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post #41 of 136
1. how old are you? 30

2. how old are your kids?28 months and I'm 21 weeks pregnant with my second son

3. what does dp do for a living? Foreman for electric co.

4. what did you do before being a sahm? freelance writer and legal assistant

5. how long have you been a sahm? 2 years

6. do long do you plan on being a sahm? As of right now we plan to home school, after that I plan to continue freelancing from home
7. how much time do you spend cleaning each day? never timed it but probably about two hours or so

8. what activities are you and your kids involved in? Nothing except family get togethers and play dates at the moment

9. do you have a support system? Yes, my family lives close by so I have tons of support.
10. favorite thing about being a sahm? Knowing that my family can be my first priority and that I am always available when I'm needed. Also getting to be the primary caregiver for all of kids' waking hours.

11. least favorite thing about being a sahm? I honestly can't think of anything at the moment, but I'm sure there's something...

12. overall are you happy being a sahm? Yes, I thank God everyday for this blessing.
post #42 of 136
1. how old are you? 32
2. how old are your kids? 13,5,4,1
3. what does dp do for a living? Carpenter, 3rd yr apprentice
4. what did you do before being a sahm? telemarketing
5. how long have you been a sahm? 6 years
6. do long do you plan on being a sahm? till i die
7. how much time do you spend cleaning each day? 1 hour
8. what activities are you and your kids involved in? i MDC, DS=football, DSD=time w/biomom etc.
9. do you have a support system? yes!
10. favorite thing about being a sahm? i can take a nap in the middle of the day. sometimes.
11. least favorite thing about being a sahm? less money.
12. overall are you happy being a sahm? yes, but i cant work anyway. i am disabled.
post #43 of 136
1. how old are you? 31

2. how old are your kids? 27months and 5 months

3. what does dp do for a living? mechanical engineer

4. what did you do before being a sahm? chemist

5. how long have you been a sahm? 4 months before my oldest was born - we moved over to Germany and I quit my job

6. do long do you plan on being a sahm? hopefully until the youngest is in school full time

7. how much time do you spend cleaning each day? an hour or two in 12 to 20 minute intervals

8. what activities are you and your kids involved in? We did library story time before the youngest was born and we'll start swimming lessons this winter

9. do you have a support system? My family, two sisters, and ILs - no close friends with kids though

10. favorite thing about being a sahm? Having the time to really look into what's best for our family. I can do things like garden, make food from scratch, cloth diaper, and whatever else I decide on.

11. least favorite thing about being a sahm? Half of our money is now gone. That put a major change in our lifestyle. The loneliness is pretty hard too.

12. overall are you happy being a sahm? Yes, for this stage of my life it's great. I would not be happy doing it forever though.
post #44 of 136
1. how old are you? 34
2. how old are your kids? 17 months and T-4 months (baby in belly)
3. what does dp do for a living? Nurse Anesthetist for a pediatric hospital
4. what did you do before being a sahm? marketing/writing
5. how long have you been a sahm? since i went into labor, so 17 months
6. do long do you plan on being a sahm? until school
7. how much time do you spend cleaning each day? depends on the day, like today, virtually none, just straightening up after our coloring and reading
8. what activities are you and your kids involved in? we aren't involved in anything formal, though we play with cousins a lot.
9. do you have a support system? my twin sister is ten minutes from me :
10. favorite thing about being a sahm? i love being able to notice the little things that i know i would miss if i were working. for example, i remember the first time she turned a book from upside down to reading position.
11. least favorite thing about being a sahm? lack of time alone. sometimes you just want the bathroom to be an alone thing.
12. overall are you happy being a sahm? very.
post #45 of 136
1. how old are you? 29, I'll be 30 in March

2. how old are your kids? 13, 6, and 2 yrs. old

3. what does dp do for a living? crane oper.

4. what did you do before being a sahm? hmmm...slept a lot more than i do now.

5. how long have you been a sahm? thirteen years

6. do long do you plan on being a sahm? just two more years


7. how much time do you spend cleaning each day? cleaning? what is that?

8. what activities are you and your kids involved in? together, none. my oldest is on the school's cross country track team and plays the cello. my middle child starts swim classes this fall.

9. do you have a support system? i have a great support team. i have "die hard" supporters.

10. favorite thing about being a sahm? it keeps me from engaging in constant "small talk."

