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post #141 of 158
Dang, that sounds like a bad night! I had a night like that a few days ago but since I've been fine. Sure hope you have the same experience and sleep well tonight. It's hard to lose MORE sleep!
post #142 of 158
OrchideZ - I think you'll be fine without a doula. So many people still get epi's or unnecessary interventions even with a doula...I think it really depends on what your heart is set on and what you are willing to do.

I'm GBS negative. One thing to not have to worry about. I'm glad I did the test.
post #143 of 158
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Orchidez, i dont think many ppl are comfortable w/ orgasmic birth. its something i strive for this time and on another board i am on, there were a lot of very negative comments that really hurt (esp. when you believe its possible, yk?). its better you let her go rather than deal w/ her negativity (even if concealed) at your birth.

i am thinking the boy's room will be painted prior to delivery. i was losing hope b/c i got so many really horrible quotes (like $900 to prep 2 fraking rooms...hello/!!!!!). finally someone started on it yesterday and im getting the paint today. yippee!!!!!!!!!
The room project sounds awesome. Please post when you have it done for us.

That is super odd re. people being down or prudish on the thought of a birth being sexual or pleasing in nature. Bums me out.
It makes sense to me. The act involves your genitals and sex organs and sex is how the baby was created. I mean, what could be more natural or earthy than a birth if you are open to realizing that?
The cool thing is my midwife (who won an award this past year I noticed as Midwife of the Year for So. Cal Doula Assoc and she is so amazing) was the one who I was originally about a month or so ago talking to about Ina May and associating birth with pleasure and she gave me an invite to see the film "Orgasmic Birth" which is screening here in a few weeks.
The doula we met with asked me what books or methods I was reading up on and I listed off all the books and then I mentioned being excited to see this film. I assumed she would maybe want to go to the screening as well.
She immediately cut me off and said, "I am sorry...I just can't go there. To imagine watching some woman having a 20 minute orgasm. Pul-lease. I wouldn't be able to keep a straight face!" while she was laughing too.
I said, "Well, it might be a pipedream but man, if you could have an orgasm during labor, wouldn't that be pretty cool?" She then told me "Well, I've never seen it" and changed the topic pretty dismissively.
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I shared this with my midwife and she said that she found it odd for a doula to be closed to that idea. She then told me that she has seen it happen and more than once.
I mean, I have never given birth before...I may be fooling myself yes. BUT. Why would I hire someone to be in the room who is coming from a closed mind-set?
I am too sensitive anyway so I know it would bother me.
My husband agreed she would probably not be the best fit for us.

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Orchidez - I think you'll be ok w/o a doula. I'm not using a doula. And I also think 5.5 weeks is long enough to do a crash hypnobabies home study. I'm 37 weeks in 1 day (woo hoo) and I'm still only working on class 3 (out of 5).
Babycakes, glad to hear it! I can't order the cds until Friday and will have to be getting them through the 2nd hand reduced rate program they have so I wanted to make sure its worth it to get them so late.

Tara: Reading about your night made me tear up. So sorry you had a rough time of things.
Take a nice bath I say and then go back to bed, sleep as much as you can.

Welcome Sunshine Mum!
post #144 of 158
Hello Sunshinemum & Hubby!

OrchideZ - that is really too weird about that doula. Maybe she feels like it'd be uncomfortable for her to be there as a witness to that experience? I mean, I can see where not everyone is ok with that part of themselves to hold it together watching someone else orgasm... but then again, that's a good reason not to have them there. I'm not pulling for orgasm per se, but I AM being open to ecstatic birthing. It makes sense to me too.

Janasmama - Congrats on being GBS negative!!!

Tara - for your sleepless night. I've had a few of those, usually followed by a pretty miserable day. BUT, things always have gotten better again so I'm : that you feel fabulous this weekend and enjoy your football!

Lee - Oh My Gosh you're weeks?!?! I remember you getting your BFP! That's so awesome you're all legal now! Not that your LO is coming any time soon, but that must be a real relief!

