Dtd

[Megan_Cherry]

Now that most of us are postpartum, I would like to ask how long you waited before resuming DTD? If you want to post more than an answer to the poll, answer these questions:

Did you tear during labor?
How did you feel physically after the the 1st time DTD?
emotionally?
Do you think you should have waited longer?

Add more if you feel so inclined.

[Megan_Cherry]

almost 2 weeks

Did you tear during labor?
No tear, a little skid mark

How did you feel physically after the the 1st time DTD?
a little stinging after

emotionally?
sexy, glad to be close to dh again

Do you think you should have waited longer?
no

[Ayame87]

I got a second degree tear and I still can't even imagine trying DTD...

and all DP cares about is making me feel like crap about it

[Pyrodjm]

We waited about 3 weeks pp to have intercourse.

Did you tear during labor? Slightly, no stitches needed
How did you feel physically after the the 1st time DTD? GRRREAT!
emotionally? Very warm & fuzzy
Do you think you should have waited longer? Nope, I had no discomfort.

[lil_earthmomma]

Still waiting, ds is only 12 days old so... still feelin' kinda weird down there. I didn't tear, so soon I hope!!!

I'm trying to be patient because last time we tried to dtd at two weeks and it felt really odd and a little painful, dh felt horrible even tho it was my idea, and I was crying... not a good scene. We tried again at 4 weeks and it was great, so we'll see how long I can hold out!

[AKA_PI]

how long you waited before resuming DTD? 3 weeks. Couldn't take it any longer.LOL

Did you tear during labor? Nope, had a c-sec.

How did you feel physically after the the 1st time DTD? A little sore and tender down there but ok

emotionally? Relieved and like my old self again

Do you think you should have waited longer? I probably should have waited another week but I felt ok.

[Shiloh]

haven't yet
didn't tear
am on birth control for over two weeks..

I am not feeling so attractive
dh has had an infection...him sniffling and sneezing not attractive to me..

baby not sleeping well enough to bother..

[hyz]

5 weeks tomorrow, and we're still waiting. I had a pretty significant 2nd degree tear, and I still have some stitches down there that haven't come out yet. I'm finally starting to feel a little more normal down there (like, it's not so painful to sit anymore), but I think it will be at least a couple more weeks before I'm brave enough to try anything.

[homebirthing]

Still haven't

Did you tear during labor? No.

With the twins, the bed is for the little sleep we get.

[zoebird]

we're 12 days post birth. we're very amorous, but haven't had vaginal intercourse. i just don't feel ready for that. . .but we've done some other things.

i look forward to it. we'll see when it happens.

[holothuroidea]

We waited 3 weeks. I didn't have any tears that needed stitching, and I felt "normal" after a week (my bleeding only lasted a few days) but it was impossible to find the time!

There was no pain but it def. felt different than pre-baby sex. I didn't expect it to be so different.

Also, it must be hormones but there was significant dryness. Not cool!

Emotionally... well all of my emotion has been pretty much invested in the baby so far. I'm somewhat ambivalent towards my sexuality right now.

[calendula]

Had 2nd degree tear - I'm 4 weeks PP and still sore. Going to doc tomorrow to have her check and see if it all looks normal.

Can't even imagine DTD but emotionally it worries me. I wonder when I'll ever feel normal again.

[sapphire_chan]

2nd degree tear about an inch long.

I've been considering dtd since 2 weeks (3 weeks is 2 days from now), but I've still got bleeding and am nervous about dryness.

I don't want to wish I'd waited, y'know?

[jennifer_lc1]

waited 3wks

Did you tear during labor? no, had csection
How did you feel physically after the the 1st time DTD? grrrreeeat! itd been 3 months!!!
emotionally? amazing, so nice to be together with dh again, i felt sexy again too, that had fled in my 5th mth of pregnany
Do you think you should have waited longer? nope

[CTH3989]

We DTD for the first time at 4 weeks 5 days PP.

Did you tear during labor? The MW says a tiny bit but I felt nothing so I say no.

How did you feel physically after the the 1st time DTD? I was fine.

emotionally? Again, I was fine.

Do you think you should have waited longer? No.

[not now]

How long you waited before resuming DTD?
Six weeks. I follow the rules.

Did you tear during labor?
Yes, second degree tear with a couple stitches.

How did you feel physically after the the 1st time DTD?
Awesome, as usual.

Emotionally?
Even better.

Do you think you should have waited longer?
Nope and I don't think I should have tried earlier.

[gagin37]

around 4 weeks PP

Did you tear during labor?
Yes, a big ole 3rd degree tear, lots of stitches. damn forceps.

How did you feel physically after the the 1st time DTD?
it majorly hurt, so much we had to stop before finishing.

emotionally?
It was disappointing to have so much desire, but be unable to fulfill it.

Do you think you should have waited longer?
Not really, although we will wait a while longer before trying again

[zoie2013]

nak
4 weeks now. no tearing, but have a little light bleeding when i workout too hard or do too much. have zero desire. i'm exhausted and tandem bfing already makes my body feel colonized. dh made the mistake of touching my breast yesterday and i almost smacked his hand before i caught myself : he felt me tense up tho. i'll probably do a "fake it 'til i make it" in a couple of weeks-dtd even tho i don't feel like it. it's what i've always done before. dh is aware i'm not in the mood but i'll do it anyway. he's okay with that. i'll get back in the swing eventually and practicing will help get me there. gotta do it to get pg again next year anyway may as well get in the habit starting in a few weeks

[Qalliope]

I was about 6 wks PP when I saw this thread and realized we hadn't dtd yet. I thought OMG, has it really been that long? I ended up finding some time for dh later that night. I didn't tear at all, and it was not the least bit uncomfortable. It was quite a relief, actually.

[sapphire_chan]

Okay that was weird. Why would it hurt on the side away from the tear??