify it for "productivity" so much that he loses interest in something he truely loves.