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post #21 of 28
My DD is AA/white and has beautiful spiral curls down to her butt. It wasn't always that way! I worked with a bi-racial woman who had gorgeous curls and I finally asked her what to do. Her advice:

Wash hair with conditioner- not shampoo 1-2/wk

Rinse

comb out (spritz with water if starts to dry out during combing)

Apply regular or deep conditioner and LEAVE IT IN (not leave in cond.). Use as much as needed to make hair not feel dry. We use 3-4 half dollar size .

Style

Do not use oil sheen, or oil products. They will sit on top of the hair and just make it look dry and greasy at the same time.

Here is a pic of my daughter so you can see her hair.
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/inde...mageID=8950591

I don't usually let her wear her hair down to school (endless work when she gets home) but she insisted for picture day.

Hope this helps
post #22 of 28
Oops! The system kicked me out so I thought it didn't post. Sorry
post #23 of 28
I'm a fan of the CurlyQ's stuff too (curls.biz). My fave product they have is the moisturizing spray, nothing you can get at a store compares. If I am tight on money (b/c it can be pricey) I can skimp by on some cream from WalMart or something, but nothing I have tried can beat their spray. After I know I like a product, I get the bulk 32 oz sizes and you can save a couple of bucks doing that. We use almost the whole Curly-Q line b/c we like to expirament. My dd is white/black but has very loose curls (like Mariah Carey's when she doesn't straighten her hair) but they work on all curlies.

They have regimens posted on their site and a forum where you can ask questions and they respond with tips.
post #24 of 28

Crazy Hair

Hi all... I am new here so I do not know all of the abbreviations to bear with me. I am a white mama with a 1/2 AA baby with a FULL head of hair. The first thing the midwife said was "Look at all that hair!"

It is curly when wet and then when it dries it just stands straight up. I have been putting apricot baby oil in it and have also tried a curling product (Curl Up) but do not really want to use chemicals. With the oil it is just curly on the bottom and then the rest stands straight up. My partner's family has made some comments to me about her having "bad hair days" and suggested jojoba oil several times. I only wash it twice a week or so and have stopped combing it after washing and "scrunch" it instead but it still gets really wild.

I will try leaving in conditioner but other suggestions are welcome. I would *never* relax those gorgeous curls.

By the way, I think it looks adorable when it is standing up and I sometimes put a bow in it. I just don't want her to be embarrassed later in life if I don't learn how to do her hair. I have had other white mama friends with this issue. I realize I am out of my league here.
post #25 of 28
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Originally Posted by PDXmama77 View Post
Hi all... I am new here so I do not know all of the abbreviations to bear with me. I am a white mama with a 1/2 AA baby with a FULL head of hair. The first thing the midwife said was "Look at all that hair!"

It is curly when wet and then when it dries it just stands straight up. I have been putting apricot baby oil in it and have also tried a curling product (Curl Up) but do not really want to use chemicals. With the oil it is just curly on the bottom and then the rest stands straight up. My partner's family has made some comments to me about her having "bad hair days" and suggested jojoba oil several times. I only wash it twice a week or so and have stopped combing it after washing and "scrunch" it instead but it still gets really wild.

I will try leaving in conditioner but other suggestions are welcome. I would *never* relax those gorgeous curls.

By the way, I think it looks adorable when it is standing up and I sometimes put a bow in it. I just don't want her to be embarrassed later in life if I don't learn how to do her hair. I have had other white mama friends with this issue. I realize I am out of my league here.
How old is your baby? The reason I ask is because the hair texture may change. I am AA and my husband is Puerto Rican. My hair is as afro textured as it gets. It's about 10-12 inches long and shrinks to about 3 inches if I let it dry naturally. So, how dd came out with stick straight hair, I'll never know. Ok, she got it from her paternal grandmother. Anyway, at 6 mos, it began to curl up and now, at 3 years old I can leave it curly (asking for knots) or put it in pony tails which always relaxes her curls a lot and makes it look just wavy.

Point is, if the hair texture is still changing, I would only seek to keep it clean and moisturized rather than looking to "manage" it at this point.

Do not leave conditioner in her hair which is not designed as a leave-in. You otherwise run the risk of damaging the hair.
post #26 of 28
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Originally Posted by PDXmama77 View Post
By the way, I think it looks adorable when it is standing up and I sometimes put a bow in it. I just don't want her to be embarrassed later in life if I don't learn how to do her hair. I have had other white mama friends with this issue. I realize I am out of my league here.
Lol, the grass is always greener! I'm an AA mom with a bi-racial daughter whose thin, fine, dry, curly-straight-combo hair has me confounded. We call it her "soul mullet." She often gets a "nest" of tangles and some damage to her hair from rubbing her head against the car seat. To calm that down I've had good luck with Giovanni Smooth as Silk Deep Moisturizing Conditioner. Its ingredients are all natural and organic. I use it sparingly and rinse it out, but it might work as a leave-in for your DD. A satin pillowcase over the back of the carseat has helped, too.

If you're using shampoo when you wash your DDs hair you might want to stop, and see if you notice a difference in the results. If her hair and scalp are really dry, the shampoo might be stripping too much of her natural oils. One thing to be aware of as she gets older: AA hair can be more fragile and prone to damage from some sources that you might not be alert to. Stuff like improper combing, detangling and styling, hats that are too tight, or cotton pillowcases, to name a few. This is because of the dryness and structure of the hair shaft itself. Just keep your eyes peeled for strands that look roughed-up or frayed. That's your clue that you need to change the way you're handling her hair.

I haven't made the transition to natural products for me yet, but I've heard very good things about Carol's Daughter's products and Oyin Handmade products -- can't wait to try them, but spending $$ on my own 'do isn't a priority right now. In fact, I may cut it all off and rock a soul mullet of my own . . .

It sounds like you're on the right track, and your little one won't have anything to be embarrased about when she grows up if you just keep at it. In general, the better moisturized/hydrated her hair is, the healthier and happier her curls will be. For my own hair, it has taken a bunch of experimentation to find the right products and techniques.

Keep lovin' those baby curls, mama!
post #27 of 28

Thanks!

Thanks ladies! She is 9 weeks old and I am sure the texture will change. Right now her hair is slippery and soft. I guess my partner's hair was the same as a baby and then fell out and grew in coarser though his hair is still very soft. His fam calls it "the good hair."

I appreciate the feedback and will try the pillowcase on the car seat trick as that is always what messes them up just when I get them gorgeous.

Wow, I am really thinking twice about having used the word "managed" for her hair like it is something that has to be handled. I am not sure why it bugs me but it does.

Thanks again!!!
post #28 of 28
They sell organic and natural based baby proucts at curls.biz (The "It's A Curl! line)

and promo codes are often listed at this site:
http://www.retailmenot.com/view/curls.biz
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