11. least favorite thing about being a sahm? i'm a 24-7 day a week role-model.

12. overall are you happy being a sahm? very.
post #46 of 136
1. how old are you? 41 this month

2. how old are your kids? 1 year old & 2 years old

3. what does dp do for a living? Research scientist

4. what did you do before being a sahm? English teacher, grades 5-8, for 14 years.

5. how long have you been a sahm? About 2 1/2 years.

6. do long do you plan on being a sahm? Until the nestlings fledge - I plan to home school.

7. how much time do you spend cleaning each day? Around an hour or two? It's all in fits & starts, throughout the day - a sinkful of dishes here, a load of laundry there. I don't worry about dust or dirty windows though- will work on that when my kids are older.

8. what activities are you and your kids involved in? We have a garden in the back yard, which I plant & weed, & they hunt in for bugs & pick & eat stuff; also a few pullets, which my 2 year old feeds.

9. do you have a support system? No - I wish I did.

10. favorite thing about being a sahm? Being there for my kids, the flexible schedule.

11. least favorite thing about being a sahm? Being on duty 24/7, never getting time of my own.

12. overall are you happy being a sahm? I wouldn't *not* wish to be a SAHM, but it's really hard when your DP feels that bringing in the income is all he's obligated for; I really expected more help with the actual parenting gig.
post #47 of 136
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post #48 of 136
1. how old are you? 24, almost 25!
2. how old are your kids? 5 months the 17th
3. what does dp do for a living? Executive Chef
4. what did you do before being a sahm? Waitress/Sales associate
5. how long have you been a sahm? Almost 5 months
6. do long do you plan on being a sahm? As long as we can afford it
7. how much time do you spend cleaning each day? a couple hours (most days)
8. what activities are you and your kids involved in? Not too much yet...I watch a couple other children, so we go for walks, to the park and the farmers market
9. do you have a support system? My parents, my boyfriend, a handful of good friends
10. favorite thing about being a sahm? Not missing anything! I get to be here for every developmental step he takes!
11. least favorite thing about being a sahm? Getting lonely, missing adult interaction, lacking financial security
12. overall are you happy being a sahm? Absolutely. I wouldn't trade it for anything. Every sacrifice made is worth being able to be at home raising my son.
post #49 of 136
1. how old are you?
27

2. how old are your kids?
three and one in utero

3. what does dp do for a living?
computer network admin

4. what did you do before being a sahm?
college student... studying to be an art teacher/working artist

5. how long have you been a sahm?
three years

6. do long do you plan on being a sahm?
forever

7. how much time do you spend cleaning each day?
not enough most days, too much on other days Average 4ish hours?

8. what activities are you and your kids involved in?
hah! we play pretend, garden, cook, create (draw/paint/craft/sew)

9. do you have a support system?
nope, wish we did, it gets lonely

10. favorite thing about being a sahm?
I actually know my kid. I don't spend time worrying about "outside" things-- I can focus on my family

11. least favorite thing about being a sahm?
I'm terrified to drive... so that limits what i can do in a little town with expensive public transportation. For example- DH has to go grocery shopping with us, and he is worse in a store than the 3 year old! Not many opportunities to meet new people IRL

12. overall are you happy being a sahm?
Very.
post #50 of 136
what did you do before being a sahm?
college and career for about a decade

how long have you been a sahm?
a couple of years

do long do you plan on being a sahm?
honestly, I'm not sure. eventually, i'll go back to work, and it will probably be sooner rather than later, but i am unsure of the timeframe and specifics.

how much time do you spend cleaning each day?
not a lot! I'm one of those SAHMs who stresses the mom part. the only reason I gave up my career was to care for my child. anything else is just gravy on top. i firmly believe my job is not to clean. dh and i clean in our spare time.

what activities are you and your kids involved in?
lots and lots. we keep active and busy, both at home and away.

do you have a support system?
no, not really. well, i have GREAT friends. really great friends, but my family basically sucks. i'm not kidding. so, i'm kind of navigating this on my own, which is getting easier but it is hard not having that "village."

favorite thing about being a sahm?
choosing what we do and when! i love having flexibility and options...and time. i am very, very involved in all aspects of parenting my child and i have time to research and be very choosey.

