If this is NOT your first pregnancy

[lemurmommies]

Hey Mamas,

I am absolutely terrified that there is something wrong with this pregnancy because I haven't felt the same as when I was pregnant with E at all. When I was pregnant with him I felt really nauseous all of week 7. I am now in week 7 and am completely functional. My breasts aren't as sore this time around, and I don't feel as tired. I have been more moody though.

I am just plagued by the feeling that since it isn't the same it isn't right. I haven't had any spotting or bleeding at all, and no real cramping either that would indicate a problem. I have had a bit of lower abdomen tightness, but I'm thinking that's related to my c-section scar.

Am I crazy? Am I going to feel this way until I hear the baby's heart beat? I'm not scheduled in with my midwives until 10 and won't have any bloodwork done until after that. I was also not planning on doing the early triple-screen and having the early ultrasound, but I'm so freaked out now that I'm second guessing myself.

Any advice?

[PaytonPlace]

I know the feeling. I never had any spotting w/ #1. I have been spotting all week but my HCG keeps going up. I'm hoping this is maybe just from having a previous c/s, maybe scar tissue or something is causing the spotting?? I am so emotionally drained. I feel like I cannot be excited about this until I *know* everything is going to be ok. I have an appointment for an u/s on Wed and I am really hoping I see something that puts me at ease.

Hang in there!!! I felt pretty good w/ #1. I had the nausea but I never actually threw up. Other than that, I had no discomforts until the end where everything was uncomfortable from being so big.

[~Katie~]

Rest assured that every pregnancy is different and every baby is different. Try not to compare the two. Try to discover the source of your fear and sort through it, try to over-come your fears and trust your intuition. What does your intuition tell you? I have found that as second-timers and beyond we are more aware of what can go wrong and are more on-guard and not as relaxed as we were with the first since everything was so new.

[lemurmommies]

Originally Posted by KatieJD

:Try to discover the source of your fear and sort through it, try to over-come your fears and trust your intuition. What does your intuition tell you?

My source of fear is that there is a strong history of first trimester miscarriage in my family. My mother had three after having me - I am an only child. My mother's youngest sister had 4 before carrying my cousin to term. I guess I am having a hard time believing that it was this easy to get pregnant again and that the baby with actually stick.

As for my intuition, I just don't know. I have no real physical reason to suspect anything is wrong, yet I am very unsure.

[MotherMama]

Pregnancy can be so terrifying, can't it? This is my fifth pregnancy, they have been very very different. Try not to worry (I know it's hard, my last was a loss and I am overanalyzing everything).

[~Katie~]

Originally Posted by lemurmommies

My source of fear is that there is a strong history of first trimester miscarriage in my family. My mother had three after having me - I am an only child. My mother's youngest sister had 4 before carrying my cousin to term. I guess I am having a hard time believing that it was this easy to get pregnant again and that the baby with actually stick.

As for my intuition, I just don't know. I have no real physical reason to suspect anything is wrong, yet I am very unsure.

I can understand how that can be a real fear for you and it's effecting you in your pregnancy now. I'm so sorry to hear about their losses. Try to distinguish yourself as having your own unique experience, if you are healthy and have no reason to suspect any outward signs of anything being wrong, take comfort in that. Big for you mama

[CAUCmama]

My first and second were completely different, I was sick and miserable with my first. With my second I felt great other than a lot of tightness from the c-section with the first. Now it's my third and I feel like poo again. =)

[crystallane]

I feel the same way. My first two were exactly the same, I was very sick. So far with this one I dont even feel pregnant at all. I am very nervous and just hoping everything is okay. I just keep telling myself every pregnancy is different.

[burm_keep]

Fwiw, with my first I had no naseau to speak of and little if any breast tenderness.

[cmoma]

So far all three of mine have been different. Although it's still too early to tell whats going to happen this time. I was exhausted with my first, with some nausea. My second I had very little nausea and was not hardly tired at all.

[RasJane]

I am so with you!
This pg is a complete and udder surprise. I feel fine. A little tired (from insomnia--blah), I get suddenly very hungry, and have to pee a little more often. With my first I could smell everything, was nauseous, dizzy, you name it.
I'm having a hard time believing that it's real. I don't think it will really sink in for me until I hear the heartbeat either.

[AlmightyIsis]

My first and second pgs were very similar. My second pg though, ended in a missed m/c. Some of my symptoms had faded, but it's so hard to tell. I had worried the entire time I was pg with #1, so I decided to let go with pg #2.

But worrying wouldn't have changed the outcome.

Loss, certainly though, colors your perceptions. With DS#2 (pg #3), it was so different. But I still had a baby.

With this one. . .? I don't know. It's so early on. I'm older, I've had fertility problems, I'm PRAYING for a sticky babe, but I suppose I'm more of a realist this time, and I know I just have to wait and see.

Try to enjoy it though. I don't regret enjoying my pregnancy that ended in loss. It was a special time for me.

[Asher]

I've felt like this with every pregnancy, I'm afraid. It's just the way I am. (((HUGS)))

[lemurmommies]

Originally Posted by AlmightyIsis

Try to enjoy it though. I don't regret enjoying my pregnancy that ended in loss. It was a special time for me.

That's a really, really good point. Thanks.

[ColoradoMama]

Originally Posted by AlmightyIsis

Try to enjoy it though. I don't regret enjoying my pregnancy that ended in loss. It was a special time for me.

I've had three, and I feel exactly the same way about each of them.

FWIW - With my first pregnancy with my daughter - I was so sick for WEEKS! With my pregnancy with my son - no morning sickness at all. I'm sorry you're feeling so uneasy. I hope you can find some peace about it.