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post #121 of 655
pleasantlyfurious, you are in my prayers.
post #122 of 655
pleasantly furious I am so sorry. Having just had a scary week with an emergency room visit, and having come out ok, I can only just imagine how devastated you are. You are in my heart and in my prayers.
post #123 of 655
Ellie, I hope your ultrasound on Tuesday puts your worries to rest. 110 isn't that much lower than 120 (which is all the HB should be at 7wks). :

PF, you are still in my thoughts. So very, very
post #124 of 655

dear PF

Pleasantly Furious - my heart is heavy for you and your loss - I am so sorry - my thoughts are with you - please take care, and you and DW take care of each other.
love and healing to you both,

Claire / Tireegal
post #125 of 655
pleasantlyfurious, I'm so very sorry for your loss. I had a m/c at 9.5 weeks on Aug. 1 and I know how devastating it is. I hope you heal well and take care of yourself.
post #126 of 655
PF,

So sorry for your loss. May you and your dp find peace as you move forward.
post #127 of 655
PF,
So sad and sorry to read your news. I do hope the healing process comes with ease. Take care of one another.
post #128 of 655
Brief update: Ultrasound this morning showed a normal, speedy heart rate of 160. This is what happens when you get too much early testing -- a lot of pain and anxiety. I'm extremely relieved, but still shaken. Just have to stay in each moment and have faith in nature to take its course. Easier said than done.

PF - Not sure if you're still reading in this difficult time, but I've been thinking of you and DP, and sending healing vibes....

to everyone.
post #129 of 655
PF,

I have written out several responses to your horrible news and keep deleting them because nothing I can say will express how sorry I am that your child is gone. If you ever need anything, please feel free to PM me. I lost my first pregnancy, too, and can understand some of how you are feeling. It's not fair.

I am very sorry for your loss. Give yourself time to heal -- it's been 9 months for me and not a single day has passed that I do not miss my first baby.
post #130 of 655
ellie...
I'm sorry you're feeling shaky. I understand completely, and just want to offer a gentle piece of advice; the more scared or nervous you feel, the less you should be on the internet. I find that I over-research everything and work up my anxiety. The best days are when I stay well away from the all-knowing, all-scaring web. And the fewer tests, the better!
So glad to hear that your little one's heart is a lub-lubbing away.
post #131 of 655
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Originally Posted by starling&diesel View Post
the more scared or nervous you feel, the less you should be on the internet.
Truer words have never been spoken. When it has to do with potential but undiagnosed problems, DO NOT ask Dr Google!!
post #132 of 655
Spend time researching cloth diapers. It is a VERY consuming task.
post #133 of 655
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Originally Posted by ellie74 View Post
Brief update: Ultrasound this morning showed a normal, speedy heart rate of 160. This is what happens when you get too much early testing -- a lot of pain and anxiety. I'm extremely relieved, but still shaken. Just have to stay in each moment and have faith in nature to take its course. Easier said than done.
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Great news!

I'm new to this thread btw Just 4 weeks and 2 days! Nervous but hopeful! Got a BFP my first try after m/c.....I'm interpreting that as I REALLY should have this baby Off to GP tomorrow to get blood work to check levels and 'confirm'.

It's nice to be here!
post #134 of 655
Welcome, Carmen! So glad to see you in here.

Thanks, everyone, for your excellent advice. I think DP is going to throw my laptop out the window next time she catches me searching for anything pregnancy related.

If Dr. Google were a real MD, I would have sued his/her ass a long time ago for constant misdiagnosis and horrible bedside manner.
post #135 of 655
Welcome, Carmen! Congratulations!
post #136 of 655
Welcome, Carmen! Glad you're here.

Ellie--I agree that too much time searching the net when you're already scared is a bad thing! I have to cut myself off frequently!