least favorite thing about being a sahm?
no salary. no retirement. no sick leave. losing traction in my career. missing my friends and colleagues at work. missing working on exciting project with adults! and sometimes hearing derisive and mean comments from my dh. :

overall are you happy being a sahm?
overall, yes. i am glad i am a sahm. i am glad i made this decision. it was not an easy decision, and still has no clear and right answer for me. there are many, many things i wish i could change, but most of them i can't change. generally, i am happy with the sahm status (for now) anyway. i do feel it was the best choice for my child, but i also feel that it was a big sacrifice.
post #51 of 136
Wow, I feel so old. So many of you are younger than me. I'm surprised to see so many moms in their 20s.
post #52 of 136
1. how old are you?
31
2. how old are your kids?
5.5, 4, 2, and 7.5 mos

3. what does dp do for a living?
Corrections officer at the county jail

4. what did you do before being a sahm?
MIHOW (maternal/infant health outreach worker) and Literacy specialist for grassroots non-profit org serving rural women in three counties

5. how long have you been a sahm?
6 years

6. do long do you plan on being a sahm?
Depends - I would consider a part-time job that I'd enjoy, with a flexible schedule so that Dh could be home with the kids. (Partly because paying for childcare would negate the money!)

7. how much time do you spend cleaning each day?
some days 4+ hours, some days I don't do anything more than cook, clean up spills, and wash the dishes. We've had a couple of decluttering days, so downstairs looks like a bomb went off and it will probably take 6 hours to recover. (But a ton of junk is leaving the house tomorrow morning! Yay!)

8. what activities are you and your kids involved in?
LLL, soccer, SpiralScouts

9. do you have a support system?
Yep, amazing friends here, and my family is a great support even though they live several states away.

10. favorite thing about being a sahm?
Being there for all my kids' moments! Having freedom in my schedule to do whatever we want when we want.

11. least favorite thing about being a sahm?
Never getting a moment to myself, feeling overwhelmed/tired and not being able to get some space to recenter; not feeling free to do things for myself

12. overall are you happy being a sahm?
Absolutely! :
post #53 of 136
1. how old are you? 34
2. how old are your kids? 2 (triplets)
3. what does dp do for a living? Interior designer
4. what did you do before being a sahm? did dh's bookkeeping and a sahw
5. how long have you been a sahm? 3 years
6. do long do you plan on being a sahm? forever and ever and ever
7. how much time do you spend cleaning each day? not much. (I have a housekeeper)
8. what activities are you and your kids involved in? Art class and Shabbat class. Plus a playgroup.
9. do you have a support system? nope
10. favorite thing about being a sahm? My girls
11. least favorite thing about being a sahm? loneliness
12. overall are you happy being a sahm? yes
post #54 of 136
totally jealous of the housekeeper....
post #55 of 136
1. how old are you?
34

2. how old are your kids?
3yo and 4yo

3. what does dp do for a living?
DH is deceased

4. what did you do before being a sahm?
hairstylist

5. how long have you been a sahm?
since 2004 (though I was a stay at home wife for 2 years prior) DH died in 2005 so I've been doing it just over 3 years on my own.

6. do long do you plan on being a sahm?
indefinitely. I work PT at home as a writer but it is a struggle. but something I am committed to at this point!

7. how much time do you spend cleaning each day?
not enough usually. we are messy. and you can tell how much I've been working by the state of my house!

8. what activities are you and your kids involved in?
it varies. park, library, meet ups with other single parent families, hiking. no organized activities though.

9. do you have a support system?
not enough.

10. favorite thing about being a sahm?
being able to be there and not miss a moment!

11. least favorite thing about being a sahm?
isolation. time management as I don't currently have a partner.

12. overall are you happy being a sahm?
yep! I wouldn't trade this time for the world! :
post #56 of 136
1. how old are you?
43 -- I feel so old after reading about all these young moms.

