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POLL--How we conceive  

Poll Results: How did you make your family? How are you trying?

 
  • 39% (60)
    Old fashioned way--married and lovin' it
  • 18% (28)
    Got pregnant and then got married
  • 17% (26)
    Got pregnant and left by father; now single
  • 5% (9)
    In a monogamous relationship; not married, but PG
  • 0% (1)
    Single with Donor Insemination--Known Donor
  • 0% (0)
    Couple with Donor Insemination--Known Donor
  • 3% (6)
    Single with Donor Insemination--Unknown Donor
  • 0% (0)
    Couple with Donor Insemination--Unknown Donor
  • 14% (22)
    Other
152 Total Votes  
post #1 of 43
4/4/02 at 6:11pm
Thread Starter 
Just curious as to how we all conceived or are TTC our children.
post #2 of 43
4/4/02 at 6:30pm

I picked married but...

I picked married because I've been married for the last four conceptions. I was, however, a single parent for four years. I got pregnant while still in high school and the father left me. I am now married to a wonderful man that has adopted my son and we have three other children and one on the way. So I wasn't sure if I should pick married or got pregnant and then married.

Amy
post #3 of 43
4/4/02 at 6:44pm
Pregnant at 19,married at 20.
post #4 of 43
4/4/02 at 7:09pm
Pregnant at 18 and married at 25 to a different man. I found out when we got back from our honeymoon that I was expecting.
post #5 of 43
4/6/02 at 8:42am
jasnjakes - I think you meant you found out you were expecting #2 when you got back from your honeymoon, right?

Tried and tried for years and years to get pregnant with ex-dh - we were together for 11 years, married for 3. I'm so glad I didn't get pregnant! Decided to try with current, and it took only 10 days! #2 is taking months and months, though.
post #6 of 43
4/6/02 at 8:57am
Ah,sweetie,I didnt know that.I hope it happens for you soon!
post #7 of 43
4/6/02 at 9:01am
It might help if my sex drive picked up a little! I keep psyching myself out every month, then the month goes by, and well...we ended up having sex like 3 times!
post #8 of 43
4/6/02 at 9:16am
Mine's been on vacation for the past 3 years,I'm surprised Willow's here actually.
post #9 of 43
4/6/02 at 10:19am
Ummm yeah, I didn't mean to sound like I had been pregnant for 7 years...(although I do love being pregnant )
post #10 of 43
4/9/02 at 11:32pm
We had planned to get married, the wedding dress was almost complete, the date, which had been set for over a year was a mere two months away. Aparently dd couldn't wait that long. We found out we were pregnant by chance. A friend of mine was in town, AF was late, food was tasting funny. I knew I was going to be partying over the weekend, so I took a pregnancy test because I thought something was awry. We had to alter the dress, but we kept the date, much to the dismay of my very conservative parents.
So technically we got pregnant and then got married, but our plan was to reverse the order.
post #11 of 43
4/10/02 at 1:12am
We were breaking up when I found out. Pretty sure we conceived on a "lets make this work" camping trip. Now we co-parent and are monogamous, but we don't live together. We argue less and have more fun when we are together. Gray, our one year old son, loves it when daddy comes over, and now Mommy does too.
post #12 of 43
4/10/02 at 1:36am
Married at 25 yo, baby boy at 28. Now going to TTC again this summer at 34!

Warmly~

Lisa
post #13 of 43
4/15/02 at 3:34pm
I answered the poll in the 'Other' category since (like blessedmamma) i found out i was pregnant during a time when my son's father and i had just gotten back together after being apart off and on for over three years.....we were not at a point where things were looking good relationship-wise and therefore when i found out i promptly had to break it off with him. I knew that our relationship would not work - that it had too many problems (mainly an inability to communicate effectively - and also the rather sad fact that i just wasnt in love with him....)

so anyhow i now have a five month old beautiful wonderful son - his father and i are in the process of figuring things out legally through mediation and are embarking on the challenging adventure of trying to coparent ......it will be a rocky road but i hope that we can make it work for our son's sake. We both love him dearly and this fact alone i think will help us through this. I guess this may sound slightly niave - i realize it will take alot more than just love to make this coparenting situation work well - but i believe that this love will help carry us through the tough times. At least i have to hope it will.....

monkeymama

(p.s. Blessedmama - i have pm'd you.....)
post #14 of 43
4/17/02 at 2:08pm
The poll is missing "got pregnant and LEFT the father" (married or not).

Legally married (the guy was in the military & we wanted to live together off-base) for practical reasons w/the understanding that it was meaningless (no vows or ceremony; a friend signed the space for "priest" on the hood of a car in the driveway) and would be dissolved if and when either of us wanted that. Then ended up pregnant, so tried to be "married" for the good of the baby... I got tired of him as he was immature & we were both too young to have a decent relationship so I left him.
post #15 of 43
4/17/02 at 2:10pm

With 1st husband...

I was preggers, then married. Got married 2 months after DS was born, and knew the entire time I shouldn't be doing it. Oh well, live and learn.

We separated when DS was 18 months, divorce was final when DS was three. I re-married in December 2000 and my dh is wonderful! We will not be having any more children though.

April
post #16 of 43
4/17/02 at 3:00pm
Did everything the "right way" ... married at 27, babies at 28 and 30 ... dh dead at 32. So now I'm a single mom anyway ~ go figure!
post #17 of 43
4/18/02 at 3:40pm
I'll be ttc with a willing-to-be known sperm donor in a couple of months again!

post #18 of 43
4/29/02 at 1:48am
Other because...
Pregnant at 19 w/ a guy I'd only known for 2 months (oops!!) and should never have gone with on a second date. Legally married, like alienmama's story, we signed the papers in between loads of laundry at the laundry mat. Tried to make it work until dd was 18mos. Finally came to my senses and became FREE (sort of) at 22...Met and married my best friend at 25, child #2 conceived 9 mos after wedding. Now I can happily attest that "first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in the baby carriage..." is the way to go....
post #19 of 43
4/30/02 at 2:55am
Other
In a monogamous relationship; not married got pg after dateing for 3 1/2 months Ended up M/C that baby and it took us a year to get Pg with DS...Marrage never came up its not something either of us want or need
post #20 of 43
4/30/02 at 3:27am
i was ( am still ) in an 8-goin-on-9 yr monogomous relationship with dbf. My pregnancy was a happy accident and a total surprise, though I had been filled with baby lust just prior...We have no plans to marry anytime soon.
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