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Poll Results: How did you tear with your first?

 
  • 22% (47)
    I tore badly (define how you want)
  • 52% (112)
    I had a small tear- not that bad
  • 25% (54)
    I didn't tear
213 Total Votes  
post #21 of 70
Had a c-section with my first
Small tear with my 2nd
3rd degree tear with my 3rd
Small tear with my 4th
No tear with my 5th
No tear with my 6th.

Ironically, the ONLY time I tore was when I was in the hospital! And my last 2 babies were born weighing over 10pounds each!
post #22 of 70
2 first degree tears: 1 in my perineum and 1 in my perineal floor (internal). No stitches.
post #23 of 70
I chose "small tear" on the poll. I had a very small tear with DS, no stitches needed.

He was born at home and was pretty big - 10lb 6oz, with a big 39cm head.

(with my second I had no tears at all, despite me fearing it... DD was even bigger too!)
post #24 of 70
I had a 2nd degree tear with DD1, due to coached pushing (IMO). I don't remember how many stitches it required. I had only a skidmark with DD2, no stitches.
post #25 of 70
I need an "other". I had a small arterial tear with my first, due to her nuchial hand. It required stitches because I was loosing too much blood. My perineum was fine.
post #26 of 70
Another nuchial hand here. I think I ended up with a second degree (at one point it looked like a third degree) and several first degree tears. Not fun and it seemed unfair somehow because DS was only 6#.
post #27 of 70
extension of an epis other wise it would not have been as bad
post #28 of 70
I've never torn. All UCs, but with my first I was on my back for pushing. (Long story.)
post #29 of 70
I had a pretty nasty third-degree tear that took a very, very long time to heal. Oddly, my midwife told me afterwards that she suspected I'd tear, and I've always wondered what factors contributed to that (though in learning more, I'm pretty sure the coached pushing, on-my-back labor with a hostile-to-homebirth-transfers OB had a little something to do with it ).

I don't think I'll tear this time. I am much more prepared mentally, emotionally, and physically, and I think I know the moment when things got a little scary, so hopefully, if faced with that again, I'll focus on my breathing!!
post #30 of 70
3rd-degree tear from forceps.
post #31 of 70
No tear even though she came out so fast. I was lying on my side and my body was pushing on its own. If anything, I was trying to slow it down. I was not sore at all afterwards either.
post #32 of 70
I never tore (for whatever reason).
post #33 of 70
I got 45 stitches after my first, due to what my hubby describes as a "vicious" episiotomy, some nasty tears (I don't know the degree) and two hours of forced pushing. I never felt the urge. The tearing and the episiotomy are actually what caused me to search for a midwife my second time around. So I guess I'm kind of glad I tore...having a wonderful birth experience has changed my life in many many beautiful ways. If it took an epis to do it, I'm still grateful.

My second time I tore right along my episiotomy scar. My daughter's head came out funny...she had a 3X nuchal cord and her neck was almost leaning back. I also got a little anxious and pushed reallyreallyreallyhard even when I didn't really feel like it, which I am sure contributed to my tearing. I opted out of stitches. My vagina is not like it used to be, but after two kids, whose is?

We are currently "not preventing" our third. I am convinced that when I get pregnant and birth our next one, I won't tear at all.
post #34 of 70
I wish - I tore because of an episiotomy was an option.
I tore badly BECAUSE of one.
post #35 of 70
I had a tiny tear with an epidural, vaginal delivery of a posterior baby! Whew!
post #36 of 70
I had a small tear (toward the top) with ds. Thank goodness my mom was there at the hospital...she told the doctor something to the effect of, "If you touch that scalpel/those scissors, I'll cut your balls off!" Go, Mom!!! He asked if she was a midwife and she said, "No, I'm a picture framer!" Okay, I'm rambling now...

I was glad at first that I didn't have it stitched (doc didn't offer, either), and that made me feel like it wasn't much of a tear, but now I'm kind of wishing he had stitched it.

Here's to no tears with my March baby!
post #37 of 70
Small tear with my first, had a few stitches. Wasn't bad. No tearing with my second.
post #38 of 70
I voted "I didn't tear" because there wasn't a "skid mark" option. I did get a little skid mark - but he had a nuchal hand so I thank my hypnobirthing that I was a really relaxed mama because it could have been so much worse. Skid marks aren't insignificant in terms of discomfort though... it might be worth adding a poll option.
post #39 of 70
[QUOTE=texanatheart;12132415]I had a small tear (toward the top) with ds. Thank goodness my mom was there at the hospital...she told the doctor something to the effect of, "If you touch that scalpel/those scissors, I'll cut your balls off!" Go, Mom!!! He asked if she was a midwife and she said, "No, I'm a picture framer!" [QUOTE]

I love your mom. Please tell her.
post #40 of 70
I had a small skid mark with my first son, and he crowned nice and slow, and the midwife used hot compresses to help relax the perineum.

I had no tearing at all with my second son, and he literally flew out!!!
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