2. how old are your kids?
14, 12 and almost 4

3. what does dp do for a living?
self-employed contractor

4. what did you do before being a sahm?
web site manager/publications editor

5. how long have you been a sahm?
nine years; worked parttime before that (since oldest was born)

6. how long do you plan on being a sahm?
unlimited. May go back to substitute teaching once dd2 goes to school but then I would be on the same schedule

7. how much time do you spend cleaning each day?
Daily: basic kitchen cleanup, picking up around house, laundry
Weekly: "big" cleaning like floors, vacuum, bathrooms - no more than two hours total

8. what activities are you and your kids involved in?
older kids do sports at school
DD2 will take a 45 min ballet class; library storyhours; playgroup twice a month with MDC mamas/kids; play in yard; cook at home; play games; read


9. do you have a support system?
friends and neighbors

10. favorite thing about being a sahm?
being there for my kids before and after school; taking part in school activities; going to their sporting events;

11. least favorite thing about being a sahm?
dh sometimes wonders what I do all day

12. overall are you happy being a sahm?
Oh, yes! :
post #57 of 136
1. how old are you?
30

2. how old are your kids?
5 and soon to be 7

3. what does dp do for a living?
pipeline welder and supervisor for high voltage underground transmission installation

4. what did you do before being a sahm?
insurance agent and plumbing technical support for Kohler Plumbing

5. how long have you been a sahm?
seven years

6. do long do you plan on being a sahm?
According to dh, forever.

7. how much time do you spend cleaning each day?
: Every day? That depends on what's going on.

8. what activities are you and your kids involved in?
At the moment, soccer.

9. do you have a support system?
somewhat

10. favorite thing about being a sahm?
Being there for my kids and being free to travel with dh when it works out

11. least favorite thing about being a sahm?
Being the only one at home most of the time to deal with everything day and night.

12. overall are you happy being a sahm?
Yes
post #58 of 136
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Originally Posted by mkarntz View Post
1. how old are you?
31
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2. how old are your kids?
8, 7, 6, 4
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3. what does dp do for a living?
Network administrator
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4. what did you do before being a sahm?
I was in grad school and I worked doing customer service and administrative work
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5. how long have you been a sahm?
almost 9 years
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6. do long do you plan on being a sahm?
undecided.
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7. how much time do you spend cleaning each day?
an hour or two
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school, preschool, dance, sports (depends on the season), playgroups
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9. do you have a support system?
I live about an hour from my fabulous family, and I have a lovely circle of like-minded mama friends.
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10. favorite thing about being a sahm?
spending time with my kids, of course
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11. least favorite thing about being a sahm?
Before my kids were in school, it could be very overwhelming at times.
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12. overall are you happy being a sahm?
yes. If I wasn't happy with my life I'd make changes.
post #59 of 136
1. how old are you? 35, 36 on september 25th.....

2. how old are your kids? 14, 9, 16 months, expecting 4th in 1/2009

3. what does dp do for a living? He's an engineer...

4. what did you do before being a sahm? Customer service rep, administrative stuff...

5. how long have you been a sahm? 9 years

6. do long do you plan on being a sahm? probably until the youngest are in school most of the day...maybe 7 more years... that's a guess.
7. how much time do you spend cleaning each day? As little as possible... I'm not a clean freak...
8. what activities are you and your kids involved in? I like to garden, read, knit, walk.... My son is in soccer, guitar, school chorus.. My daughter is in between stuff right now...First year of high school trying to get used to that, she will be doing school activities...

9. do you have a support system? I have some really good neighbors that are helpful when needed. But all family is far away..

10. favorite thing about being a sahm? Flexibility with my days..spending time with kids, not having to put them somewhere else during the day. Building this life that I never thought I would have...

11. least favorite thing about being a sahm? Lonely at times.. it can be very isolating. also boredom....

12. overall are you happy being a sahm? I am happy with our decision that I would stay at home.. It is challenging having one income at times, and fighting the boredom.. But I really think this is important for me to be home to be with our kids...
post #60 of 136
1. how old are you? 27
2. how old are your kids?3.5 years and 7 months
3. what does dp do for a living?stunt man
4. what did you do before being a sahm?dancer
5. how long have you been a sahm?3.5 years
6. do long do you plan on being a sahm?forever, we will homeschool
7. how much time do you spend cleaning each day?about 1 hour, sometimes more sometimes less
8. what activities are you and your kids involved in?dd1 does gymnastics 2x a week and dance 1x
9. do you have a support system?yes, a few friends and my mom and sister
10. favorite thing about being a sahm?seeing my children do amazing things, knowing I am there for them all the time
11. least favorite thing about being a sahm?the relentless cleaning. the constant touching. I'm bad about taking breaks...
12. overall are you happy being a sahm?yes I am. I am tired, but happy
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