Do you let your 4 yr old play alone with kids of the opposite sex? - Page 2

[muttmom92]

Thanks for all the replys! I'm really not normally an uptight person when it comes to anything sexual. DH and I had a brief talk with her just to let her know that she can say no to anything that makes her feel uncomfortable, especially with regards to her own body. She seemed to get it and said she wanted to kiss the boy.

So, DH and I said, "Kiss away!"

[jeteaa]

yes I let dd1 (4 yrs old) play alone w/ her one boyfriend. I know she and he are not exposed to anything inappropriate, such as adult TV, or IRL adult situations. So I feel that is they lay kiss etc, its innocent childs play, not trying to copy inoppropriate adult behavior.

[TiredX2]

It sounds like you've come to your own conculsion, so

That said, I do allow my kids to play with opposite sex playmates in their rooms (door open) with minimal supervision. DS is 7 and has many 2nd grade friends who are girls. It has never been brought to my attention that that was a problem with their parents (he had playdates with three of them in the past two weeks in fact).

Originally Posted by muttmom92

She told me they kissed on the lips. No, I wouldn't be concerned if the friend was a girl.

Can I ask why? Do you think that at that young of age there is already a male/female power dynamic? DS kissed one of his best friend (who was a boy) after all their playdates from when they were tiny until about 6 years (when they stopped playing together so much--- different schools, don't see each other as much). I had no problem with that.

[*LoveBugMama*]

I would let my son play as much alone with a girl as I would let him play alone with another boy. (I always stayed pretty close when he was that age, but had/have no problem regarding gender. )

[Jessy1019]

My 4 year old played, unsupervised, with boys and girls. She's approaching 6 now, and I wouldn't think to restrict something like that.

[Alyantavid]

I wouldn't worry about it. My oldest went through that stage and is now at the girls are icky stage.

My 2 year old has a girlfriend at daycare and they kiss sometimes. And hug and fight and so on. They're always completely supervised and I have no problem with it.

[nancy926]

My best friend was a boy, from the time I was 7 up until 14 or so. We did kiss on the lips once - "to see what it was all about" - but that was outside when we were with a group of other kids playing hide and seek. I would not worry about it. My DD (5.5 yrs old) has a couple of friends who are boys and it's never been an issue - door closed, door open, whatever.