I don't have time for a long reply right now, but I have been through all this! Diagnosed maybe a year and a half ago (though I have days I doubt the diagnosis still... then other days I am so completely sure of it!!)
I simply wanted to add that many people have to go through several meds or dosings to find what works for them, so you should try not to get discouraged if meds do not work out right away.
I started with wellbutrin- no difference, then couldn't sleep at all.
I tried concerta, hated it.
Tried Adderall, did not like it.
Went on Stratterra. It took a few weeks, but I saw a change. Mostly, I was just less frustrated, less annoyed, and as a bonus had much less PMS symptoms.
After a while, I started adding in Adderall, just a small dose twice a day. The combo works well for me.
I am a little worried about relying on the adderall for energy I have to admit. Meaning, I tend to just not be really "with it" until I take my adderall. Then again, I keep reminding myself I wasn't really "with it" until I had almost a pot of coffee.
I don't know what my feelings will be about adhd and meds etc in a year, for now this is working well for me.
Good luck to all of you!
If nobody has mentioned it, I love the book Women With ADD by Sari Solden. I have pretty much read it all by now, a couple pages at a time, and not in order lol.