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Moms of winter babies, do you do "half" birthday parties in the summer?

Poll Results: Would you go to a "half" party in the summer for a child born in the winter?

This is a multiple choice poll
  • 19% (35)
    Yes I would.
  • 44% (82)
    No I wouldn't.
  • 13% (25)
    I think it's a neat idea.
  • 16% (30)
    I think it's a bad idea.
  • 6% (11)
    Other (please elaborate)
183 Total Votes  
post #1 of 69
Thread Starter 
We live in NW Indiana (think Chicago region) and have two children born in the middle of winter (Dec. & Jan.). Their birthdays fall within three weeks of each other (four years apart).

It seems like each year that we've had a birthday for our oldest (our youngest was born this past January), we get really bad snowy/icy weather which prevents most people from traveling even a small distance to her party. One year we had two people show up because of the weather. And we're always forced to either have it at our house (which gets stressful for many reasons) or pay an outrageous amount of money and travel some distance to have it somewhere like else (Chuck-E-Cheese, skating rink, family fun center, etc.)

I've been thinking about having a half birthday for them sometime in June/July so that the weather should be good and we would have more options of having their party outdoors if we wanted. This party would of course replace the winter party. I figured we, as a family, could celebrate their actual birthdays with a family outing and gifts and then celebrate with everyone else in the summer.

Has anyone done this?

Do you think people would show up since it's not the kids' actual birthdays?

Or do you have any other suggestions for us?

Thanks for your input!
post #2 of 69
February here... and similar climate. No we don't do half birthday parties. We only do a birthday "party" every other year, and then it's very toned-down.
post #3 of 69
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by velochic View Post
February here... and similar climate. No we don't do half birthday parties. We only do a birthday "party" every other year, and then it's very toned-down. I really feel like (just my opinion) birthdays are a materialistic "gimme"fest typical of American culture and having a half-birthday is too over-the-top. We are more inclined to simply mark the day with doing something particularly special for dd, keeping it simple and letting her know that we appreciate her.
I do agree with you in regards to the materialistic aspect of things.

That's not the reason for the "half" birthday party. It's so the kids can get together with their friends to celebrate their special day- even though it's not their actual birthday. I hope that makes sense!
post #4 of 69
We don't have the bad weather factor, but my DS b-day is Dec 20th. Just a bad time to try and get friends and family over to play since it generally falls just about the time people are traveling for the holidays. I would consider having a celebration in the summertime, just so that we could have a nice group. We generally do no gift parties, so that is not part of it anyway.
post #5 of 69
DD1 has an early December birthday, and we've never had a 'half birthday' party for her.

Would I attend a half-birthday party if we were invited to one? I can't see any reason why not, but I'd never host one. We celebrate birthdays when they actually occur.
post #6 of 69
im in a semi same dilemma, though not as severe. yumyum was born last october & i'd like to have an outdoor party cause our apartment & funds arent big enough, but it'll probably be too cold. thats an interesting idea! having it during summer, like their 6 month mark. never heard it but i like it! i'm an april baby and i remember some b-day parties were rained out and boy was that a bummer.
post #7 of 69
Never say never is my motto. So I voted other. I would prefer DS and DD keep their actual winter birthdays. But one of them may eventually have a good reason to want to move it, and I'll go with that.

My sisters birthday is Dec 20, mine is Jan 2. Both AWFUL days imo. Everyone has just finished all the Christmas parties, then new year, then oh - FINALLY we are done. Oh no, it's Allison's birthday. My birthday was even forgotten, more than once. Both my sister and I toyed with moving our birthdays until July, but we never did. It just didn't feel "real", and who wanted to wait an extra half a year?
post #8 of 69
My mom really wants to throw DS a half birthday party down by her, she's been wanting to throw him a birthday party for the reletives since he was 1 but she's afraid no one will want to travel in January.

Now I'm due with another due right before Christmas. I think there is nothing wrong with it as long as you don't have two birthday parties for them You can avoid calling it a half birthday if that seems weird, and just say its a "summer party" and then you can skip the birthday presents too (an advantage mostly in my opinion).
post #9 of 69
won't summer be just as bad though? My brother's birthday is in July and his friends were always away on holiday (or WE were on holiday) so his party always was really limited.

