Will you find out the sex?

[Punchy Kaby]

I know it's early to be thinking about this! I found out the first time and this time around I wanted it to be a surprise, but last night I a very good reason for finding out came to me.

I think I may need to mentally prepare myself for a very large baby if its a boy. DS was 9lbs12oz and no one was expecting a baby that big and I am not a large woman. I gave birth vaginally but I ended up transferring from the birthing center to the hospital and getting an epidural. THis time I'm planning on the hospital but still going natural. I feel like if its a boy I will really need to mentally focus and be prepared for a long and difficult birth , but if it is a girl I can probably feel more relaxed about the whole thing since girls tend to be smaller.

The first time I did Hypnobirthing and I felt really prepared going into it but labor started so fast and furious it felt out of control within a few hours. I plan on doing Bradley method this time and possibly hiring a doula (especially if its a boy).

Anyone else started thinking about these issues?

[itsang]

we won't be finding out the baby's sex. we're all about the surprise!

[catters]

I am not a fan of surprises. We will be finding out.

[iana703]

I want a surprise. But I want another girl so bad because then we wouldnt have to buy a thing and I just love having a little girl after growing up with boys. My daughter was the first girl in 18 years. So I am tempted to check to get used to the idea if it is a boy but I think I want to be surprised at birth more.

[lemurmommies]

We will not be finding out the sex of the baby unless we find out that we're expecting multiples. Not that that is terribly likely, but I don't think I could deal with surprise twins - I'd need to get a third car seat and more baby stuff and I'd want to know if there should be some girly stuff included.

[ColoradoMama]

If we have an ultrasound - yes, but we most likely won't be having one, so - no.

[lovbeingamommy]

I definitely want to find out. Not that it matters, but just to know in advance.

[EMandM]

No, we aren't finding out. We are super excited to be surprised!!

[pleasantlyfurious]

DP feels pretty strongly about waiting until the birth to find out - so we're not going to find out till then!

[Mom to E and A]

I did not find out with my first 3 (was actually WRONG about every single one in what gender I thought was cooking, LOL) I LOVE the surprise at the end!
BUT, being my fourth and probably last, I will probably be finding out this time so I can prepare beforehand. I think it will just be easier that way. I figure with the ultrasound that is usually done at 18-20 weeks, that will put us right before Christmas so I was thinking of having the tech write it down and opening it on Christmas. I have also contemplated finding out and not sharing with others to still keep some suprise in it.

[kangaroomum25]

I'm pretty sure it's gonna be a suprise but I also have a feeling it's gonna be a girl.

[the_lissa]

We're not finding out this time. We have a boy and girl already, so no new territory for us.

[russianthistle]

I plan on no u/s, but, like lemurmommies wrote, I might have a different POV if there were twins involved...we'll see....

[cmoma]

I haven't even begun to think about this yet! But since we have a boy and a girl and found out with both, we may just try and keep it a surprize, however I do know what I am looking at on an u/s so we may end up finding out just by looking at the screen. I'm cool either way! Not sure what dh thinks yet

[burm_keep]

We're not sure yet. We did find out the sex last time because I wanted to have a 20 week u/s to check for gross abnormalities due to some medication I was taking during the first few weeks.

Part of me wants to, part of me doesn't, so we'll see

[CookAMH]

Nope! We are keeping it a surprise for us.

[lotus.blossom]

At first I wanted to have a surprise but now I am thinking that maybe I will take a peek at my 20 week ultrasound. I think that I might try to keep it a secret especially if its another boy. I might tell if its a girl. I just feel like EVERYONE is so gung ho that its a girl that if I announce that its a boy people will react funny. But if I announce at my birth that its a boy and they see him they will have to be excited!!

[Max'sMama]

Originally Posted by Nolansmum

I know it's early to be thinking about this! I found out the first time and this time around I wanted it to be a surprise, but last night I a very good reason for finding out came to me.

I think I may need to mentally prepare myself for a very large baby if its a boy. DS was 9lbs12oz and no one was expecting a baby that big and I am not a large woman. I gave birth vaginally but I ended up transferring from the birthing center to the hospital and getting an epidural. THis time I'm planning on the hospital but still going natural. I feel like if its a boy I will really need to mentally focus and be prepared for a long and difficult birth , but if it is a girl I can probably feel more relaxed about the whole thing since girls tend to be smaller.

The first time I did Hypnobirthing and I felt really prepared going into it but labor started so fast and furious it felt out of control within a few hours. I plan on doing Bradley method this time and possibly hiring a doula (especially if its a boy).

Anyone else started thinking about these issues?

I won't find out the sex, I haven't yet and see no need.

I think the idea of preparing for you, mama, is good, but every birth is different. Your first birth may have been longer and difficult due to it being a first birth, not a large baby. Also, mindset IS very powerful and instead of thinking of how difficult it was, maybe to make the POSSIBILITY of a large baby easier to birth you could meditate on the reality that you have successfully birth a larger baby in the past. The mind is very powerful and subsequent births generally are easier/shorter than first births.

I think that starting early and working out all your thoughts is a great way to prepare yourself for the birth is a great idea!

[~Katie~]

We did not find out with DS and we won't be finding out with this one either. I love the surprise and having DH announce the gender after birth.

[kristina6]

will you find out the sex

yes we have with all 6 and its a suprise finding out at 16 or so weeks.My one doc does sonos between 16 and 18 weeks but with my 6th i paid and went somewhere so i could have the kids hubby wouldnt have to take off work and we could have as many people as we wanted.I am one that has to have the pink or blue bedding and clothes now yellow etc