I'm really conflicted here, so I could use some outside perspective.
My almost 4 year old has been begging for about 9 months to do a particular activity. I didn't think he was old enough, but last month we did decide to let him try it. He was very excited and enjoyed the first week. The second week, he didn't want to go, but once he went he had fun. This week, he threw an absolute fit about going, said he didn't like it, pretty much cried the entire time I was getting him ready and cried when I left him there (it is not something I can do with him). Of course I went to watch him and he had a great time, smiling, having fun. He came running out afterwards telling me how great he did, etc. Then on the way home, he doesn't like it and he doesn't want to go back. FWIW, today was an absolutely awful day, full of tantrums (from both of us
unfortunately).
I'm not for forcing my kids to do things they don't want to do, but at the same time, he asked for this, actually seems to enjoy it while he's there, and it's only 8 weeks. Right now I'm telling him that he asked to do this and that he needs to finish it and can choose never to do it again. But man, today, I seriously considered just walking away. I'm really not sure what to do.
On top of this, I'm pulling him from Kindermusik which we've been doing for a long time b/c his behaviour during it is so terrible and it's causing the 2 of us too much stress and conflict. He's a very spirited kiddo.
GAH, is 4 going to be worse than 3???? I feel like such a failure with him.
My almost 4 year old has been begging for about 9 months to do a particular activity. I didn't think he was old enough, but last month we did decide to let him try it. He was very excited and enjoyed the first week. The second week, he didn't want to go, but once he went he had fun. This week, he threw an absolute fit about going, said he didn't like it, pretty much cried the entire time I was getting him ready and cried when I left him there (it is not something I can do with him). Of course I went to watch him and he had a great time, smiling, having fun. He came running out afterwards telling me how great he did, etc. Then on the way home, he doesn't like it and he doesn't want to go back. FWIW, today was an absolutely awful day, full of tantrums (from both of us
unfortunately).I'm not for forcing my kids to do things they don't want to do, but at the same time, he asked for this, actually seems to enjoy it while he's there, and it's only 8 weeks. Right now I'm telling him that he asked to do this and that he needs to finish it and can choose never to do it again. But man, today, I seriously considered just walking away. I'm really not sure what to do.
On top of this, I'm pulling him from Kindermusik which we've been doing for a long time b/c his behaviour during it is so terrible and it's causing the 2 of us too much stress and conflict. He's a very spirited kiddo.
GAH, is 4 going to be worse than 3???? I feel like such a failure with him.