Our older DD's birthday is in April but April is too unpredictable here to have an outdoor party (especially if you're planning a few weeks in advance) We used to live in a REALLY tiny house so no space... We rented out a community centre room. The room was bare but we were able to decorate and it meant that our house wasn't torn apart at the end of the party It made it really fun and the community centre rooms are a very reasonable cost. Maybe you can find a similar room (though it won't help with the weather...)
post #10 of 69
I wouldn't. My kids' birthdays are in (late) October and (early) March. Weather is always very iffy. It varies each year - could be gorgeous and 50 or -10 and snowing. I don't know, I just think it sends the message that their real birthday is too much of an inconvenience to everybody so it has to be a different day. It won't be bad weather EVERY year and there's definitely a chance the weather could be bad on their half birthday. It could rain and you'd have to cancel the pool party. There could be a tornado warning so nobody wants to leave the house.

If you wanted to do a dinner outing with the grandparents or something on the half birthday I think that's fine, but I would leave the gift opening and games for the actual birthday. If the weather is to bad for the day of the party, why not just post-pone it til the following weekend?

ETA - I don't think Chuck-e-cheese, pump-it-up, etc are THAT unreasonable. They run about $150-$200 here. We're doing that this year and not feeding everybody (obviously there will be cake and punch though) and it really isn't going to cost us much more than when we have everybody here and serve lunch/dinner.
post #11 of 69
My daughters birthday is November 29 (this year it's during Thanksgiving weekend) and my son is February 26. Thankfully we live in a climate that has mild winters. Very rarely does it snow here and if it did it'd be easy to reschedule a home party for the next weekend, so we do not do a half party.

My nephew has a half-birthday party with friends every year because his birthday is right after Christmas so often very few of his friends are in town. He has a family party on his birthday.
post #12 of 69
I haven't personally seen this done, but I have a winter birthday-- 3 days after Christmas. I was always getting the 'joint' gifts, one for both Christmas and my birthday. My birthday definitely got overshadowed by the holidays, not necessarily by my parents. My mom always made a point to celebrate them separately, but it was definitely overlooked by other family members and friends. I asked my mom a few times as a kid to celebrate my half birthday in the summer. I always wanted a swimming party and couldn't do that with a winter birthday. I think it's a great idea! I actually had a friend in school that used to give me my birthday gift on my half birthday, and I loved it.
post #13 of 69
My friend's dd was born January 1st. She had one and only one party during that time frame. It was a nightmare.

So every year she has a half birthday--but there is little outside family recognition of her birthday. Her dd understands why, she remebers her New Years nightmare. One thing she likes is that she can have a swim party by doing it during the summer. They do make a joke of it.

Most people give her gifts at her half birthday but not her real birthday. At 10 she is ok with this she just got a bunch of X-mas presents.

We still give her card and/or something small.
post #14 of 69
I love parties and I think that if that is when the parents want to give it then it's fine. I'd go.
post #15 of 69
I have two winter (January and February) and one summer. If I did a half birthday due to Ds's winter birthday, the other child would expect the same. This would mean we celebrate 6 birthdays a year. just for kids, no way. I'm not big on parties as it is.
We just found winter party stuff, Ds had a bowling alley party a couple times. And Dd is only three, we did a pizza party, and a small family only one then all our friends at our house this year.
post #16 of 69
I have never heard of a "half" birthday party before
post #17 of 69
My brother's birthday is Dec 24th and he never wanted a half birthday party, though my mom always offered. My DD was born Dec 29th and I will offer, but I doubt she'll accept. It just doesn't feel like a real birthday celebration that far from the actual date.
post #18 of 69
Why not just have a party...... or BBQ, or whatever.

You don't need a birthday to have a party.
post #19 of 69
I checked other. Because of the situation here (no extreme weather and lots of people away / busy in the summer) I wouldn't do a 1/2 birthday for my winter kids, but I don't see why you shouldn't. Maybe I should actually do a 1/2 birthday for my July girl. All her friends are away and it's hard to have a party then
post #20 of 69
Quote:
Originally Posted by Christian_mom View Post
I do agree with you in regards to the materialistic aspect of things.

That's not the reason for the "half" birthday party. It's so the kids can get together with their friends to celebrate their special day- even though it's not their actual birthday. I hope that makes sense!
You quoted my post before I completed my edit. That's why I edited it. I realized it could have sounded like I was saying that. I wasn't.

The half-birthday parties we've been to very much seemed like the idea was "weather prohibited people from coming... we'll do it when people don't have an excuse and we can get more presents". Those were the parties *I've* witnessed. I didn't want you to think I was saying that about your post.

I agree that it would be fun to just have a "summer celebration" party each year. Invite the kids' friends and just have fun. Spinning it as half-birthday will make people feel like they need to bring presents.
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