Okay, so I'm feeling better. Baby is asleep in the swing right now, my housekeepers are here for the first time since he was born, and I've slept decently for the past two nights. He has FINALLY finished his growth spurt, I think, which has my boobs even MORE out of whack, but at least I'm not nursing 20 minutes out of *every* hour!! He still isn't keen on being put down, which I would expect, except that for the first three weeks of his life, he slept so well on his own that it spoiled me!! Not nursing is DEFINITELY not an option for me. DH would hate me for not giving all of our kids the opportunity to nurse, and things aren't/weren't impossible, just frustrating and exhausting. I know that in three months I'll be glad that I can just roll over and nurse baby back to sleep and not get up to make a bottle. But right now, nursing is HARD!!
Kati, hon, I hope that you got to meet with the LC. I assure you that the issues you're having are not unique to you. With Samuel, he didn't latch on for 5 days and when he was 2.5 days old, we had a home visit with an LC. She said at this point he's so confused and frustrated at the breast that we should just bottle feed him formula while working with the SNS to convince him to nurse. I was NOT HAPPY to hear that.
: The good news is that we persevered and Samuel was breastfed for 20 months. Atley had a hellacious latch issue...he was (is?) a mouth breather and would suck, swallow, and unlatch to breathe. My nipples were so, so sore in the beginning! At about 10 weeks, it got better and he was breastfed for 15 months. Silas doesn't have any latch issues, but he is definitely a snacker and he wants access to the breast all day long (and all night long). That has presented its own issues. But like I said, I know that between 2 and 4 months, things will even out and I'll be glad to be nursing. Stick with it and you'll be glad you did.
Oh, and PLEASE don't let the ped talk you into formula for weight gain. If he even suggests it, run FAR FAR AWAY and find a new doctor. Two weeks is the gold standard, but it can take up to a month for baby to regain his/her birthweight, especially if mom has tissue trauma that her body is trying to fix in addition to making breastmilk.