AAM: I had a miserable day yesterday. Just feeling really low and achy and whatever the LO was doing in my belly HURT. I don't think they were contrx, but maybe they were, my belly was just really tight and sore all day and my cervix kept feeling achy too. So I laid in bed or on the couch reading and watching a movie all day and didn't do anything but finish washing my baby clothes. I'm feeling better today thankfully; you can't help but wonder about labor when you're this far along, but it's still too early so it was a worrisome day.
post #145 of 158
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Originally Posted by janasmama View Post
OrchideZ - I think you'll be fine without a doula. So many people still get epi's or unnecessary interventions even with a doula...I think it really depends on what your heart is set on and what you are willing to do.

I'm GBS negative. One thing to not have to worry about. I'm glad I did the test.
I missed your post while I was typing mine out.
Thanks for the good words.
Congrats on the GBS results!:
I get my test done in another week and a half so am gonna start taking acidophilus pearls and live probiotic culture this weekend.
Did you do anything special to help your results?
I had asked my midwife about garlic therapy (ingested and inserted vaginally) and she said for me not to bother as to get a high enough dose to make it effective, it would thin my blood out and they don't want that.
She said she felt yogurt/probiotic regime was the way to go.

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OrchideZ - that is really too weird about that doula. Maybe she feels like it'd be uncomfortable for her to be there as a witness to that experience? I mean, I can see where not everyone is ok with that part of themselves to hold it together watching someone else orgasm... but then again, that's a good reason not to have them there. I'm not pulling for orgasm per se, but I AM being open to ecstatic birthing. It makes sense to me too.
Amber: I thought it was weird too. Then again, she is younger and a newer doula- has 20-odd births under her belt. She was also really flabbergasted when she found out my age. That was another thing. She was talking about "older mothers" and specific situations where "that doesn't even apply to you" then I finally said "well, I am 37 almost 38" and her jaw literally dropped. She could not believe it. I think she is a bit too "green" for us.
I also was never "pulling" for an orgasm b/c I think like with sex, you can't stress or focus on that...they happen when they will.
I am just open-minded and excited about the possibility of anything happening and someone who is judgemental or close-minded about something joyful is not someone I want to share such intimacy with.
I will be back later...off to PT now!
Have a great morning ladies...

eta: Amber: I had the same feelings down low yesterday and last night. I got scared b/c a few days ago I had undercooked chicken at a Thai place and ate some of it before I noticed. Then I tried to calm myself by saying its the baby making room and dropping/lightning which it looks like he is doing from my observation this morning. To read you are experiencing this too makes me think it must be normal.
post #146 of 158
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Originally Posted by OrchideZ View Post
She was also really flabbergasted when she found out my age. That was another thing. She was talking about "older mothers" and specific situations where "that doesn't even apply to you" then I finally said "well, I am 37 almost 38" and her jaw literally dropped. She could not believe it.
wow...she would really freak out if she read teh thread for moms TTC past 40, huh??? my ds3 was born when i was 38. he's almost 3.

she does sound very close minded.
post #147 of 158
I figure if it's going to be intense anyway I'd rather it be orgasmic. I think it'd be much easier for a first time mom to achieve the right mindset to get there too. Good luck to you!

Re- GBS Congrats Janasmama! I took probiotics and GSE to combat it and tested negative.
post #148 of 158
I haven't had time to read all of the previous posts, but I hope everyone is doing well!!

I'm in full on nesting mode today!! I've done laundry, dishes, sewing, organizing and packing; I'm on a roll!! My baby shower is on Sunday so I want to make sure that everything else I already have is in place so I can easily bring in the gifts that we get and not stress myself out! Okay, back to work, wish me luck
post #149 of 158
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Originally Posted by OrchideZ View Post
That is super odd re. people being down or prudish on the thought of a birth being sexual or pleasing in nature. Bums me out.
It's amazing how many different types of doulas and midwives their are. Some midwives even think gettting a epi is considered an unmedicated birth and not within the realm of 'drugs' b/c of the cocktail that it is and the way it's administered.

I'm not saying that it's not okay to get one, just that I think we're kidding ourselves when we say it's an unmedicated birth.

You're awesome for thinking the way you are....

and I would have never guessed you were almost 38. You look great.
post #150 of 158
Thanks for all the well-wishes ladies. It's nice to have people who understand. I cancelled my client appts this afternoon in hopes of being able to just take it easy and they were fine with that. I hate doing that because it makes me feel like I'm weak to cancel appts because my body is "achey" but I keep reminding myself that this late in pregnancy it really is ok to stop and it doesn't make me any less strong. I wish my chiro had an open appt today. I did lay down and get a little bit of sleep (maybe an hour?) which is good but I was woken up by my aching hips again. *sigh* Hopefully I'll be like those of you who had a good night's sleep after a really rough one.

