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Poll Results: How did you tear with your first?

 
  • 22% (47)
    I tore badly (define how you want)
  • 52% (112)
    I had a small tear- not that bad
  • 25% (54)
    I didn't tear
213 Total Votes  
post #41 of 70

I Guess

I guess that I tore badly. Everybody who said that they had small tears didn't need stitches. I needed stitches every time. However, I was never sore.
post #42 of 70
I tore for my first. On paper it was supposedly a 1st degree tear, but I personally think it was a 2nd degree. I have a pretty evident scar from it. There were several stitches. I voted that it wasn't that bad. They had me purple pushing, on my back, she had a nuchal hand, and her head was in the 120th percentile. I'm amazed I didn't tear more than that.
post #43 of 70
I put "small tear" for my second degree, which got about 8 stitches. It was never a problem. (Breech baby with a giant head.)
post #44 of 70
Quote:
Originally Posted by Belle View Post
I tore for my first. On paper it was supposedly a 1st degree tear, but I personally think it was a 2nd degree. I have a pretty evident scar from it. There were several stitches. I voted that it wasn't that bad. They had me purple pushing, on my back, she had a nuchal hand, and her head was in the 120th percentile. I'm amazed I didn't tear more than that.
A little off-topic, but by definition, percentiles only go up to 100. You can, however say that she was 20% larger than the 99th percentile.
post #45 of 70
I tore pretty badly.
I don't know what # it qualified as, but the midwife did an episiotomy and then I tore the rest of the way to the rectum. Things still ain't right down there!
I had a partial abruption so they "let" me deliver vaginally, but I could not walk around or go in the water tub. So I opted for the epidural, since I was trapped in bed anyway. That led to me not feeling my pushing muscles, plus they had me pushing waaaay too early, even though I was 10cm.
I started pushing around midnight and ds was born right as the sun came up.

He was 8 pounds one ounce. I know if I had started pushing when *I* was ready, it would have been so much easier.:
post #46 of 70
2nd degree tear. I don't know how many stitches, but she was working on me for a while. I got special treatment, though... so she may have done me extra well.

I had a 10 1/2 lb-er, with a 13 inch head, 16 inch chest and shoulder dystocia. 37 hours of cervadil and pitocin labor and a vacuum. OB said (and Hubby confirmed) that I wouldn't have torn at ALL if she didn't have to shove her hands up there to get his arm free. Grr. 3 1/2 weeks later and I'm STILL kinda sore.
post #47 of 70
no tearing for either dc.
post #48 of 70
multiple 3rd degree tears due to a nuchal hand.
post #49 of 70
I had two small 2nd degree tears, and they never bothered me. I don't know how many stitches I had but it took the midwife 10-15 minutes to repair both tears. One was a labial tear, the other a perineal tear. Since it has been recently (August 19th) I can still see some sutures, they haven't dissolved completely just yet.
But as I said: only the labial tear burned once when I peed 5 hours after birth. That was it, it just was swollen for 2 days and then I was fine.
My sister gave birth just three weeks ahead of me and she had an epi (2nd degree), it took her way longer to heal (it still hurts her to sit down!) - epis make it worse!
post #50 of 70
I voted that I didn't tear.. with my first or second births. I did tear a little bit the midwives called them skidmarks but no stitches were necessary and it didn't bother me.
post #51 of 70
I just had my first and didn't tear. I had a home birth. 2 hr labor with 2 hrs of pushing. My midwife did lots of pulling and massaging on my perineum. My baby was 8lbs. My midwife said her head was big. I couldn't tell...I didn't even feel the ring of fire. I did have skid marks though.
post #52 of 70
I tore 2.5 inches internally, but my perineum stayed intact. I didn't tear at all in my 2nd birth.
post #53 of 70
small tear, didn't need any stitches.
post #54 of 70
1st birth: c-sec
2nd birth: VBAC, 2nd degree tear

I remember being pregnant and looking at my dh's head and saying "man, your head is big. So is mine. YIKES!!!" LOL Sure 'nuf, both our kids had heads in the 98th percentile for head circumference LOL
post #55 of 70
My midwife apologised that she had to chart that it was a second degree tear because it was *just* into the muscle. I didn't have any stitches.
post #56 of 70
I just had my first VBAC and had a 2nd degree tear.

I had a very short 2nd stage and didn't listen to my body and pushed her head out too fast, thinking that it would automatically take a while, given it was my first vaginal birth (my body didn't actually want to push that hard). I think she may have been posterior too. No one actually knew DD was crowing or saw her come out since the midwife turned to write some notes and I had a towel over my back. DH and doula never saw it either so she fell out onto the floor!

This was 1 week ago, and healing ok I guess, but if in the long run the healing is not physically easy then i will be annoyed about the "pushing too hard" thing.
post #57 of 70
I didn't tear on the outside at all... even though I was pushing with dd crowning for 3 HOURS NONSTOP. However, I did tear on the inside on both sides of my vagional wall about an inch and half in. Had to have a few stitches on each side. Healed well and luckily, it being on the inside once the horrid swelling went down my flow of urine didn't get into it too much and burn like crazy. I avloiding the kind of tare I was worried about and hope to avoid any this time around.
post #58 of 70
Had DD at a hospital with a CNM; directed pushing in the "curl at the waist grab your knees" position. When I tried to hold back, not wanting to tear, the nurse said, 'Don't be afraid! Keep pushing!" so... I did. I'm not sure what was going on there. The CNM did a lot of massaging during the birth; I don't know how much that helped. If I had known then what I know now I would probably have been squatting or standing. Anyway. Next time!
In the end, it was only a 1st degree tear with a couple of stitches that healed pretty well (i think she mismatched the tissue a wee bit, but it is now fine). It was *almost* bad though, I think-- I noticed later a very sore spot near the inner labia where it seems like the skin almost tore through from within... : I think if I had not had the directed pushing and had labored in a different position things would have been even better.
post #59 of 70
Quote:
Originally Posted by soso-lynn View Post
A little off-topic, but by definition, percentiles only go up to 100. You can, however say that she was 20% larger than the 99th percentile.
No, not true. If you look up her head circumference size on one of those charts it was off the chart.
post #60 of 70
Quote:
Originally Posted by Belle View Post
No, not true. If you look up her head circumference size on one of those charts it was off the chart.
Thats EXACTLY what she just said. the chart does not go up to the "120th" percentile..it doesn't EXIST! your child was OFF the chart. the correct way to say it is that your child was 20% bigger than the TOP of the chart.

anyway...to add in my vote, many, MANY very bad tears internally and externally, in all directions, front back and sideways, including perineal, labial, urethral and clitoral tears. Both times. Both unassisted. Both sucked.
My body "chose" its position and pushed on it's own both times..both times i labored in water and did numerous other things to try and prevent tears. I just tear. My skin has *zero* stretch to it.
This last time, i very nearly tore into the rectum, but just *barely* didn't..the wall is Paper-thin in one place though......my bladder and uterus are prolapsed, because they fell down when everything tore and there is nothing left to hold them up.
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