Had my first real OB visit today (had my two blood draws with my reproductive specialist last week--numbers look good!) and it was fairly uneventful. Will be having an u/s in two weeks, so dp will be joining me for that appt. Looking forward to seeing my little one! Anyone else out there with MTHFR? If you don't know, it's a clotting disorder. My OB assures me that I don't need to be on Lovenox...that my B vitamin therapy and baby aspirin are sufficient. Although I'm relieved....I'm also a little wary. I think I'd almost feel better if I was doing the Lovenox just to calm myself down! I'm with you, Ellie...scared stupid!
post #137 of 655
jody, my dp has mthfr heterozygous A1298C (yes, i'm a geek cause i can remember all of that off the top of my head). we had an re consult because she also has factor v leiden heterozygous and thyroid issues. she said because the mthfr and factor v leiden were both heterozygous and that her homocysteine wasn't elevated that a baby aspirin and extra b12 and folic acid should be sufficient. however, if she did have a m/c when we start trying she would recommend moving to lovenox for the first 12 weeks.

i guess it depends what version of mthfr you have. there's the less bothersome one which my dp has, then a compound one and homozygous. homozygous is the worst and would most definitely require lovenox and folgard or something similar. is your homocysteine elevated at all?

as info, i'm also factor v leiden heterozygous and took a baby aspirin a day up until 36 weeks and our son was carried to term with no issues.

good luck!
g
post #138 of 655
Thanks for the info, Indigo. I'm compound hetero for the MTHFR and my OB just feels that the research doesn't support the lovenox. I'm doing all the other stuff (baby aspirin, b vits) plus Prometrium. I just hope it's enough!
post #139 of 655
We just got back from the midwife's ... which is a overnight affair because she's in the city and we're in the boonies, several hours away. We always book up the rest of the day with visits to friends and family, and then we stay the night at my sister's place (where we hope to have our homebirth).

Can I just do a little dance for our midwife? She happens to rock, and very much so. She's a dyke, and the clinic of midwives is hoaching with more dykes, and they serve the gaybourhood full of dykes. It is a very dykeish world when we visit. I just love, love, love that she GETS us. She doesn't bat an eyelash at our butch/femme dynamic, she doesn't look cross-eyed with confusion when we use queer language, she gets every reference, and is in fact, a superhero in birkenstocks. We adore her.

Even DP, who is very reluctant to like anyone who has anything to do with the medical profession, alternative or not, said that if she ever wanted to come up to go fishing or skiing or whathaveyou, we'd love to have her stay over. Wow.

We are just so blessed. And the baby is cooking along wonderfully. We had a very boring ultrasound report, which is just how I like it.
post #140 of 655
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Originally Posted by ellie74 View Post
Brief update: Ultrasound this morning showed a normal, speedy heart rate of 160. This is what happens when you get too much early testing -- a lot of pain and anxiety. I'm extremely relieved, but still shaken. Just have to stay in each moment and have faith in nature to take its course. Easier said than done.
I agree that it is easier said than done! I am going in for a dating ultrasound next week (at 12 weeks), and I'm not looking forward to it. I didn't have one until 20 weeks last time. Glad to hear that your little beans heart is thumping along happily!


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Originally Posted by starling&diesel View Post
Can I just do a little dance for our midwife? She happens to rock, and very much so. She's a dyke, and the clinic of midwives is hoaching with more dykes, and they serve the gaybourhood full of dykes. It is a very dykeish world when we visit. I just love, love, love that she GETS us. She doesn't bat an eyelash at our butch/femme dynamic, she doesn't look cross-eyed with confusion when we use queer language, she gets every reference, and is in fact, a superhero in birkenstocks. We adore her.
So good to hear that you have a midwife that you adore! We are working with the same two midwives as last time, and our primary midwife is a dyke. When E was born she was also working with a student midwife, also a dyke. There are 6 other midwives in the practice, and some of them are dykes too. I get the impression that midwifery, like librarianship, is a profession that queers are drawn to.
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