Carrie, that's great that your GBS came back neg! What a relief and so nice to not worry about it anymore!

OrchideZ, you seem very at ease and comfortable with having a birth w/o a doula so I really think you made the right decision. It sounds like she definitely wasn't a good match for your birth ambitions.

AmberLion, I'm sorry you had a rough day yesterday. Hopefully it's just baby preparing for the big day!
post #151 of 158
Today has been a poopie day for me too! I had a terrible night, similar to yours, Tara. Up basically all night with one discomfort or another, and then some annoying contrax this morning.

Then to make matters WORSE I had to run out to get some ingredients to make my kitties food, and it started to rain. Blah, I hate getting caught in the rain, especially now b/c lumbering around is just so annoying. Then I get home and realize I don't have vegetable broth, which I need to make dinner. Totally have to run back out in the rain again. Totally got soaked, totally stepped in too many puddles.

Then as I'm leaving, putting my bag in the car, I realize I STOLE a jar of coriander. I feel terrible! It was in the top part of the cart and I didn't see it or realize it until I was already out by my car. I didn't go back in. I said screw it. Whatever. I'm soaked, having contrax, and annoyed. :

At least it's Friday and Stargate is on tonight, that's really the only thing I'm looking forward to. Chris and I chillin' on the couch, eating dinner and watching Stargate. It doesn't take much to cheer me, I guess, when I've had such a bad day!
post #152 of 158
s to you Carrie. Knowing how miserable I've been all day, I feel for ya!
post #153 of 158
This must be the crappy day for Carrie's b/c I'm sort of having one too. I got a call at 5:45am that I my friend needed me to come to her house so she could go attend a birth. At 9:00 I dropped off her older kids at school and brought the little one to my house.

It's now 2:35 and she was on her way home to pick up the little one and then she got rammed into from behind by a huge truck so I need to go drive 20 min. to get her older kids and bring them back to my house b/c I don't have a carseat for all of her kids plus mine so my DH will watch my LO while I go but I have to come back so he can keep working.

I'm super tired and pretty soon I'll have 5 kids at my house making a mess.

Plus, I've been really wanting to keep school kids out of my house...not being a germ-a-phobe or anything, just precautionary. Oh well....

I'm sure I'll get called out again b/c she's got lots of births about to happen and overdue moms.
post #154 of 158
to those having crappy days!!! I was SO there yesterday, so try and go easy on yourselves and hopefully tomorrow will be better!!!
post #155 of 158
Having a busy day, but I wanted to drop in to say that you can do Hypnobabies in about three weeks with the accelerated schedule. Thank goodness.

OrchideZ: Your ex-doula sounds like a prudish knucklehead!!! Glad you got rid of her.

Take care mamas!
post #156 of 158
OMG- the nesting.... I'm kinda freaking out. DH has a big important dinner/banquet tonight and all the sudden this afternoon it occurred to me that if I go into labor and he's not here, my bathroom is not clean enough. That's so freaking irrational... I'm not going into labor and my bathroom wasn't that bad but good god, the panic. I've washed all of our linens today too.
post #157 of 158
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Having a busy day, but I wanted to drop in to say that you can do Hypnobabies in about three weeks with the accelerated schedule. Thank goodness.

OrchideZ: Your ex-doula sounds like a prudish knucklehead!!! Glad you got rid of her.

Take care mamas!


You are AWESOME for posting that link! Thankyouthankyouthankyou!!!
post #158 of 158
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OMG- the nesting.... I'm kinda freaking out. DH has a big important dinner/banquet tonight and all the sudden this afternoon it occurred to me that if I go into labor and he's not here, my bathroom is not clean enough. That's so freaking irrational... I'm not going into labor and my bathroom wasn't that bad but good god, the panic. I've washed all of our linens today too.
I am feeling the same way today! All of a sudden it seems nothing is done and I need to get it ALL done right.now!!!

At least they are getting done, but hopefully my FFN test is wrong and I don't have this little guy in the next two weeks!
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